Is resignation betrayal?

[MyGSXF:Me]

Joni.. have a read..

http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/sh...58&postcount=1

Jen

[Joni]

Well kick and I had a chat…. And without me telling him what my decision was, his call was the same as mine.

Analysed:
So I currently work for a company that I am not happy in.
I have a few options that I can look at, no guarantee that I get them, but at least I know there is potential.

The offer I got:
-The have given me a weekend to think it over, with no opportunity to consult Greg Jones, my personal business mentor.
- I might have to give up Kung Fu, as they don’t allow Flexi time and won’t let me come in early and leave a little earlier on a Monday and Wednesday.
- I have to wear a suit everyday/all day, my desk has to be spotless at all times. (pfft)
- I have to take a pay cut
etc etc etc and there are many etc's

Basically I will say thank but no thanks. I want to join a company where I can stay for a while and grow. They have showed no flexibility, and it seems its their way or no way…. I would rather listen to my boss fight and throw things around the office for a while longer, until I find people who appreciate the talent I have to offer and show that its give and take… flexibility is a great thing.

So I keep on looking… at least now I have worked through the feelings of guilt about leaving… and am ready to accept the right position, not just any position.

Thank you, quite a few of you have helped, and I have taken your advice on board.

[NZsarge]

Perhaps you need to give your current employers the learn on how uncomfortable their fighting and bullying is making things so they can make a choice as wether or not to modify their behaviour or you'll be off!

[chanceyy]

good on ya Joni .. still have to weigh up the options & bide ya time .. like all things in life.. good things do come to those who wait ..


gawd knows I have been waiting a long time .. but things are looking umm interesting at the moment

[Joni]

Perhaps you need to give your current employers the learn on how uncomfortable their fighting and bullying is making things so they can make a choice as wether or not to modify their behaviour or you'll be off!

Done that several times hun... and it does not change things.

However they are flexible, so I am prepared to wait till the right one comes.

[Nasty]

However they are flexible, so I am prepared to wait till the right one comes.

I have stayed in roles waiting for the right one ...and it does happen ... one thing you said in the last post was a 'pay cut' if I had seen that earlier I would have added inflexibility and less money .... take your job and @(#*$ it.

I think you have made a good well thought out decision .. even if you needed the KBers to help with the process.

[MSTRS:Me]

The offer I got:
-The have given me a weekend to think it over, with no opportunity to consult Greg Jones, my personal business mentor.
- I might have to give up Kung Fu, as they don’t allow Flexi time and won’t let me come in early and leave a little earlier on a Monday and Wednesday.
- I have to wear a suit everyday/all day, my desk has to be spotless at all times. (pfft)
- I have to take a pay cut
etc etc etc and there are many etc's

Basically I will say thank but no thanks.

The right decision. With one rider...'thanks etc' is not the term to be using.

[Wolf]

I will have to go and see clients, and they dont want me arriving on a bike... It is apparantly in the contract, which arrived 20 minutes ago, but I have not read, that I need to look polished and professional at all times...

Haha.

One morning, one of the more immaculately-attired professional women where I work (2-i-C, no less) remarked that my hair "always looks" better presented than hers.

I replied that as I wear a helmet to work, I arrive with a serious case of helmet hair, so the first thing I do after clambouring out of my riding gear is comb my hair.

Occasionally (OK, rarely) I have to dress up above "Corporate Casual" level - I have a suit jacket at work and it's a small matter to arrange to change clothes when I get to work (the OTHER use for the toilets).

I know far more professional guys than me who ride bikes to work and look the picture of Corporate Elegance when at work.

[Brett]

I have just been through a similar experience when I resigned 5 weeks ago from a company that was absolutely brilliant. The understanding that I came too was that you need to do what is right for you in your situation and not to be guilty about it or worry about your career. Do your best not to burn bridges, who knows...it may only be a season and when things settle down you could end up back there? Having a shot at a new career is always exciting and fun and we all need a change every now and again.

Don't put up with them offloading their personal garbage into your life. If you have to spend a 3rd to half your day at work...make it something that you enjoy! You owe them no loyalty when they don't show you due respect.

[Joni]

Exactly Wolf!!!

I agree.

Just as clarification - Its in the contract that I have to look 100% at all times, however the bike bit was told to me face to face, that its not a good look for me to arrive at clients on a bike... they want all staff to be polished and presentable at all times! So i.e. a woman on a bike is not polished in her opinion.

[carver]

I don’t often write about personal stuff on KB… but I wanted to get some thoughts, as I am really mulling over something.

About a year ago I joined a company after they head hunted me quite aggressively. In the beginning all was ok, as it always is as everyone is at their best behaviour…

However slowly but surely the Director and her husband (the Financial Manager) started to fight, until after a few months very personal stuff was being aired in the office. This has never settled down… however a few months ago they started treating me like that as well… slightly aggressive, abusive and quite personal which I feel is way above the level of standard professional courtesy.

Through being upset about it and mulling of a career change, I eventually started looking for another position and have now been offered something that will open the doors for me in what I want to do in the future.

However, now all of a sudden I feel so stink… when my boss is not fighting, she is a damn nice lady and I get on with her really well… its just at times she is a genuine bully. But I feel so guilty about telling her about my decision… that I am trying to get out of doing it Monday.

Phew!

So my loyalty is something that I pride myself in… but when does loyalty need to step back for self preservation??

Oh dear… I feel like a traitorous shit!
Am I being a big softie again?

ah..been here before!
leave, you will be a better person for it..
once you have left you will see what you left behind..

[Wolf]

So i.e. a woman on a bike is not polished in her opinion.

Fah! just need to choose the right accessories to go with the riding leathers...

[Coldrider]

Exactly Wolf!!!

I agree.

Just as clarification - Its in the contract that I have to look 100% at all times, however the bike bit was told to me face to face, that its not a good look for me to arrive at clients on a bike... they want all staff to be polished and presentable at all times! So i.e. a woman on a bike is not polished in her opinion.

The prospective employer is already pushing you into the mould they want you in.
I ride my bike to work, receptionists reckon I look like a gladiator ready to do battle, with helmets, armour & such. I am 'pristine' underneath.
If you work for small companies you get small time bitchiness, if you work for large companies you get politics, you have to work out what you can handle or deal with, with me it's multi nationals all the way, there is always something to develop, improve or adapt, it gives something positive to focus on when all the crap flies around.
We spend far too much time at work to be unhappy.
Look after number one.

[Joni]

NOw the new company have sent me a lovely bunch of flowers - saying they hope i join the team as I would be an awesome team member...

I feel stink all over again now

[Scouse]

NOw the new company have sent me a lovely bunch of flowers - saying they hope i join the team as I would be an awesome team member...

I feel stink all over again now

Tell them to shove their flowers up their arse