What the hell am I doing? Surely this is not real life?

[Antallica]

Feeling extra shitty tonight and need have a release.

Started working at Mitre10 full time the other week. Was definitley not the job I was ever going to go after (not many decent jobs going here), but as I was getting close to being told to work at Macca's by WINZ (was on benefit) here I am, working at Mitre10 in Hardware/Power Tools.

I work a 2 week roster, 50hrs & 34hrs. Have every 2nd weekend off & one day off each week. Have no time for my other half, this job is really taking a toll on my relationship too.

Plus I'm stuck in this town, and I can't even do what I'm trained to do (I.T.). My darling has said if I really want to move to Aucks or whatever then "lets go" as she's a bit unhappy in her job as well. Bit skeptical on her handling a bigger town.

So yeah, I've got some real issues here, but who hasn't right? I'm sure more than a few of you feel the same in their work, and that I should just suck it in and work my ass off?

Shit, not really feeling any better after this rant after all. And don't even mention the bike, fuckin thing's turning into a liability each week.

I know for a fact almost everyone else works harder than me in whatever profession. No offence intended to you or your current lifestyle. Peace out.

[Antallica]

Shit that guy has issues alright

But seriously, if anyone knows of any kind of work/career that could be interesting please let me know.

I'm seriously ready to blow this town for a better life.

[StoneChucker]

At the moment, I wake up tired and annoyed and spend all day at work watching the clock to go home lol... I think it may be other things going on at the moment, not necessarily work. So, what I'm trying to get at is, stick it out for a while, until you're sure that it is infact work that is the main problem. If you decide to move, make sure it's a completely joint idea, as if it's not, things will get a whole lot tougher.

While you are working, keep on looking for another job, sending out CV's, phoning companies, the whole nine yards... Another thing to look at is, often you can start in a company doing something really cruddy, and over time, move up and/or across the company ladder, possibly ending up somewhere more to what you had in mind. Thats what happend in my case, although I'm still a few rungs of the ladder away from where I want to be

[Ms Piggy]

Hey Matey,
Hang in there. It is a HUGE adjustment you've made. Maybe you and your fiancee need to sit down and work out a strategy for spending time together and also being able to get stuff done. I dunno if you used to see each other heaps but it's possibly a luxury most people don't have. I could be wrong so please choose to ignore what I just said if it's

I dunno but I reckon if you've just started the job try to stick at it for at least 6 months and then maybe start trying to apply for jobs in Akld. After 6 months you'll have a reference and a work record. If you leave now you'd have squat. If you're unemployed in Akld you'll be unhappier b/c chances are you'll also be worse off financially.

[Antallica]

SC: Yeah I know mate, I just don't feel this is my calling and it sure isn't what I am trained for and not really even interested in. As for joint decision, I have the go ahead as of before I started this thread. We both feel the same way in reality. I'm 80% sure it's the job, we'll see anyway. Can't just up and leave work anyway.

Also me working such shit hours I haven't even got time to look for work let alone travel to look better. Looking at the newspaper and online is so limited.

CSL: I'll be married in 6 months & even worse off financially, need to slot myself somewhere good like, now.


As mother has said, "Welcome to my world". I guess I just gotta put my head between my legs and kiss my bum goodbye.

So far, so good, so what!?

Teenagers are too ill-prepared for life. What has this world come to when all we live for is to work, just so we can hand over our hard earned cash to the ever increasing cost of life?

BULLSHIT!

[StoneChucker]

I know what you mean about having no time to do anything. I start at the annoying time of 9am, and finish whenever, up to 9pm. It's tough sometimes.
Count yourself BLOODY LUCKY though. As far as I'm concerned, since you've got someone to share this life with, however cruddy it may seem at the moment (life that is), you're alot richer than some.

[Ms Piggy]

CSL: I'll be married in 6 months & even worse off financially, need to slot myself somewhere good like, now.

Did you ever think that maybe that's not a realistic idea at the moment. Sorry Ant - I don't mean to sound harsh or dismissive I can sympathise with your plight but slooooooow down, take a step back and make a plan.

Why will you be worse off once you're married? Aren't you both working?

Just don't make any rash decisions, plan things through. You and your future wife have got your whole lives to stuff it up but if you make some hard but right choices now you'll be set later.

[Antallica]

Yeah I might have just panicked there, it's just that I have debts and so does she. We're both working, but she's part time. Budgeting in this century is a bitch.

[Ms Piggy]

Yeah I might have just panicked there, it's just that I have debts and so does she. We're both working, but she's part time. Budgeting in this century is a bitch.

I hear ya buddy. So maybe that needs to be your 1st plan, pay off the bills and enjoy what you got. Hang in there dearie.

[StoneChucker]

Budgieing, fudgeting, bludgeting, hell I can't make out what you're on about I live from month to month, so long as the bank balance stays around the same (I'm not TRYING to save at the moment)

I tried once, I even have the excel sheet to prove it, I just can't be bothered. The extra bowl latte at the flying fish, after a ride to martinborough is impossible to plan for. Oh, and the extra tank of gas to get there. Sometimes if I have money spare, I buy food and shit...

[Antallica]

Yeah mate, I have the Excel budget too, easier on paper/pixels.

[Al]

Antillica, this might or might not give some insight or courage to face another "retail" day:
We arrived in NZ in 2002 and landed in Akl, wherer all the jobs are (yeah, right!). My wife got a job very quickly (accountant with 2 degrees) and since I am a Metallurgist, specialising in Aluminium, no job for me, Invercargill is too far and too cold.
So, started working at Dick Smith Electronics.... never hated anything as much as that job, every night I would scan job sites and send out CVs, went on for 6 months and I got the job I have now, not in my line of work but a lot better prospects.
Don't give up or become despondent, things have a way of sorting themselves out (eventually).
Hang in there buddy, talk to and with your girlfriend and sort out things before you get married and before you have kids.

Al

[カワサキキド]

Get the hell out of the country for a bit, help put things into perspective, don't worry about money just scape up enough for a ticket and some accomadation and go!

[bluninja]

You need a good life coach you do

This may or may not make you feel better....I've returned to the UK cos my wife and kids missed the family in the yUK. Though I had 18 years experience in IT service and people management and had run a successful coaching company in NZ I was unable to get a position in the weeks leading to the return home....or since. I took a mortgage advisor position to improve my face to face and phones sales....and left when the money never materialised. An IT contract rolling out windows 2000 to 1000 workstations was pulled after 4 weeks and I am now scraping a living driving a taxi. Still I am debt free and my 3 kids are still clothed and fed, and my wife of 19 years still loves me ahhhhhh Oh yeah and I have an RSVR that's all mine...shame I can't afford to insure it.

I will return to coaching as it's what sets me on fire, I'm good at it, and the financial return will not be as bad as driving drunks every night.

BTW my wife and kids have come to the realisation that NZ is far better for us than UK. Sadly it will take time and money to plan the return......unless I found a job that I could just fly over to and start on.

[Antallica]

Yeah, just gotta suck it in and do this for a while eh.

Hard being a completely IT guy trying to do something completely different. Ahh well, just gotta enjoy it as much as possible. The people are mostly sweet anyway.