Treasure your Grandparents

**Big Dan** · 8th July 2007, 20:21

I was at home yesterday it was another normal saturday for me then the phone rang it was my mother informing me that my grandad is ill i say how bad dredding the worse which she confirms he has cancer then she had to go so i was wondering how bad things were and then went to see him today and to be further told that he could die any minute.

I don't really know why i'm writing this but i dont want others to make the mistake and not make every second count when they are with their elders you never know if it maybe the last time you see them

do thoses that have lost one of there grandparents i know its hard as i lost my nana years ago and i know it is going to be a hard time ahead and i know ther are looking down on us

take care and love everyone ppl
Dan

**007XX** · 8th July 2007, 20:28

Real sorry to hear this dan, and yes, you are quite correct...it is VERY important to value people while they are alive...

I've lost 3 out of 4 grandparents to cancer, and was living overseas at each time, with no means financially to fly out and visit them...but I called and made sure to tell them how much I loved them.

Take care of him and of yourself.

**BuFfY** · 8th July 2007, 20:33

Is amazing how cancer makes you look at everything differently (and I should know right!).
I hope you get to spend a lot of time with them before they pass. My grandad died of cancer when I was younger but luckily the whole family was there right up untill the end.
Best wishes to your family, it is never easy

**MotoGirl** · 8th July 2007, 20:34

I hear what you're saying. One day they're here and the next they're gone. No advance warning, it just happens. Although it hurts like hell, it's a bit more bearable if you get the chance to say goodbye...

**Big Dan** · 8th July 2007, 20:35

Originally Posted by 007XX

Real sorry to hear this dan, and yes, you are quite correct...it is VERY important to value people while they are alive...

I've lost 3 out of 4 grandparents to cancer, and was living overseas at each time, with no means financially to fly out and visit them...but I called and made sure to tell them how much I loved them.

Take care of him and of yourself.

yeah when i lost my nana i was at her place to be with her in her final days and the family was great it pulled together when i left him today i told him i loved him

**Big Dan** · 8th July 2007, 20:38

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Is amazing how cancer makes you look at everything differently (and I should know right!).
I hope you get to spend a lot of time with them before they pass. My grandad died of cancer when I was younger but luckily the whole family was there right up untill the end.
Best wishes to your family, it is never easy

thank you my mum flew up from welly yesterday and went back down today and it tears me up that it might have been her last time with him

**Pussy** · 8th July 2007, 20:39

Spend as much time with him as you can, Dan. I had a phone call from my Mum in late 1990, saying Grandad was crook in hospital, but not to rush over, he will probably be okay. He died two days later, and I have deeply regretted ever since that I didn't go visit him. Always remember that your grandparents were once fit dignified young people, and that we owe them heaps. Take care

**Big Dan** · 8th July 2007, 20:42

Originally Posted by Pussy

Spend as much time with him as you can, Dan. I had a phone call from my Mum in late 1990, saying Grandad was crook in hospital, but not to rush over, he will probably be okay. He died two days later, and I have deeply regretted ever since that I didn't go visit him. Always remember that your grandparents were once fit dignified young people, and that we owe them heaps. Take care

yeah i will be making sure that i se him every second day and call him reguarly

**007XX** · 8th July 2007, 20:42

Originally Posted by Big Dan

yeah when i lost my nana i was at her place to be with her in her final days and the family was great it pulled together when i left him today i told him i loved him

Good on you...we each deal on our own ways with situation like these. Respect to you for how you're doing it.

**Big Dan** · 8th July 2007, 20:50

Originally Posted by 007XX

Good on you...we each deal on our own ways with situation like these. Respect to you for how you're doing it.

cheers

just had my first cry about it kinda helped

**T-Thunder13** · 8th July 2007, 20:50

its somthing we all have in common.and it sux. but chin up bro! and think of the good times

**Big Dan** · 8th July 2007, 20:52

Originally Posted by T-Thunder13

its somthing we all have in common.and it sux. but chin up bro! and think of the good times

its up but its been a shitty 12 months for me with losing my best mate in december and an aunty a few months ago but i can see tougher times are ahead

**007XX** · 8th July 2007, 20:56

Originally Posted by Big Dan

cheers

just had my first cry about it kinda helped

I'm not saying now...but when you're ready...PM or post a thread and we can organise a ride to celebrate life, your grandpa's life...If you want of course!

It does wonder for one's state of mine to think of the good things. Just a thought, wouldn't presume to tell you what to do.