What happened to my friends?

[BIGBOSSMAN]

What happened to my friends?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVlkZVAw8Gc

[MSTRS:Me]

One of life's lessons is that nothing stays the same. Being able to maintain a friendship longterm is a precious gift that all too few people possess. Because we tend to get friendly with people who have similar interests, it's not surprising that those friendships don't survive a change of circumstance. A true friend will always be just that, no matter what life brings. I am lucky enough to have one of those and have had since 1974. Sometimes we don't see or hear from each other for years at a time, but sooner or later our paths cross and it's like no time has passed. I feel blessed. We are fortunate that our respective wives also share this good fortune, since it is often the case that a (new) partner changes a long term dynamic and it's 'see ya later'.
Cherish the friends you have, work at the relationship, and remember that it is not a case of what they can do for you (or you for them) but rather a case of treating the friendship almost as an entity in it's own right.

[LilSel]

People seem so busy with their work and own lives that maintaining friendships almost seems a burden in some cases. I can qualify this statement from my own experiences too, as by the time I've finished my work, exercise, study, cooking, spending time with my girlfriend etc. how many hours are left?

I hear ya buddy!!!... I am a culprit of the above... Have just started my new job on monday this week... I have been neglecting those close to me not on purpose of course... thing is... I know that its happening... There just isn't much I can do about it right now. *sigh*... be good when things settle down n I can get back on the n be back to my normal social butterfly self. Hang in there dude. It'll be all good

[Finn]

Money can't buy happiness and all that aye? It's easy to feel dissatisfied with what you have when you are always looking at what others have that you don't...the old Keeping up with the Jones' mindset I guess.

That's what all the losers without money say. Try posting something original next time.

[Mom]

I buried my best friend almost 10 years ago. She was one of those never to be repeated mates that even now I sometimes miss as much as I did when she died.

That being said I am fortunate to have real friends, some of whom I dont see for months on end, but when we catch up it is like yesterday we last spoke. Some of them give me shit on here, but i still love them.......LOL

Get out there, be confident in yourself, be honest there are any number of people out here to get to know and become friends with you mate!

[Dave-]

yeah me too, noticed this trend.

had a good solid base of mates at my old work for about a year we fucked around, had beers on saturday night after work, saw movies etc

then it started to fall apart.

then i left...and I've barely seen them in about the 2 months since, a few other guys left too but i dunno how they're going.

making new mates at my new work though and I wonder if they'll only last a year?

then you start to worry if it's you "ahhh maybe no one likes me?" which is perfectly normal in any relationship.

anyone wanna get smahed in town on saturday night?

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

i find it amazing how many people here i can identify with and always thought of it as 'my problem for emmigrating here on my own'. i have found it extremely difficult to make new friends here in marlborough, acquaintances yes, but that extras step to friend seems to be a giant leap. im happy to put the effort in to make the trip to see people, or text or call, but when you 'wake up' and see that its 95%effort from you to keep in touch then you realise you dont get out what you put in here. my best friends here are actually my husband and wife bosses! like most good things in life, you dont miss them until they are gone.

I fly to Blenhiem on 26 Dec arrive 6.20am!! have to wait 3 hours at the airport until my bus arrives!! At that time of the morning I respond well to coffee lol - crikey it might even wake me up enough to converse. See you then - don't worry I'm joking!! lol

[Macstar]

Thanks again guys for your comments. I landed a new job today which is great (starting in Jan). I'm hoping my new work mates will be great (cause it's a high pressure / lot of travel type of job and I think I'm going to have even less time now to socialise outside of work).

[cowpoos]

That's what all the losers without money say. Try posting something original next time.

it sure as hell lets you choose your misery though eh!!!