Wanted: a serious relationship

**Drew** · 1st January 2008, 09:27

Can somebody please find the depression thread for this bird to post in??? And then could a mod find a way for it not to pop up in the spy function. I'm having real trouble biting my toung every time this dribble scrolls down the screen.

**NZsarge** · 1st January 2008, 09:36

Originally Posted by Drew

Can somebody please find the depression thread for this bird to post in??? And then could a mod find a way for it not to pop up in the spy function. I'm having real trouble biting my toung every time this dribble scrolls down the screen.

Move on and don't read it then, simple eh...

**ynot slow** · 1st January 2008, 09:47

Shit I'd love to know what I know now when I was 22 or so.Life sucks at times.Was similar situation with age you think you need.At the time my g/f was turning 19 the same day my ex wife was 39,(me 37)and funnily the age didn't matter much,except the part where she was using me as a sperm donor,lol.Saw that and we both (me)said it aint working,well she wasn't either so I was a sponge,when she wanted money to buy a friend a drink,if I said let her buy her own the moody, pouty,sulky shit started,so yep just move on.If it helps the more you want to find someone it might happen,but won't work,it will happen when you least expect it. Start the year fresh,but don't just grab the rebound guy.Nothing is nicer than sleeping(not sex)with one you care for.Sounds stupid but with our sex era that is what we base the guy/girl on first,not the getting to know you over a couple of meetings,old fashioned maybe but might work,had the 1 night or short fling,as long as it's taken as such.And if your not old and decrepid you are allowed to live,why settle down at such a young age,I did and do regret it,mind you two beaut girls is something good from that saga.

**Bikernereid** · 1st January 2008, 09:56

Can be stupid and not realise what they have. My advice, which I am not saying is right, is to not look for a bloke because when you don't they just seem to fall in your lap. I met the most amazing Kiwi when I wasn't looking. Be happy and true to yourself and the rest should follow. Good luck wiht which ever path you choose.

Originally Posted by sunhuntin

wellup, i made an attempt to patch things back up, and got politely dumped for my efforts [makes a difference to just being ignored like im used to... the txts just stop and thats that.] hurts like hell cos i thought i saw a future with this guy. he wants something easy and no promises.
pity, cos he was basically my perfect guy too. attractive in my eyes, but not so much in anyone elses. turns out even that isnt enough to stop me from feeling threatened... and essentially was the downfall.
after 3 years of seeing guys for fun, my heart was ready to love again. i foolishly let it happen and am hurting for that foolishness.

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice. im also sick of having relationships where i cant walk up and hug, kiss and hold hands whenever i like. sick of having hidden relationships, where we are friends only due to what others might think. [who gives a shit what others think?!]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and be happy to take the occasional pillion. a go fast bike would be a plus as well, as well as living close-ish to wangas. must also be comfortable with an age gap. non drinker and non smoker a plus, but not essential. drug free is a must.

**NZsarge** · 1st January 2008, 10:18

Good luck to you Sunhuntin, I really should'nt be commenting coz I don't know stuff all about this sort of thing but that never stopped me before so....
How about looking at "08 as a new start

, take time and chill out, just get comfortable about being on your own again and as people are saying enjoy and socialize and you just never know.
Enjoy family and friends, go out on KB rides and non KB rides if you must

and go with the flow.

**Rashika** · 1st January 2008, 10:23

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

Relationships with pets.....now that is a worry......

smartarse!

...but they can be some of the most rewarding platonic relationships you can have

and one of the benefits is that they do often get you out of a bad mood and out meeting people

**Pussy** · 1st January 2008, 10:30

Originally Posted by Rashika

...but they can be some of the most rewarding platonic relationships you can have

and one of the benefits is that they do often get you out of a bad mood and out meeting people

Gotta agree. You can have a shit of a day.... but come home and have your cat rub against your leg, and everything doesn't seem so bad

**Grahameeboy** · 1st January 2008, 11:02

Originally Posted by Rashika

smartarse!

Who me??

...but they can be some of the most rewarding platonic relationships you can have

and one of the benefits is that they do often get you out of a bad mood and out meeting people

True have a Cat and a Rabbit.......oh and Dan!!

................

**Grahameeboy** · 1st January 2008, 11:03

Originally Posted by Drew

Can somebody please find the depression thread for this bird to post in??? And then could a mod find a way for it not to pop up in the spy function. I'm having real trouble biting my toung every time this dribble scrolls down the screen.

Well appears you have already bitten it cause you cannot spell it....

**chanceyy** · 1st January 2008, 11:33

Originally Posted by sunhuntin

i spent last night just thinking... i went to a friends place and watched a movie... got some physical contact that i was badly craving. his brain and my brain are basically identical... we were talking, and i swear that he was reading my mind. totally amazing.

i feel as though a part of me is missing now. my now ex, i didnt realise how much he meant to me. i missed him so bad when i went down south, and it was like heaven when i saw him again. i miss him badly today, and cannot see what the next few weeks will bring. i havent eaten in 3 days.
i hate the fact that he started something for what is now no reason. i truly felt there was something there, and i was ready for it.

i just want him back

do you really want him back .. or is it a case of going back to wot you know ?? thats no reason to look backwards .. always face the front girl & keep looking ahead ... there are way plenty more fish in the sea ..

also to refer back to you first thread when you said something along the lines that you were sick of having to hide your relationship, could not hold hands in public etc...

was that cause you felt uncomfortable with ppls perceptions of your relationship or cause he felt uncomfortable & didn't want to acknowledge it ??

all I wanted to say charlie is everyone deserves the best .. never settle for seconds, & if they do not want to acknowledge & be proud to be with you then you need to kick them to the kerb & be with someone who wants to be with you, cherish the relationship you have & be proud of it ...

as has been alluded to before an older person gets set in their ways .. so if they are still single its prob a choice not circumstances ... you can never change a person & so go into eyes wide open realising that it is a lifestyle choice they have made .. & they are not likely to change it that late in life ...

**Disco Dan** · 1st January 2008, 11:38

Originally Posted by sunhuntin

wellup, i made an attempt to patch things back up, and got politely dumped for my efforts [makes a difference to just being ignored like im used to... the txts just stop and thats that.] hurts like hell cos i thought i saw a future with this guy. he wants something easy and no promises.
pity, cos he was basically my perfect guy too. attractive in my eyes, but not so much in anyone elses. turns out even that isnt enough to stop me from feeling threatened... and essentially was the downfall.
after 3 years of seeing guys for fun, my heart was ready to love again. i foolishly let it happen and am hurting for that foolishness.

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice. im also sick of having relationships where i cant walk up and hug, kiss and hold hands whenever i like. sick of having hidden relationships, where we are friends only due to what others might think. [who gives a shit what others think?!]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and be happy to take the occasional pillion. a go fast bike would be a plus as well, as well as living close-ish to wangas. must also be comfortable with an age gap. non drinker and non smoker a plus, but not essential. drug free is a must.

Sunhuntin, relationships are certainly a strange thing to a lot of people.

I too have spent 2 years 'having fun' after being engaged - then on the day of the wedding she never showed. I am ready to love again, have had a couple of relationships that I thought would be long term - only to find out the other person only wanted me for my bike or my man bits. There is a lot of good people out there, people that are genuine, honest, loyal and sincere about their intentions. But there is also a lot of people that only want to fool around and/or brag to their friends about their 'trophy'. Quite sad.

The important thing is not to give up.

There are millions of people in this world. If you seem to keep meeting the same genre of men you need to make a change - look in new places.

I often say to clients of mine that you cant keep doing the same thing and expect different results! Keep going to the same old pubs, clubs, parties and you will meet the same old people. Do something different, make a change.

And keep your chin up! When I met you I could tell you are a good person - its part of my job to analyze people

**AllanB** · 1st January 2008, 11:44

My advice, which I am not saying is right, is to not look for a bloke because when you don't they just seem to fall in your lap.

Face down no doubt!

**davo** · 1st January 2008, 16:43

Originally Posted by Fatjim

Simple facts of life, there's three types of people in the world (no, not dicks, pussys and arseholes)

1. Guys pretty much just want the sex. Even if they get serious its only so they don't have to go out trawling for it.

2. Chiks pretty much want the..... well I don't really know what they want, but sex is the price they're usually willing to pay.

3. Nymphomanics.

I gotta point out this isn't always true. Im a 25 yo guy and I just want to settle down with someone, sex is nice but having someone to hold and share life with would count for more to me at the moment.

**DMNTD:Me** · 1st January 2008, 16:49

Originally Posted by davo

I gotta point out this isn't always true. Im a 25 yo guy and I just want to settle down with someone, sex is nice but having someone to hold and share life with would count for more to me at the moment.

Bro...are you lactating?