Sexual question

[ManDownUnder]

If a normal, healthy guy in his twenties can't provide enough erections to get you off, then the problem isn't his - it's yours. You're either not turning him on in the first place, or you yourself are relatively unresponsive.

LOL... or (wait for it)... he might not know what he's doing... and how could that be addressed??? hmmm???

[Blue Velvet]

If a normal, healthy guy in his twenties can't provide enough erections to get you off, then the problem isn't his - it's yours. You're either not turning him on in the first place, or you yourself are relatively unresponsive.

I believe there was reference to pharmaceuticals affecting Trump-Lady's man's sex drive. If I'm not mistaken, and that is the case, then it has nothing to do with Trump-Lady's ability to arouse her man.

$0.02

[vifferman]

LOL... or (wait for it)... he might not know what he's doing... and how could that be addressed??? hmmm???

Or there are performance issues - worrying about how he is doing is making his performance worse.

[jrandom]

Are you talking about yours or his?

I'm doing what we all do when we attempt to form a model of someone else's motivations - projecting my own onto his.

And I'm not ashamed to admit to plenty of emotional fragility when it comes to intimacy and sexual performance.

he might not know what he's doing... and how could that be addressed???

... perhaps not by destroying his self-confidence and turning him into a well-whipped slave to the pussy?

[jrandom]

... it has nothing to do with Trump-Lady's ability to arouse her man.

Once again, I can only speak from personal experience, but any woman who takes a demanding approach to sexual activities can almost be guaranteed to turn me right off.

But, hey, that's just me. Maybe that's what does it for this fulla?

[ManDownUnder]

Increased bloodlflow to the nethers or somesuch.

Yup - I understand that's how it works or (saving money) it can be done orally.

I can not stress enough - there's a shiteload of stuff to learn... an ab-so-lute TON to learn, and I would love the chance to learn more (happily married man flag waving here...).

I say it again... anyone not wanting to learn, or thinking they know it all are idiots... and are missing out.

[ManDownUnder]

... perhaps not by destroying his self-confidence and turning him into a well-whipped slave to the pussy?

*sigh*... you're a bright boy but you're rowing against the tide dude.

We're not talking about classroom setting type lessons here. Get yourself a copy of the lover's guide on DVD, watch it with she who you enjoy bump and grind with... and as stuff comes up...talk.

Learn learn learn. It'll start those conversations that will only lead good places.

[trump-lady]

Depends entirely on the manner and context in which said communication occurs.

"No, do that. No, do this. Do this now, do that now. Yes, keep doing that. Right. Good."

The way you describe your relationship makes it sound like you issuing a series of instructions, and this poor twenty-something-year-old fretting so badly over how the fuck he's supposed to carry out all that shit that he's off at the doctor begging for stay-hard pills.

You do realise, don't you, that it's very odd for a guy that young to feel any need for pharmaceutical assistance?

If a normal, healthy guy in his twenties can't provide enough erections to get you off, then the problem isn't his - it's yours. You're either not turning him on in the first place, or you yourself are relatively unresponsive.

I could be completely wrong (and I hope I am) but your comments so far (including those in another thread where you went on about how you ogle random men on the street) give me a strong suspicion that this toyboy of yours is actually rather unhappy, and that you're rather oblivious.

JD I know your angry and taking my post about my partner personal because you feel I am attacking him. Some men are OK with such comments and some dont think that learning and listening is being a "bitch" I for example am quite happy if thats your definition to say
I AM MY MANS BITCH.

This thread started about 30 somethings having a sexual revival. As for the trying to slander me with the google 20 somethings. It was in this thread and was relative to the subject do women have a sexual revival after 30 and was used as an example. In fact I think I also said I dont act on that I have someone who pleases me.

Please dont twist this. I didnt ask him to go get the pills he took it apon himself because he wants to please me. We have discussed it and like I said in a previous post his confidence has encreased not just sexually but in alot of other ways too.

Im not going to go back and forth with you on this. Your opinion is noted and I understand you have taken my comments as an attack on my partner which you are entittled too. In that I can see, why your perturbed and judging me.

However you have been quite frequent on this thread and I would have thought you would have understood my intentions a little more. In this particular thread to help explain myself it has been neccesary to explain my own situation which you should note I did not bring up my partner until way into the thread started.

[007XX]

I'm doing what we all do when we attempt to form a model of someone else's motivations - projecting my own onto his.

And I'm not ashamed to admit to plenty of emotional fragility when it comes to intimacy and sexual performance.





... perhaps not by destroying his self-confidence and turning him into a well-whipped slave to the pussy?

Then along the same line of honesty and candour, may I just say that the negative pattern you see things framed in is not the only way things can be...

You and I have had this conversation a couple of times now, haven't we?

I hate to break it to you, but yes, there are couples out there who do properly communicate with one another, take part in really exciting "taboo" sexual practices, (insert all the tings that Jrandom has a bug in his ear about)... and still have healthy and loving relationships.

Because it doesn't fit your (obviously damaging) experience doesn't mean it is not possible or that it's wrong.

Each to their own, & live and let live my young friend.

Off home now...toodles

[jrandom]

*sigh*... you're a bright boy but you're rowing against the tide dude.

It's my specialty!

Get yourself a copy of the lover's guide on DVD, watch it with she who you enjoy bump and grind with...

Don't get me wrong. I'm all about learning and exploring.



What I'm taking issue with here is trump_lady's apparent attitude towards this particular gentleman. One sniffs a faint reek of selfishness and condescension. One hopes that one is wrong...

[jrandom]

... really exciting "taboo" sexual practices

Because it doesn't fit your (obviously damaging) experience...

Noooooobody knows /
De trouble I've seen...

my young friend

*splutter*

[ManDownUnder]

What I'm taking issue with here is trump_lady's apparent attitude towards this particular gentleman. One sniffs a faint reek of selfishness and condescension. One hopes that one is wrong...

All good - I'l close out for the day by saying you seems to have the other end of the stick from me.

That's not what I read at all. MDU over and under

[trump-lady]

I believe there was reference to pharmaceuticals affecting Trump-Lady's man's sex drive. If I'm not mistaken, and that is the case, then it has nothing to do with Trump-Lady's ability to arouse her man.

$0.02

Thankyou...but as much as JD thinks of my disrespect for my man, there are somethings not going to be posted.

[jrandom]

... like I said in a previous post his confidence has encreased not just sexually but in alot of other ways too.

Now that's a little snippet of the attitude that gets my goat.

Publicly taking responsibility for one's partner's increase in confidence. It's so patronising, and generally just crass. Why not leave that up to him to say?

Like I said. Sounds like he yo bitch, nigga!

[Number One]

Then along the same line of honesty and candour, may I just say that the negative pattern you see things framed in is not the only way things can be...

Yup - here's a for ya life ain't all sucky

I hate to break it to you, but yes, there are couples out there who do properly communicate with one another, take part in really exciting "taboo" sexual practices, (insert all the tings that Jrandom has a bug in his ear about)... and still have healthy and loving relationships
Because it doesn't fit your (obviously damaging) experience doesn't mean it is not possible or that it's wrong. Each to their own, & live and let live my young friend. .

Too Right!

AND in the interests of healthy, loving, mutually enjoyable adult sexual relationships that allow both partners to explore, appreciate and celebrate their love, desire and well damnit life and being alive in general

AND IN THE SPIRIT of the original question...I'm 30, have a great man am up for it (wif me man only of course) and I'm proud I'm not totally hung up and can enjoy it - no mean feat either thanks!

SO go on...tell me about any great spots for Wellywood bikers to take in a little 'Afternoon Delight': http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/sh...ad.php?t=64881

Maybe we could work on a 'sign' to warn each other to move onto the next option

I'll show ya mine if you show me yers