Should I be pissed off?

[mudthug]

I am new to this site so not quite sure if I am posting in the right section, but I think it is a female issue. My husband and I jointly bought a Fatboy and as I work away alot he goes on runs by himself with his mates. I have no issues with this. However today he came home and told me his friends who I have met a few times had asked if their friend a female whom I don't know from a bar of soap could jump on the back of our bike and go on this run with them. He of course said no, but the reply was "my wife wouldn't like it" . Not of course he wouldn't like it. He says I'm being stupid I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that. My thoughts are I didn't help my husband get his $40.000 dream bike so that some other person could get on it and enjoy my ride. Your views please.

[bucket boy]

I am new to this site so not quite sure if I am posting in the right section, but I think it is a female issue. My husband and I jointly bought a Fatboy and as I work away alot he goes on runs by himself with his mates. I have no issues with this. However today he came home and told me his friends who I have met a few times had asked if their friend a female whom I don't know from a bar of soap could jump on the back of our bike and go on this run with them. He of course said no, but the reply was "my wife wouldn't like it" . Not of course he wouldn't like it. He says I'm being stupid I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that. My thoughts are I didn't help my husband get his $40.000 dream bike so that some other person could get on it and enjoy my ride. Your views please.

yeah i think my wife would be the same
but of course i wouldnt mind

[JimO]

I am new to this site so not quite sure if I am posting in the right section, but I think it is a female issue. My husband and I jointly bought a Fatboy and as I work away alot he goes on runs by himself with his mates. I have no issues with this. However today he came home and told me his friends who I have met a few times had asked if their friend a female whom I don't know from a bar of soap could jump on the back of our bike and go on this run with them. He of course said no, but the reply was "my wife wouldn't like it" . Not of course he wouldn't like it. He says I'm being stupid I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that. My thoughts are I didn't help my husband get his $40.000 dream bike so that some other person could get on it and enjoy my ride. Your views please.

how about you grow up

[riffer]

Hang on - he said you wouldn't like it.

You obviously wouldn't like it.

Where's the problem?

He's only telling the truth.

[Badcat]

I am new to this site so not quite sure if I am posting in the right section, but I think it is a female issue. My husband and I jointly bought a Fatboy and as I work away alot he goes on runs by himself with his mates. I have no issues with this. However today he came home and told me his friends who I have met a few times had asked if their friend a female whom I don't know from a bar of soap could jump on the back of our bike and go on this run with them. He of course said no, but the reply was "my wife wouldn't like it" . Not of course he wouldn't like it. He says I'm being stupid I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that. My thoughts are I didn't help my husband get his $40.000 dream bike so that some other person could get on it and enjoy my ride. Your views please.

yep - a bike (especially if it belongs to BOTH of you), is a very personal thing.
dig your heels in girl, madass (my gf) wouldn't be happy either if i was taking strangers out for long rides on the buell.
it is your ride, and he should understand and respect that.
just my .02c.
ken

[dino3310]

that seats reserved for you tell the bitch to go find her own ride

[Rashika]

hmmm, well if it was my partner and he didn't mind I'd say it was up to him. He does own half so does have some say in it really. But then again I have my own bike, so situation doesn't apply.

Maybe it might just be a good way to meet some other pillions for you as well. I'm pretty sure they'd be appreciative when they meet you. There are all sorts of reasons why someone might want a lift... broken down bike, etc... they may NOT be trying to crack onto you man, simply wanting to go on the ride.

[Racey Rider]

I think he did the right thing.

Any guy is normally happy to take any girl on the back of 'the bike he is currently riding'.
In fact the only reason he'd say no is that 'His wife wouldn't like it'.
or maybe if she didn't have the right gear...
or if he only rode a KR150, (but even then there the 'Lets start at the top of that hill' response.)

[Trudes]

Sounds like your man did the right thing, so good on him, as for your and his mates, they probably didn't even think about it, so don't be too angry with them.
Personally, I don't have a problem with my hubby pillioning other women, as long as I'm asked first, hell, he even pillioned an ex boyfriend of mine. What a man!! (My hubby, not the ex!)
I guess it all depends on how you view the pillion thing, I view it as a ride on the back of someone's bike, but if you view it as a sexual thing or a bonding thing, then I guess I can see why you'd have a problem.

[BIHB@0610]

You can't change people, or what they think. Despite the fact that you think your man shouldn't like the thought of taking someone else on your bike, he might be fine with it.

However, despite possibly being fine with it, he said no, and gave an excuse - one that happens to be true, as you wouldn't like it.

I don't really see a big deal here at all - he did what was right (even if it wasn't in the way you would like). Go buy some lacey lingerie and bubble bath, make yourself feel all gorgeous and sexy, and take your man to bed. It'll get things back on track

[maxworldbiker]

Depends on your relationship. First response? Yeah, that would be, pretty much, F**K off. But answers to a few questions might alter the picture, becozzz... maybe this isn't about you, OR your husband. Who is this girly? If she doesn't ride her own machine or have a boyfriend with one, why does she want to go on the bike run? Could it be she's testing the water on getting into the bike scene in a bigger way? Can anyone else give her a baccy? If nobody else has space, or if some of the other guys are on a relationship choke-chain themselves, it could be something as simple as your hubby being the only available person who may be able to help out someone who has personal motives of her own that are maybe NOT sinister, and the friends are all trying to find a solution.

Personally, I have to say that its bloody hard for women sometimes, in this game. A number of years ago I moved to a new town, and tried to join a local motorcycle club there. Allegedly a "friendly" club! At the time I was single, and had my own bike. New in town, I went along to club meetings several times and guess what??? Hardly anybody would talk to me. The only ones who did were single guys who mostly tried to hit on me. Couples froze me completely. The women wouldn't talk to me, for reasons that are sad and pathetic and not too difficult to work out. The men wouldn't talk to me because they got shit from their wives and girlfriends if they did.

I persevered for a few months with that stupid club, and each time went home feeling more lonely than I did when I got there. In the end I stopped going, because I was sick of feeling like I had to prove I wasn't out to steal someone's bloke. Other women have told me they've had the same kind of experiences and they all said the same thing - it was horrible, hurtful, and completely unfair. All we wanted was to be accepted for who we were, into a group of people whose way of life appealed to us through common interests.

The fact is that I have friends, women, getting into biking, and pretty much the first thing I do is get them on the back with my husband, and even if I don't go along, he'll take them out on a run if they want to go. I'm happy for him to do it because he's a safe rider, he's a kind man, and all of the things I love about him are the things I also trust about him, to take care of my friends, and himself, and me too. If it was a girl I didn't know, I'd just want to know a couple of things about her before he rode away with her. Of course, if I later found out she'd made some kind of play for him, I'd just rock around and knock her head clear off her shoulders. But that wouldn't be my first asssumption if the request just to go for a back-ride came up!

It was a long time before anyone gave me a break and even then I had to fight for it. Maybe this girl has innocent motives, and maybe the friends are actually just trying to be friends to her. If that's the case, maybe you can feel less insecure about it.

[jrandom]

Sounds like your man did the right thing, so good on him...

Yeah, wot she said.

If a man's not single, then his pillion seat should be for the missus, mates who need a lift, and any other women specifically authorised in advance by the missus.

It's just the way it is.

Good on the man in question for not being a dodgy bugger, and frankly, mudthug, you should be proud that you're his reason for refusing to let her on the bike. He's obviously a Good Cunt (tm).

[Jantar]

Must be a male/female thing. I don't understand what you are upset about.

Are you complaining that he didn't take the other woman as pillion, but rather made an excuse? What would have been your reaction if he said yes?

or:

Are you complaining about the reason he gave. ie "my wife wouldn't like it". If that statement is true, then I don't see that you have any reason to complain. If the statement isn't true, then obviously the previous reason is the one that makes you upset and he should have taken the other woman as pillion.

It appears to me that you have an honest husband and one that you can trust. You obviously would rather have a dishonest one. You may just get your wish.

[Finn]

Cool. Is it a custom Fatboy? Post some pics when you can.

[yungatart]

I'm quite happy for my man to take another lady as pillion...sheesh, it is just a ride, after all.
I don't see what you're upset about. You don't want him to pillion someone else and he didn't....no wonder some guys think they can never get it right.