My girlfriend is getting married

**EJK** · 10th February 2008, 22:48

Done

**justsomeguy** · 10th February 2008, 23:16

What are you thinking?

Well you're not.

It happens mate for someone to win another person has to lose.

You WILL get over it.

In the mean time find some friends to go hang out with, go to the gym, go ride your bike. GO DO SOMETHING!!!.

DO NOT SIT AT HOME ALONE LOOKING AT PICTURES OF HER, LISTENING TO SAD LOVE SONGS AND THINKING.

Do not think, go do something!! Keeping busy mentally and physically really helped me.

Mate, whatever happens, just does ok. don't over think it.

This may be your fault or not, or it may be hers. But in the end it has happened.

You will find someone else and life will go on.

Right now life will be shit for a while - so prepare yourself for a bit of tears....

Do not get too drunk and please do not do anything stupid.

Bloody women huh, they sure know how to mess a guy up.......

**Big Dog** · 10th February 2008, 23:19

Chin up young man.
You have nothing to lose until you risk something.
As much as it may hurt at times just know it can't stay bad forever.
You never know this may be the best thing that has ever happened to you.

Go. Have an adventure.
Feel your freedom.
Don't listen to those who say they know what is best for you.
Just don't burn any bridges and remember to come home when you have had your adventure.

**mstriumph** · 10th February 2008, 23:19

this is sad - things happen - worse when we don't see them coming

take some time

chin up

**EJK** · 10th February 2008, 23:31

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

**klyong82** · 10th February 2008, 23:38

Hey bro, sorry to hear about that. Do take the time you need to heal up. Maybe ride your bike and if you need friends then you know who to call bro....

**mstriumph** · 10th February 2008, 23:43

you are NOT pathetic ............. well, only about the lying - THAT's a bit naff

i have had menfriends for ages and never felt there could be anything more than friendship there no matter how good they've been to me

but when i met the fella, it was like being hit by lightning .....

no - have no IDEA why it happens .... only that it does
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between you and her, it didn't happen ...... between her and him it did

YOUR TURN IS STILL TO COME - chin up and keep looking

lecture over

**Big Dog** · 10th February 2008, 23:46

Originally Posted by EJKDDORAI

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

Does not make the pain any less.

Trust me.

**justsomeguy** · 11th February 2008, 00:46

Originally Posted by EJKDDORAI

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

MsTriumph summed it up perfectly in her post.

"between you and her, it didn't happen ...... between her and him it did

YOUR TURN IS STILL TO COME - chin up and keep looking"

Bud, just think of it like an injury, it's gonna hurt like hell for a while and then with time it will heal and you'll just end up stronger for it.

Best of luck on your adventures, keep us posted

**Animal** · 11th February 2008, 01:34

Take a deep breath. Be patient. The sun will shine again.

**u4ea** · 11th February 2008, 02:17

Originally Posted by EJKDDORAI

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year.

I feel pathetic.

Sounds to me like you a weeeeeeeeeeeee tad obsessed with this poor lass.Maybe she didn't tell you about the other man as she knew how you would react?You dont get my sympathy at all..it is a public forum after all.Pathetic situation...yes...get a life

Love from Agony Aunt

**Slicksta** · 11th February 2008, 02:20

Originally Posted by EJKDDORAI

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

Mate you not pathetic at all. Its a very tough thing to handle and something i don't do very well at. I agree go for a ride long ride take your mind off things.. keep yourself occupied you will heal in time... Keep on keeping on EJ

**Headbanger** · 11th February 2008, 06:10

My wife married her stalker........

**Tank** · 11th February 2008, 09:17

Its not easy - never is. But sounds like you were a friend waiting for something that was never going to happen, happen.

Hate to say it EJ - go out, get laid (preferably a few times), party up with friends and move on.

C