Should I be pissed off?

[dino3310]

Yeah, wot she said.

If a man's not single, then his pillion seat should be for the missus, mates who need a lift, and any other women specifically authorised in advance by the missus.

It's just the way it is.

Good on the man in question for not being a dodgy bugger, and frankly, mudthug, you should be proud that you're his reason for refusing to let her on the bike. He's obviously a Good Cunt (tm).

totally agree

[CookMySock]

you are in a pickle there aren't you.

It seems if you knew her then maybe it would be different.

Are you just annoyed that someone else is in your chair, or are you concerned something is up ? If its just the chair thing, then you have a decision to make about your type of work. If you think something might be up, then it's time for a long talk with him - and decide if you mind or not - a hard thing to get past when its not your turn.

DB

[SixPackBack]

I am new to this site so not quite sure if I am posting in the right section, but I think it is a female issue. My husband and I jointly bought a Fatboy and as I work away alot he goes on runs by himself with his mates. I have no issues with this. However today he came home and told me his friends who I have met a few times had asked if their friend a female whom I don't know from a bar of soap could jump on the back of our bike and go on this run with them. He of course said no, but the reply was "my wife wouldn't like it" . Not of course he wouldn't like it. He says I'm being stupid I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that. My thoughts are I didn't help my husband get his $40.000 dream bike so that some other person could get on it and enjoy my ride. Your views please.

So if your not there no one else can get on the back?....do you trust him? If you did surely anyone could catch a ride in your abscence. I can see where your coming from but wonder if you have trust issues? after all he told you what was happening.
IF the marriage was rock solid this would be no problem.

[CookMySock]

I'm quite happy for my man to take another lady as pillion...sheesh, it is just a ride, after all.

sometimes its not - and that needs to got out in the clear.

...no wonder some guys think they can never get it right.

thank you, and very nicely put. Us poor blokes spend a lot of time decoding.

DB

[FROSTY:Me]

He did the right thing by you and he told the truth. Problem??
I gotta say lady Unless theres an underlying issue not being discussed here then theres shit loads more imoprtant stuff to sweat over than this.

[MSTRS:Me]

Your views please.

My views?
I'm glad that I'm not married to you.

[cruza]

Geez you sound like a real moaning b*t*h, He said no out of respect for you..... get over it. Its a open thing , sometimes people would like to come for a pillion ride and try something new, if theres someone in the group on a sunday ride riding solo, and they trust them (riding wise) why not ask if they mind taking a pillion.

[El Dopa]

Seems to me that the reason you're pissed off is because your bloke did the right thing for what you (because you're female) percieve to be the 'wrong' reason.

And he then told you about it in all innocence (because he's male and didn't realise it would get him in trouble, because he doesn't think like a woman), and then found himself on the wrong end of some heavy incoming.

What you really wanted him to say was 'my mates wanted her to go on the back, but that seat is reserved for you, the same as my heart, body and soul is. I only have eyes for you, my darling. You are the one true love of my life'. Am I right, or am I right?

Fact: blokes look at other women. They want to fuck them, and they choose not to if they're in a committed relationship. But it doesn't stop them looking and wanting.

That's the way of the world. Get over it.

[Livvy]

Okay... Seems like the majority of replies here have taken a bite out of you. This probably isn't a comfort to you, but do heed what they say. It does seem your husband said no and said it in respect for you though he could have worded it better. He might not have been comfortable with taking another woman pillion either, as you seem to have thought by "not, of course, he wouldn't like it" (though I gotta say, please, next time, insert punctuation, it helps us understand what you're saying...) but that may also just because of respect to you.

His friends and your friends probably weren't even trying to make a jab at you like you seem to be implying - "I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that." - to most of them, a bike is just a bike. I go pillion on my friend's bikes often, and a lot of them are in relationships. Taking a person pillion, whether or not their "other half" knows them from a bar of soap or not should not be an issue if the relationship is truly a healthy one.

As El Dopa says though - blokes look at other women. Not an attack on you or your husband, but I agree; your husband has the potential to look at other women. This isn't a bad thing, it's a natural thing. Make it a funny thing - I do with my friends, though yes, friendship and marriage are completely different things. But I'll sit out with my guy friends in town and we'll vote on girls and which ones are good looking and which ones less so (though discreetly!) and we'll have a good time, and most of these guys are in relationships themselves. Looking and wanting is natural. Girl-spot with him, be comfortable with who you are to him. He's commited to you! And if you girl-spot with him, then you also get to guy-spot and he can't complain.

[CookMySock]

Fact: blokes look at other women. They want to fuck them, and they choose not to if they're in a committed relationship. But it doesn't stop them looking and wanting.

That's the way of the world. Get over it.

Chix do too. Be honest. Accept it. Get past it. Enjoy life. Have fun.

DB

[DMNTD:Me]

I can't stand insecure people...waste of time,effort and emotion.

[CookMySock]

[....]then you also get to guy-spot and he can't complain.

yeah this is fun.. "o.O soooo you like him ay oooooooo" lol

DB

[BiK3RChiK]

Jealousy is a bitter pill... Get over it! Get on with life! So what? She asked (or friends did) He said No! So What? Sounds like you got issues... Learn to relax, girl! You'll give yourself stress, cancer or a heart attack or worse.

[Taz]

I don't see the problem. Not like he's gonna fuck her is it? Why don't you trust him?

[mudthug]

Thankyou for your replies. I am not pissed off at my husband at all. As he doesn't want to take a pillion either, just annoyed by our friends.

I can't stand insecure people...waste of time,effort and emotion.

HAHAHAHAHAHA if I was insecure he wouldn't even have the bike and I wouldn't go away to work for 12 weeks at a time so he could ride it with all his mates on runs. Its not a question of trust I just don't want someone else sitting on the back of my bike having fun. So you can definitely call me selfish but insecure is just a joke.