Should I be pissed off?

[maxworldbiker]

I just don't want someone else sitting on the back of my bike having fun. So you can definitely call me selfish...

Well, ummm... you certainly don't need anyone out here to confirm what you already know, do you? LOL!

[PrincessBandit]

If your question is regarding your response to assumptions made by other people about your property (bike) i.e. that anyone has the right to get on it/be taken on it blah blah blah, then I think you are entitled to be. The big difference is that you and your husband seem to be on the same wavelength in terms of who is permitted to be on the back so who really cares what the "mates" reaction is. They can get over it, and if they really are mates they won't have an issue with you two about it.

[McDuck]

Ok. I will say this poster 1.

He is in to you. I can tell by the fact that he told you. There was no real need, he said no, if he had said nothing you probably would have never found out. I dont know you, i dont know him. but one thing for sure is that if there was any chance of wondering then he would not have told you.



Given i would want to know a little about any other women getting on the back if i was you. but in the same way hubbies word should be enough. Think it through and TALK WITH HIM about it. NOT HERE!!!. He trusted you enough to tell you this, trust him enough to tell him about your feelings.

[HRT]

Any chance a woman get to blame something on the other half...

Can see how you'd be annoyed, though in saying that you're being annoyed at the wrong thing. If he took her along for a ride then yeah you'd probably be annoyed at that kinda of thing. If its just due to him saying "the mrs wouldn't approve" or whatever then get over it. He said the truth and said no to the ride because you wouldn't have liked it. You should be happy he said no and go and get him a beer

[Owl]

I am new to this site so not quite sure if I am posting in the right section, but I think it is a female issue. My husband and I jointly bought a Fatboy and as I work away alot he goes on runs by himself with his mates. I have no issues with this. However today he came home and told me his friends who I have met a few times had asked if their friend a female whom I don't know from a bar of soap could jump on the back of our bike and go on this run with them. He of course said no, but the reply was "my wife wouldn't like it" . Not of course he wouldn't like it. He says I'm being stupid I on the other hand are pretty pissed that his friends, so called my friends even asked him that. My thoughts are I didn't help my husband get his $40.000 dream bike so that some other person could get on it and enjoy my ride. Your views please.

You're 110% correct. It's a female issue!

[Sofa]

Must be a male/female thing. I don't understand what you are upset about.

Are you complaining that he didn't take the other woman as pillion, but rather made an excuse? What would have been your reaction if he said yes?

or:

Are you complaining about the reason he gave. ie "my wife wouldn't like it". If that statement is true, then I don't see that you have any reason to complain. If the statement isn't true, then obviously the previous reason is the one that makes you upset and he should have taken the other woman as pillion.

It appears to me that you have an honest husband and one that you can trust. You obviously would rather have a dishonest one. You may just get your wish.

I think what she was saying is that even if it is true that she didn't want this lady that she doesn't know at all on the back of his bike, that he shouldn't have made that excuse. He knows that she wouldn't like it so there's no point in him making the excuse is there? I think maybe she's saying that he should have had more common sense and not mentioned that she wouldn't like it because it makes her look like a naggy, clinging bitch??? Which she obviously isn't

[enigma51]

He's only telling the truth.

You clearly dont understand the complexity of the women form

[enigma51]

I think what she was saying is that even if it is true that she didn't want this lady that she doesn't know at all on the back of his bike, that he shouldn't have made that excuse. He knows that she wouldn't like it so there's no point in him making the excuse is there? I think maybe she's saying that he should have had more common sense and not mentioned that she wouldn't like it because it makes her look like a naggy, clinging bitch??? Which she obviously isn't

I rest my case

If the role was in reverse no straigh bloke i know would have read so deep into a simple my husband will not like it

[crazybigal]

how about you go on the ride!! or let someone else enjoy your seat!

[Patrick]

If it was a bloke taking your seat, would this even be an issue??????????

It's a nice bike, people want to have a ride on it but I guess that will only happen as pillion....

When you have time off, can you take blokes out on it??????? I am free most weekends....

[NOMIS]

Ok He said you wouldnt like it , obviously you dont like it, wheres the prob? is he meant to be rude and say sorry i dont like it? im sure she would of been hurt if he said that but he dismisd the situation the best way possible, and yeh it is your bike so you should just get over what ever it is yuor angry about and enjoy it.

[HenryDorsetCase]

Chix do too. Be honest. Accept it. Get past it. Enjoy life. Have fun.

DB

Just because your plate is full, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu.


Just saying.



I have no opinion about the topic of this thread.

[MSTRS:Me]

I think what she was saying is that even if it is true that she didn't want this lady that she doesn't know at all on the back of his bike, that he shouldn't have made that excuse. He knows that she wouldn't like it so there's no point in him making the excuse is there? I think maybe she's saying that he should have had more common sense and not mentioned that she wouldn't like it because it makes her look like a naggy, clinging bitch??? Which she obviously isn't

Actually, I read it to mean she paid for some of the bike, and if her arse isn't on the pillion seat then no-one else's is going to be on it either. That, and the biker friends should have known that and not asked...
The husband obviously (gratefully?) respects that, because she could have instructed 'If my arse isn't on the pillion, then the bike stays home".

[riffer]

Actually, I read it to mean she paid for some of the bike, and if her arse isn't on the pillion seat then no-one else's is going to be on it either. That, and the biker friends should have known that and not asked...
The husband obviously (gratefully?) respects that, because she could have instructed 'If my arse isn't on the pillion, then the bike stays home".

WTF MSTRS?

Would the same apply if I was out in the car and a mate asked if I could give a ride to someone female?

I've run this past my wife who says if more people called a spade a fuckin spade there'd be less trouble in this world. She says she wouldn't be happy with a woman she didn't know being on the back but she doesn't care if I tell anyone. She takes it as a compliment that I respect her enough to let people know how she feels. Likewise she has no problem with me telling any girl who tried it on with me that she'd kill them because its probably true.

I can't see the problem. If the OP thinks people consider her a whiny bitch that's something she made up (actually I don't recall her saying that at all).

Is she upset that a woman wanted to go on it, or because ANYONE wanted to go on it?

I'd like to hear the OP clarify this issue.

[MSTRS:Me]

I'd like to hear the OP clarify this issue.

She did. In a later post she said something to the effect that she paid for some of the bike and wasn't happy for anyone else to benefit from a pillion ride. She also said that her hubby wasn't keen to take other people pillion. Their friends know this, but still asked him to take a (newcomer?). It is apparently this that has upset her.
In typical new poster fashion, she didn't word her post too well and people have gone off half-cocked, calling her all sorts of names. I said I was glad I wasn't married to her. If my better half controlled what I did when it comes to biking to that extent....well, dress me in a skirt and call me Mrs.