Serious question for the males on this site

[tri boy]

The guy sounds starved for female intimacy of any sort. Hasn't grown up past puberty, (poor male role model?), and past women may have encouraged his sexual drivel.
He's bound to get kneed in the knacker's, but that probably won't modify his behaviour. He's a little boy in a man's body. MHO

[Patrick]

I know that but to honest i can't be bothered i have left now.

Also i was self employed and was contracted to the company was not sure if you could do that.

No i have quit now with a little bit of a push from the manger.

Which is probably what other women have said in the past perhaps... "Can't be bothered..."?

Maybe he has been getting away with it for who knows how long??

A little push from the Manager... Hmmm.... Was he aware of the behaviour? Constructive Dismissal discussions could be held with an Employment Specialist and this Manager with his deviant mate perhaps????

[Mom]

To be honest - for some... no. Not many are that bad, but the problem is it's still worded like a joke.

Sledge hammers work for them I have been told

No, a guy like this would think of that as a kinky come on!

Some odd blokes around eh chicky?

The way I see it, Wendy, you have a personality that is quite open and refreshing. A good sense of humour and a quick mind. Obviously this guy is drawn to that. He can't see the signs or hear what you're saying because of his attraction.

I would think it's quite common in real estate that men are quite forward (go-getters perhaps?) the kind that don't take no for an answer? The industry itself has a concentration of guys like that. Why do guys take it too far? Because they think you're "just a woman". No insult intended to you or any other women but there are guys who are still like that.

A thinking man I see.

Wendy love, you are a wonderful, bubbly, rude, fabulous woman! That is sexy!

You know me, I am friendly, bubbly too. I once worked in a place as a contractor where there was this guy who really was a sleaze. There were two females working there, one in the shop working along side him and me who used to come down and do the tills and what have you. This guy used any excuse to touch, rub past you, make slutty coments etc. The employee complained to the boss who had an ineffectual talk to this creep.

I told the boss that I was about to go and have a word with him, and that if he touched me again I would terminate my contract on the spot. Boss, says no, dont do that and went and had further words with sleaze. Few days later this person made the mistake of rubbing past me while I was doing the change for the tills (small gap between counter and display behind). In the shop, in front of customers I told him if he so much as came within a metre of me again I would slap his dirty face and report him to the Police for indecent assualt. I was not polite, I was not quiet, I did not swear, but I sure made my point. He was so embarrassed! GOOD!

BTW, he never came within touching distance of me again. Good result!

[martybabe]

I said recently in a wedding speech , to the bride," remember your new husband is a man, Hints dont work,If you want something,ask" or in this case if you don't want something, tell.

As was said above this guy is a chancer and a boy, not a man. I've met many of his kind in the past,tossers but.

I've got a very good female friend who told me that her ex kept bothering her for sex, this despite telling him that she still wanted him as a friend but intimacy would never be on the agenda again. After a bit of detective work ,it turned out he occasionally stopped at her place,no prob. sometimes stopped over night. when he stopped they shared the only bed she had. mmmkay. Here it comes..when they shared a bed,she slept naked, she always had,She had no idea why this would encourage the bloke because she had already explained she didn't want sex???? The point being,she's saying one thing he's getting a whole different picture.

As for your particular twat... You flirt, he thinks your interested. You rebuf him with a joke, he thinks your interested. He don't here if you were the last bloke on earth, he hears cucumbers and sexual innuendo.

If you took it to him through your boss, I bet ya he'd be amazed that you are upset, in his pervy/immature/stupid eyes your playing along, just a bit of bannter. I'm not excusing him infact I say shoot the fucker, I'm just trying to explain why some pitiful examples of manhood take it too far.

In short there is only one message for blokes like that, uncomfortable as it may be. You've got to tell em loud and clear to fuck off!

I am so sorry you've had to leave because of this pervy twat. It's not right.

P.s. sorry if I've gone to far but you I'm just trying to explain why some men don't get the message as you asked. all the best MB

[CookMySock]

I am so sorry you've had to leave because of this pervy twat. It's not right.

She didn't have to leave.

No female HAS to do anything because of ANY male. It's critical to be clear about this.

Girls, say what you mean, and mean what you say. Expect to be heard.

DB

[mstriumph]

Mate i tryed that i even said that if he was the last men on earth i would make sure i had a supplie of cucumbers but did not work.



But why is it a guy has to take it further.

dunno
- i ended up having to hit one around the ear with a piece of heavy office equipment once ..... - and even after THAT, when he regained conciousness, he said "was that a yes?"

sometimes you just can't win .....

[Mom]

In short there is only one message for blokes like that, uncomfortable as it may be. You've got to tell em loud and clear to fuck off!
I am so sorry you've had to leave because of this pervy twat. It's not right.

Well said that man! Lucky there are some really awesome, decent men around to overtip the balance eh mate!

She didn't have to leave.

No female HAS to do anything because of ANY male. It's critical to be clear about this.

I agree, but it is sad that it reached this place for Mrs Busa Pete, I guess she felt there were no options left for her. Heads up to anyone having issues like this, get a mentor! I happily volunteer to come and support anyone that wants to tackle anything like this in the work place. I take no prisoners by the way!

[mstriumph]

............. He obviously thought that because I didn't fancy HIM, I must be a lesbian!

there's an awful lot of that attitude still about .... would be funny if it weren't so pathetic

[Unit:Me]

You know no one answer my question i have had some very good advice offered and i thank you for that.
But i still would like to know why men feel they can take it bit further than they need to. Is it testosterone i mean this guy made me feel very uncomfortable in the office at times.

Very interesting question and some answers have started to emerge. Is it the old addage still, if a guys scores a conquest its a notch on their belt, if a girl scores a conquest shes a slut, could never figure that

So me telling him if he was the last man on earth i would make sure i had a supplie of cucumbers wasn't blunt enough.

I understand, but mars/venus seems to be present here

The way I see it, Wendy, you have a personality that is quite open and refreshing. A good sense of humour and a quick mind. Obviously this guy is drawn to that. He can't see the signs or hear what you're saying because of his attraction.

"Why do guys have to take it too far?" Yes, it is a male thing but your question is too general. Obviously not all guys are like that, he has certain throwback ('50's) qualities about his behaviour. I would think it's quite common in real estate that men are quite forward (go-getters perhaps?) the kind that don't take no for an answer? The industry itself has a concentration of guys like that. Why do guys take it too far? Because they think you're "just a woman". No insult intended to you or any other women but there are guys who are still like that.

Nice honesty. I gotta say, there is certainly something wrong with a "man" who still lives at home with mummy at 40ish.
Bad Boy Bubby springs to mind. (bitty now)
Also interesting point Wendy about the 'contractor (yourself)' charging for sexual harrassment. Would be interested to know what the law is in that respect.
Im sure you would have made it quite clear you were not at all interested, or impressed with his behaviour, so why is it thats still not enough, especially in this day and age when this sort of PC expectation is not only commonly well known, but written in law!

[Mom]

*swoon*

meh you're ok I guess

[DMNTD:Me]

Lucky there are some really awesome, decent men around to overtip the balance eh mate!

Yeah I'm f00kin' hot eh

[Mom]

Yeah I'm f00kin' hot eh

HAhahaha weird thing these puters.......my response to your quote is above what you said to me........LOL

[Mrs Busa Pete]

[QUOTE=martybabe;1490741]
I've got a very good female friend who told me that her ex kept bothering her for sex, this despite telling him that she still wanted him as a friend but intimacy would never be on the agenda again. After a bit of detective work ,it turned out he occasionally stopped at her place,no prob. sometimes stopped over night. when he stopped they shared the only bed she had. mmmkay. Here it comes..when they shared a bed,she slept naked, she always had,She had no idea why this would encourage the bloke because she had already explained she didn't want sex???? The point being,she's saying one thing he's getting a whole different picture.


Sorry i do not agree with this she said NO SEX. Why should women have to change what they are because men can't take no for an answer



I am so sorry you've had to leave because of this pervy twat. It's not right.



I'm sorry if i have made any one beleive i left my job because of this guy he was a part of it but i had also had enough and going to my manager about him would of be a waste of time because he had his little boys club

She didn't have to leave.

No female HAS to do anything because of ANY male. It's critical to be clear about this.

Girls, say what you mean, and mean what you say. Expect to be heard.

DB

Well said

[Unit:Me]

HAhahaha weird thing these puters.......my response to your quote is above what you said to me........LOL

He's on dial up, plays havoc with the order of things

[martybabe]

HAhahaha weird thing these puters.......my response to your quote is above what you said to me........LOL

Thank cripes for that, I thought I'd failed to get the message.