Serious question for the males on this site

[Mrs Busa Pete]

No joking please as this is a serious question. One of the reasons i stopped going into the office as much as i should of was.. you got one of my co workers.

Ok i like to joke around and i dont think i done anything to encourage this person in fact i was very blunt with them at times but why is it they think you are someone they can come onto. Anyone that knows me knows that i'm only joking (well i bloody hope so) and that i love my husband very much and would not do anything like that.

Should i be going to work with buttoned to the neck shirt sit there and be quiet and not say a thing just so i'm not put in that postion.
















One last thing I WANT A SMOKE

[jrandom]

It's all your fault for being so damn sexy.

[SixPackBack]

Not like you to hold back Wendy, a straight up FUCK OFF should have sorted the issue. Alternativley making an official complaint always helps.
And no its not your fault in anyway.

[98tls]

Next time sleazy even hints at anything stand up and very loudly tell him to fuck off,that should work.

[Mrs Busa Pete]

Not like you to hold back Wendy, a straight up FUCK OF should have sorted the issue. Alternativley making an official complaint always helps.
And no its not your fault in anyway.

Mate i tryed that i even said that if he was the last men on earth i would make sure i had a supplie of cucumbers but did not work.



But why is it a guy has to take it further.

[Patrick]

Don't let him. You take it further instead. "Sexual harassment" is what it is called. Watch em squirm....

[Mrs Busa Pete]

Don't let him. You take it further instead. "Sexual harassment" is what it is called. Watch em squirm....

I know that but to honest i can't be bothered i have left now.


Also i was self employed and was contracted to the company was not sure if you could do that.

[Laava]

Reading between the lines W, I am guessing that this is a guy that you actually like OTHER than the fact he is hitting on you. Tricky situation tho, you will have to try various angles. You can try the old "Sorry if I led you on" bit even if you didn't. Been there before except it was my fault! Good luck

[Mrs Busa Pete]

Reading between the lines W, I am guessing that this is a guy that you actually like OTHER than the fact he is hitting on you. Tricky situation tho, you will have to try various angles. You can try the old "Sorry if I led you on" bit even if you didn't. Been there before except it was my fault! Good luck

No i have quit now with a little bit of a push from the manger.

[nodrog:Me]

No joking please as this is a serious question. One of the reasons i stopped going into the office as much as i should of was.. you got one of my co workers.

Ok i like to joke around and i dont think i done anything to encourage this person in fact i was very blunt with them at times but why is it they think you are someone they can come onto. Anyone that knows me knows that i'm only joking (well i bloody hope so) and that i love my husband very much and would not do anything like that.

Should i be going to work with buttoned to the neck shirt sit there and be quiet and not say a thing just so i'm not put in that postion.
















One last thing I WANT A SMOKE

its not like you to turn a man down Pete?????

[Colapop]

Mate i tryed that i even said that if he was the last men on earth i would make sure i had a supplie of cucumbers but did not work.
But why is it a guy has to take it further.

I'll be up there in a couple of weeks with some spare time... want I should "have a yarn" to him?

[jrandom]

I'll be up there in a couple of weeks with some spare time... want I should "have a yarn" to him?

What would that actually entail?

You're not really the slickest manipulator of the human psyche I've ever met; in fact, you're a very straightforward chap. (Not that that's necessarily a bad thing, mind you.)

So, presumably, you're implying that you'd threaten the guy with violence.

Would you actually follow through on that and assault him?

That seems quite sub-optimal and a bit pointless to me. How would you ending up in court and screwing your life up with a violent criminal conviction be worthwhile over such a trivial matter? Heck, how would it ever be worthwhile?

And if you'd just be blowing hot air, well... why should he take any notice of you?

I get a bit annoyed, y'know, with such meatheaded approaches to personal issues. They really don't work that well.

Anyway, Mrs BP wasn't asking for advice on how to deal with the situation - it's over and done with already. She was asking for our thoughts on why men behave that way in the first place.

[ynot slow]

Pretty much short if kneeing to the nads,then an uppercut what more can you do? Some guys can't get through their thick heads not interested in you.

My wife was getting flowers for about 6 mths daily,after she split from her husband about 10 yr ago,from this guy who wanted to see her,she found out who it was,told him never in your wildest dreams bucko(or worse language),then he saw me with her,(I used to hang out with him now and again at a pub)he would still ask her out when I was in toilet or at the bar,one day he was pissed and he grabbed at her top to get her tits,I was at the bar,and pub was 3/4 full,he got a knee in the nuts and two guys all but ready to deck him,if he wasn't spralled in agony.

Hehe my ex was stalking a guy a few years ago,she didn't know I knew him,he went out with her a couple of times,she would phone,call round,went on for a few weeks,so it happens for guys too.

[Edbear]

Sorry to hear that Wendy. No-one should have to put up with that, but as said, some blokes are just so full of themselves they can't believe any woman wouldn't want them!

Knowing Pete, I wouldn't want to try it on with you! How's he feel? I know he'd support you.

[Colapop]

What would that actually entail?

You're not really the slickest manipulator of the human psyche I've ever met; in fact, you're a very straightforward chap. (Not that that's necessarily a bad thing, mind you.)
So, presumably, you're implying that you'd threaten the guy with violence.
Would you actually follow through on that and assault him?
That seems quite sub-optimal and a bit pointless to me. How would you ending up in court and screwing your life up with a violent criminal conviction be worthwhile over such a trivial matter? Heck, how would it ever be worthwhile?
And if you'd just be blowing hot air, well... why should he take any notice of you? I get a bit annoyed, y'know, with such meatheaded approaches to personal issues. They really don't work that well.
Anyway, Mrs BP wasn't asking for advice on how to deal with the situation - it's over and done with already. She was asking for our thoughts on why men behave that way in the first place.

Would that necessarily entail that I visit upon him physical violence? I am my size, it is true but often mistaken for a violent person. It is interesting that I am unfairly judged in this way. Am I known so well by anything other than the persona of "Colapop"? Do you truly know what intellect or capabilities I actually have? Or are you basing your assumptions on that which you "know" to be "true"? "Having a yarn" does not have to mean anything other than that. Speaking on behalf of a friend whom I respect. I would like the same done for me if the need arose.

My comment does not offer advice but perhaps support. Yours? More interested in having your views aired than giving support or advice? Who's calling the kettle black Mr Pot?