Adultery's not so bad after all...

[007XX]

Just check his eyes are blue, first.... Might save a misunderstanding...

Oh dear, really? Now, that is most peculiar...I cannot for the life of me recall the colour of his eyes. Must be because everytime he gets close enough, he kisses me and I have to close my eyes in sheer rapture...

Continuing to love is a choice, at times a difficult one to make, but everyone faces that choice at one point or another in their relationship, and that is what determines whether the relationship sinks or not. It is not about being married. And that is what no one teaches you about love: it's about hard work at times, and choices.

But eh, what do I know? I'm just stumbling my way through, just like anybody else...

[Mikkel]

As Long As Your Eyes Are Blue

The not so romatic version...
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8NOZH0y7VxE[/youtube]

Keeping the esoteric debate out of the equation, anyone who has been privileged enough to meet elderlie couples after many, many years of marriage (and yes, I have met more than one), will know that not ALL relationships / marriages have an expiry date.

Oh by all means, I have seen my share of such couples. My only point was that it is very easy to argue that all good things must come to an end based on how you understand existence. That was all. I'm not that glum - just a bitty snotty is all...

What the lady with the tidy avatar said

Indeed! I actually think it may be the best avatar to date

[MisterD]

Ownership of another individual = slavery.

Yeah, but marriage is supposed to be more of a cross-leasing kind of deal.

[007XX]

... just a bitty snotty is all...

I knew that...

Indeed! I actually think it may be the best avatar to date

I am rather taken with this one actually. I may keep it for a little longer than usual.

[Mikkel]

I am rather taken with this one actually. I may keep it for a little longer than usual.

...but an expiry date none the less?

[CookMySock]

We all come with baggage, very few of us had an ideal upbringing and life, and it takes a long time to face and address those issues that we bring to the marriage.

Well Edbear, I didn't know what to trim off that quote. Quite an accurate and heartfelt sum-up.

After we gather all the skills to actually run a relationship, and learn to listen and talk about how we feel, and put down out preconcieved ideas, we arrive at a new place with our mate of 20 years. Things then are strangely quiet and calm, akin to after a severe storm. It's foolish to cast off the relationship at this point. Its the beginning of a new clearness and safety.

DB

[Her_C4]

Kinky.

I'm more of a toy

Bah - had a couple of those toy boys - damned expensive to maintain, but a good stop gap

[CookMySock]

it has been this way for several years now [heartfelt post trimmed..]

I'm relieved to hear you talk about sticking with it. Quite the contrast with other posts in the thread. I am tempted to advise, but I will just say to stay with her, and find a solution - I see that you will anyway.. It might take a few years, but that is not long.

More power to you, Clockwork. Heartfelt big hug from me, mate. You're going to be fine.


Steve

[Coyote]

I am always awazed at how many males don't know the fundamentals of their own anatomie. Especially since that particular area, stroked and fondled at the right time and in the right fashion is an extremely pleasurable skill to perform...or so I am told of course. Get your lady to try it out sometimes (if she doesn't already), much fun to be had.

Sex ed isn't exactly learning about how to excite yourself, is more about "SEX WILL GET YOU KILLED!!!". Plus I'm a relative new comer (pun intended) to the whole activity and haven't quite got the years of experience and knowledge.

She said she'd be willing to try almost anything with me...

[Coyote]

Absolutely! Tis ok Coyote - unrequited love is kinda fun .... in a masochistic way ......

Meh, been there, done that. Don't want to keep intentions quiet from now on.

'cept a few...

[CookMySock]

What is the point in being in a marriage when you sign your life away to someone else to own/control you? If its a relationship, then no one owns anyone so you technicially are a free agent, but marriage its different.

What ? No one owns or controls anyone.

The whole basis of violence is ;

1. I feel strongly

2. its your fault

3. you did/didn't do what you should(n't)

4. now I feel angry

5. you will make remedial action

6. you refuse to make remedial action

7. I will impose some artificial consequence upon you to achieve 5.


The whole problem is at 3 and 4. It's about misunderstandings from lack of listening skills (and other things) and then acting out what we believe.

The bottom line is, your rights to act FINISH AFTER STEP 4. Tough shit. Find another way. Its the law.


DB

[Coyote]

What a crock of shite.

What about death? Think that can end a relationship pretty well.

Unless you believe in some form of afterlife of course

[alanzs]

I always figured what goes around comes around... The wheel keeps on spinning...

[007XX]

...but an expiry date none the less?

I am unwavering and constant in what matters...avatars don't.

[007XX]

Sex ed isn't exactly learning about how to excite yourself, is more about "SEX WILL GET YOU KILLED!!!". Plus I'm a relative new comer (pun intended) to the whole activity and haven't quite got the years of experience and knowledge.

She said she'd be willing to try almost anything with me...

stick around young grasshopper...and be patient, these things take time!