I split with the bitch

[Falcon]

The moral of the story? Well, I don't know to be honest. I won't say don't get married - coz it's not a bad thing if you marry the right person. The complications of splitting up is just part of it. Get a lawyer from the word go. Expect that you are going to be lied about in the worst way you can imagine. Expect that your kids (if you have any) will be lied to. If you're planning on going, plan well in advance and liquidate as much as you can into cash - no superannuation, no assets, nothing at all - just cash in a hole in the ground (fuck, become a 'problem gambler' if you have to, to hide the money) She (or he) will try and nail your ass into the ground because they hate you.

[scracha]

Pre nuptual. Hell, I'm not married but I've got a pre-pre nuptual incase we split up. Much cheaper sorting it out sooner rather than later.

[Falcon]

Nope. You start early as a couple of young people and neither of you have anything. Pre-nups are only any good if you got something to start with...

[Forest]

Glad to hear you've come through the separation ok.

They aren't very romantic, but premarital agreements are worth every penny.

Edit - Don't forget that in NZ, the Property (Relationships) Act has replaced the Matrimonial Property Act 1976 (which applied only to married couples). The PRA applies automatically to all married, civil-union and de facto couple (de facto = minimum of three years) and assumes that both members in the relationship have contributed equally. In other words, you really need to get a lawyer involved before any long term relationship.

[CookMySock]

yuck. why did I read that ?

[Mom]

I'd wait til she went to visit her family before inviting women around to have sex - "IN OUR BED!! *sob* *sob*..." (I wish I had that much pulling power - but it's just me!)

pffftttt....I can do better than that, I was having affairs with 3 men at the same time, two in Auckland (about an hours drive from here) and one who lived in the south island mind you. All this while working 25 hours a week and running a 7 day a week business with my husband and looking after three kids and a home!

I am "Super Woman" I tell ya!

Mate hurt feelings sometimes take over from common sense, I am pleased to hear you are coming through the other side! Best of luck from here on in. Dont let this sour you though. I have re-married and am happier than I ever remember being in 22 years of being married to my ex.

[MIXONE]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.

[ajturbo]

yuck. why did I read that ?

cause you are desperate and lonely...

[sinfull]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.

Amen To that !

[BIHB@0610]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.

Amen To that !

Yay you two!!! You're onto it I have come out the other side of divorce too, with sanity, finances, career, and children intact. The only way to do that is by finding peace - any remnant of animosity gets in the way.

"Living well is the best revenge" (George Herbert, metaphysical poet, 1593 - 1633).

[nodrog:Me]

I was having affairs with 3 men at the same time, two in Auckland (about an hours drive from here) and one who lived in the south island mind you. All this while working 25 hours a week and running a 7 day a week business with my husband and looking after three kids and a home!.

yeah Mark said you were abit of a slappa, i didnt believe him, until now

[xgnr]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.

Like him...

[Katman]

Blah, blah, blah..............

I think you might be more at home on Trademe's 'General' Message Board.

[Sollyboy]

Pre nuptual. Hell, I'm not married but I've got a pre-pre nuptual incase we split up. Much cheaper sorting it out sooner rather than later.

prenup is usually worth nothing if challenged by a good lawyer

[P38]

I hear ya man.

Had all that plus more.

My Ex called the police once and said I threatened her with violence and physically abused her.

I actually caught her breaking into my new house 12 months after I left her and had to physically remove her from the premisis watched by half the neighbourhood.

Up shot was a visit from the police who soon established the real facts, Thank Christ.

I had to take out a protection and non molestation order.

As a Gun collector I requested the police removed all my firearms under the domestic protection act for my own protection, which they did reluctantly.

Sure enough Two weeks later she made a complaint to the Police that I had threatened her with a firearm. She gave a good accurate decsription of the firearm too.

Unfortunately for her it was locked in the police safe at the time she alledged the threat took place.

She got charged for making a false complaint and wasting police time.

Probally took 8 to 10 years before she moved on and left me alone.

Pretty sad really.