Online stalkers?

**howdamnhard** · 6th July 2008, 20:08

[QUOTE=Kittyhawk;1636974]LMAO! I like it, gota find another....nah everyone knows my online personality...when have i not mentioned sex in a post

Originally Posted by howdamnhard

The guy was not working night shift!

OK thats weird.

**sinfull** · 6th July 2008, 20:15

Originally Posted by Spiderpig

Ever been stalked online? What are the signs, how do you know that a lurker is waiting for you...you are the victim and you dont even know it.

Hi

Spiderpig

**Kittyhawk** · 6th July 2008, 20:17

Weird creepy, and causes one to become a little paranoid.

Little things like

mind controlling
playing on your beliefs
is one person online but in person is completely different
asks to do things to you like "can i touch/hug you when we meet"
Asks questions to get a response and its the same questions each time
sends texts every few days asking the same "how is your day going"
infatuated to the point "have to have contact"
Im a best friend and we have only met once
dosent like me being around other kbers flurting

the list goes on

In both cases on msn, the friendship started from 2 websites, was innocent to start with, chatted more on msn, and after a while I started feeling uncomfortable. The friendship got more and more intense even though it was online and i could not see the person.

**Kittyhawk** · 6th July 2008, 20:27

Who Becomes a Stalker

Stalkers are usually isolated and lonely, coming from the "disadvantaged" of our society; however, a
stalker can occupy any place in our entire social spectrum. Often, the stalking may be triggered by a
significant trauma or loss in the life of the perpetrator, usually within at least seven years of the stalking
behavior. (For example, relationship dissolution or divorce, job termination, loss/potential loss of a
child, or an ill parent.) Most stalkers are not psychotic. In a comparative study of psychotic versus non-
psychotic stalkers (Mullen et al. 1999), 63% of the sample was found to be suffering from a common
psychiatric condition, such as major depression, personality disorder, or substance dependence--with
personality disorder being the most common diagnosis.

Cyberstalking and Cyberstalkers

Cyberstalking is an extension of the physical act of stalking; however, the behavior occurs using
electronic mediums, such as the Internet and computer sypware. Someone who is physically stalking
an individual may employ cyberstalking as another means to pursue, harass, or force contact. Or,
cyberstalking may be the sole means of surveillance and pursuit of the victim. The stalker may join
forums they know their target frequents, and pose as someone else in an attempt to contact their target,
or they may contact other members to get information about the target or defame their character. They
may use spyware to access their target's computer and the personal information contained within.
Given the vast distances that the Internet spans, a "pure" cyberstalker will never move beyond electronic
mediums and into physical stalking. Still, this does not mean that the behavior is any less distressing,
frightening, or damaging, and a cyberstalker's motives can fit any of the categories described above.
Moreover, given the ability of individuals to ‘mask’ their identity when using the Internet, linking the
harassment to one particular individual can be difficult. Programs that mask IP (Internet Protocol)
addresses, and anonymous remailers are merely two examples that hinder the identification of the
stalker and their (digital) location.

Intimacy Seeker

The intimacy seeker seeks to establish an intimate, loving relationship with their victim. To them, the
victim is a long sought-after soul mate, and they were meant to be together. Also, they may have the
delusion that the victim is in love with them--usually called erotomania. They may interpret any kind of
response from the victim as encouragement, even negative responses. This stalker may write letters,
send gifts, or call their victim. They may believe the victim owes them love because of all they have
invested in stalking them, and is very resistant to changing their beliefs. The intimacy seeker has an
inflated sense of entitlement, and if they recognize they are being rejected, this stalker may become
threatening, or may try to harm the victim in some way, sometimes using violence. (In this way, they may
become a rejected stalker, see above.) This stalker may become jealous if their victim enters or
continues a romantic relationship with another person. After the rejected stalker, the intimacy seeker is
the most persistent type of stalker. They are usually unresponsive to legal sanctions, viewing them as
challenges to overcome that demonstrate their love for the victim.

Incompetent Suitor

The Incompetent Suitor desires a romantic or intimate relationship with the victim but is impaired in their
social and courting skills. This stalker may be very narcissistic, and cut off from victim's feelings (lack of
empathy). The incompetent believes that anyone should be attracted to them. Typically, this stalker will
repeatedly ask for dates, or call on the phone, even after being rejected. They may attempt physical
contact by trying hold the victim's hand or kiss the victim, however, the will not become physically violent
or threatening. The incompetent suitor is less persistent than others, and is likely to have stalked
numerous others in the past, and will probably do so in the future. They will quickly stop stalking if
threatened with legal action or after receiving counseling.

**limbimtimwim** · 6th July 2008, 20:37

Gahhhhhhhh that's some scary shit.

I've had someone infatuated with me. One simple act of kindness to her when she was at her weakest and she took it the wrong way. I felt bad having to brush her off so many times. But she has got over it I think. She stopped txting several times a day after about.. two or three weeks. No idea why she did that really, I'm no Brad Pitt. Just an ex-flatmate from way back when.

Good luck with your stalker!

**98tls** · 6th July 2008, 20:40

Another way round this is to say "fuck it take your pants off then" when he does hit the floor in uncontrolled laughter.

**FJRider** · 6th July 2008, 20:45

Originally Posted by 98tls

Another way round this is to say "fuck it take your pants off then" when he does hit the floor in uncontrolled laughter.

or say ... "SORRY ... don't smoke"

**sinfull** · 6th July 2008, 21:00

Originally Posted by Kittyhawk

Who Becomes a Stalker

Cyberstalking and Cyberstalkers

Intimacy Seeker

Incompetent Suitor

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Awww geee Kitty, can't we just dispence with all these formallities and just meet up finally ?
Pleaseeeeee i don't think i can hold out much longer the suspence is just driving me crazy, I so long to feel your touch !

**Kittyhawk** · 6th July 2008, 21:36

Originally Posted by 98tls

Another way round this is to say "fuck it take your pants off then" when he does hit the floor in uncontrolled laughter.

mmmm maybe

Originally Posted by sinfull

Awww geee Kitty, can't we just dispence with all these formallities and just meet up finally ?
Pleaseeeeee i don't think i can hold out much longer the suspence is just driving me crazy, I so long to feel your touch !

Ohhh noo Im too scared to meet, I like hiding behind my pc sussing out my victims..."you are such a lovely person Sinfull just lovely"

**Kittyhawk** · 6th July 2008, 21:47

Originally Posted by limbimtimwim

Gahhhhhhhh that's some scary shit.

I've had someone infatuated with me. One simple act of kindness to her when she was at her weakest and she took it the wrong way. I felt bad having to brush her off so many times. But she has got over it I think. She stopped txting several times a day after about.. two or three weeks. No idea why she did that really, I'm no Brad Pitt. Just an ex-flatmate from way back when.

Good luck with your stalker!

Yeah seems like women tend to lean more towards emotional ties, and sometimes dont even know they are doing it. I'll admit that at one point i was texting my bf a little too much, which to me felt ok but to him it wasnt, if he hadnt brought it to my attention I wouldnt have known...lol.

**sinfull** · 7th July 2008, 09:04

Originally Posted by Kittyhawk

mmmm maybe

Ohhh noo Im too scared to meet, I like hiding behind my pc sussing out my victims..."you are such a lovely person Sinfull just lovely"

Seeee i told you fellas, she is THE one !!! And she loves me ! Look !! Its there in writing !!!! In an anorgramy sort of way, but i know what she was saying so thats all that matters !

**Kittyhawk** · 7th July 2008, 13:13

Originally Posted by sinfull

Seeee i told you fellas, she is THE one !!! And she loves me ! Look !! Its there in writing !!!! In an anorgramy sort of way, but i know what she was saying so thats all that matters !

ROFL But Im a lady, I like to do ladies things. ok ok I'll admit it...Sinfull you are my one, my one and only........do do do dooo

*breathes deeply ohhhhh yeaaaa thats it Sinfull....type to me baby!!! Ill stay behind my screen as im that perfect woman you dream of!!!!

**sinfull** · 7th July 2008, 13:16

Originally Posted by Kittyhawk

ROFL But Im a lady, I like to do ladies things. ok ok I'll admit it...Sinfull you are my one, my one and only........do do do dooo

*breathes deeply ohhhhh yeaaaa thats it Sinfull....type to me baby!!! Ill stay behind my screen as im that perfect woman you dream of!!!!

Nah sorry your old news now kitty ! I'm stalking Nodrog now, he has parts for my bike !

**Kittyhawk** · 7th July 2008, 13:23

Originally Posted by sinfull

Nah sorry your old news now kitty ! I'm stalking Nodrog now, he has parts for my bike !

but but...I love you i dont want this to end I MUST keep in contact as im infatuated with you..you are such a lovely person, can I come over and hug you or hold hands while we watch tv??