Online stalkers?

**sinfull** · 7th July 2008, 13:38

Originally Posted by Kittyhawk

but but...I love you i dont want this to end I MUST keep in contact as im infatuated with you..you are such a lovely person, can I come over and hug you or hold hands while we watch tv??

Oh ok then ! Jesus the things a man has to do (Polishes the cuffs up)! But If Nodrog rings you have to promise to be quiet ok ?

**mstriumph** · 7th July 2008, 13:43

Originally Posted by Hitcher

How to get stalked? Provide lurid personal information and photos together with details of your email and preferably home phone and street address to absolute strangers. Engage in flirtatious behaviour and other come-ons. That should work a treat.

not really fair comment .......
i've been pestered online - despite the 'block' facility .... and i'm the LAST person to provide any personal details to ANYone, let alone strangers ....

... neither do i engage in double-entendres, cyber eyelash-batting or any OTHER 'comeons' ......

it can be difficult being female when all you want to do is chat .......

**ManDownUnder** · 7th July 2008, 13:44

Originally Posted by Spiderpig

Ever been stalked online? What are the signs, how do you know that a lurker is waiting for you...you are the victim and you dont even know it.

Do you bump into them more than your friends, or at "convenient" times for them... ? If the alarm bells are ringing then the chances are good.

**NOMIS** · 7th July 2008, 14:12

Damn im a stalker....!

**Blossom** · 7th July 2008, 14:34

I had an ex who stalked me for a while. but he really was the harmless type.
The funniest thing he did was a couple of days before I got married he turned up at our house when the man was out and offered to "take me away from all this" and fly me over to Fiji. That he just wanted me to know I didnt have to get married if I didnt want to and that he would always be waiting.

Gawd I cant believe I went out with him in the first place. Longest 1mth relationship I ever had.

**SpeedyGirl** · 7th July 2008, 15:10

Interesting, i had an 'in person' stalker for awhile, solved it by moving cities....

and thank god he does not live in this country anymore. After that learned self defence and a big lesson about ex's

Funnily enough the worst online stalker i had was female!! Go figure! Nothing I ever said or anyway I acted could be mistaken for being interested in her and she knew i was straight??!! She finally gave up and left me alone after 6 months...

will keep a look out for any new ones, but i have my very own bodyguard thesedays

**scumdog** · 7th July 2008, 15:13

Originally Posted by SpeedyGirl

Interesting, i had an 'in person' stalker for awhile, solved it by moving cities....

and thank god he does not live in this country anymore. After that learned self defence and a big lesson about ex's

Funnily enough the worst online stalker i had was female!! Go figure! Nothing I ever said or anyway I acted could be mistaken for being interested in her and she knew i was straight??!! She finally gave up and left me alone after 6 months...

will keep a look out for any new ones, but i have my very own bodyguard thesedays

And I've been stalking you for all this time darling and you've never noticed...mwahahaha

**SpeedyGirl** · 7th July 2008, 15:17

Originally Posted by scumdog

And I've been stalking you for all this time darling and you've never noticed...mwahahaha

Oh i did, but i like you stalking me!!!!

i am waiting for the naked streak down the road!

**peasea** · 7th July 2008, 15:19

Originally Posted by SpeedyGirl

Interesting, i had an 'in person' stalker for awhile, solved it by moving cities....

and thank god he does not live in this country anymore. After that learned self defence and a big lesson about ex's

Funnily enough the worst online stalker i had was female!! Go figure! Nothing I ever said or anyway I acted could be mistaken for being interested in her and she knew i was straight??!! She finally gave up and left me alone after 6 months...

will keep a look out for any new ones, but i have my very own bodyguard thesedays

Conversely I tried snagging a lady a few years back, didn't stalk her or anything but I was pretty persistent. She finally put it on the line and turned me down. "Oh well, get over it" I told myself but I later discovered she was gay, so I didn't feel so bad.

I got a better one later anyway!!!!

**peasea** · 7th July 2008, 15:20

Originally Posted by SpeedyGirl

Oh i did, but i like you stalking me!!!!

i am waiting for the naked streak down the road!

Get the camera ready, that we gotta see!

**Kittyhawk** · 7th July 2008, 15:20

Originally Posted by sinfull

Oh ok then ! Jesus the things a man has to do (Polishes the cuffs up)! But If Nodrog rings you have to promise to be quiet ok ?

Thats ok I'll hush, but Ill try not to stalk when im down in Tauranga for the rest of the week.

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What I cant understand is why people do it. Why the need to have that contact with someone who they are obsessed about and the urge to hide behind the computer screen.

Is it because they feel threatened in person about their image, fear of rejection within society while socialising out of place, worried about getting found out?

The mind controlling and playing on ones beliefs is some scary stuff, I almost ended up in a relationship because of that, and he was very much an egotistic "Im always going to be better than you" type of guy. Always made me feel bad bout myself and steered conversations to force me and others to compliment him. The fact he was romantic and affectionate alone with him was nice, but around other guys, I felt the vibe of where I had to be a different person and not the naughty flirtatious me. Also a controlling grip to my neck where his fingers dug into my nerves one evening while we were watching a movie with another of my mates as he walked past behind the couch, sent shivers down my spine. Im glad i trusted my gut feeling.