Sex - or no sex?

[Her_C4]

Once heard a saying "A stray dog is looking for something it didn't get at home" Send a pic before you come up this way aye.

ha ha ha don't flatter yourself bud.

You really didn't read the thread did ya?

[doc]

oops . only teasing

[Her_C4]

oops . only teasing

awwww come 'ere

[SixPackBack]

Interesting that the guys have trivialised the question with their responses

So if you just got married and found out that you and your new wife were never going to have sex again - what would be your response? Would you stay or would you go??

Men are far less complicated B4, the vast majority [on KB at least] would prefer a long ride or trackday followed by steak and alcohol and a good hard root-sleep afterwards would be impossible for them to avoid. You can bet not more than a millisecond after the vinegar stroke their mind is empty, their conscience clear.

Men do not as a rule consider 'emotion', generally they are ready for action at a moments notice and 'asexuality' is something many of them will have only just heard of. All across the country KB's men folk are scratching their balls and picking their noses wondering why the fuck any sane man would turn down a root!?

When it comes to sex men have two modes-stand by and shag

[scumdog]

Meh, sex is waaay over-rated.

But then when it's on tap you would think that, wouldn't you?

[McJim]

Meh, sex is waaay over-rated.

But then when it's on tap you would think that, wouldn't you?

Hmmm - tried it on the worktop in the kitchen once but have to confess I avoided going anywhere near the taps in case they got lodged somewhere uncomfortable.

Seriously though if you are unfortunate enough to marry an assexual without knowing it there are toys available (Wanking isn't just a place in China!) also there is the fact that if the marriage remains unconsumated it can be anulled pretty quickly.

[ManDownUnder]

Two key aspects here - intimacy and sex. The two are related obviously but they also exist in isolation one to the other.

Sadly, a lack of sex is generally construed as a lack of intimacy by a guy, and a lack of intimacy leads to a lack of sex for a woman (or in other words, a lack of sex starves a guy of intimacy, so he doesn't feel like being intimate)...

... which leads to a woman feeling that lack of intimacy, which is an esential precursor to sex - so the sex doesn't happen...

.. which leads to the guy feeling a lack of intimacy... and around and around and around we go.

The solution? There are a three which people traditionally fall back on.
* Affairs (get what you need elsewhere, be it intimacy, sex or both...)
* Help - counselling... but this is an ocassion to bring out the big guns. Call someone with a degree, not someone that's done the 6 week block course because they think they're good at listening and they might have a go...
* Separate

In the end, any relationship that is not what it purported to originally be is going to struggle. Marrying someone that then refused to engage in a sexual relationship is called tying yourself to a freind... (without benefits).

OUCH

[Goblin]

Men are far less complicated B4, the vast majority [on KB at least] would prefer a long ride or trackday followed by steak and alcohol and a good hard root-sleep afterwards would be impossible for them to avoid. You can bet not more than a millisecond after the vinegar stroke their mind is empty, their conscience clear.

When it comes to sex men have two modes-stand by and shag

That's what I love about guys....so simple.

[kevfromcoro]

its a funny thing sex......i have mates that wouldent shag a lady for a few weeks after knowing them.have to get to know them 1st..bla bla
iam a bit different ......

[Her_C4]

Meh, sex is waaay over-rated........

Naaaaaah - surely not?!

Hmmm - tried it on the worktop in the kitchen once but have to confess I avoided going anywhere near the taps in case they got lodged somewhere uncomfortable.

Seriously though if you are unfortunate enough to marry an assexual without knowing it there are toys available (Wanking isn't just a place in China!) also there is the fact that if the marriage remains unconsumated it can be anulled pretty quickly.

Yes I guess if you decided that love without sex was an untenable option you could indeed get your relationship annulled - gosh, didn't think that they did that anymore

Two key aspects here - intimacy and sex. .....

In the end, any relationship that is not what it purported to originally be is going to struggle. Marrying someone that then refused to engage in a sexual relationship is called tying yourself to a freind... (without benefits).

OUCH

Would they still be a friend though? Surely it would be deceitful, in which case you would presumably find if difficult to remain friends. Imagine being the guy or gal preparing to satisfy your sexual fantasies for on wedding night / honeymoon with your darling partner only to find that it ain't gonna be a happening thing!! I would imagine that the frustration levels would be pretty damned high.

That's what I love about guys....so simple.

I reckon!!

[Bikernereid]

I spent a year with an incredibly unsexual man which after being with someone before hand that was sex mad was hard to say the least. The aforementioned man was more into massages than sex which was ok for a while but drove me to distraction after a year. yes you can love someone but if you are a sexual being and have a good appetite you will become very frustrated. Love does not conquer all!!

I do not condone extra partnership affairs but I do believe that men who are not into sex are just like the female counterparts and may be like that for many different reasons. In hindsight if I had been in a better place mentally and had been strong enough to stand up to a more dominanting partner I would have advocated counselling. Not for selfish reasons but becasue I believed there were underlying psychological issues that needed to be addressed. And never have.

Not wanting to be with a partner who is not 'sexual' does not make you a bad person. It is like being a biker and not wanting to be with someone who is not, you want to be able to share your 'hobby' with that special person. I do believe, however, that if you enter into a relationship with another person knowing full well that you are not a sexual person you should declare it in advance. Anything else would be cruel!!

[Pussy]

That's what I love about guys....so simple.

Men are either hungry or horny... so if your bloke doesn't have a hard-on, Goblin, make him a sandwich

[Goblin]

Men are either hungry or horny... so if your bloke doesn't have a hard-on, Goblin, make him a sandwich

Yeah, well he doesn't eat much.

[Her_C4]

I spent a year with an incredibly unsexual man which after being with someone before hand that was sex mad was hard to say the least. The aforementioned man was more into massages than sex which was ok for a while but drove me to distraction after a year. yes you can love someone but if you are a sexual being and have a good appetite you will become very frustrated. Love does not conquer all!!

I do not condone extra partnership affairs but I do believe that men who are not into sex are just like the female counterparts and may be like that for many different reasons. In hindsight if I had been in a better place mentally and had been strong enough to stand up to a more dominanting partner I would have advocated counselling. Not for selfish reasons but becasue I believed there were underlying psychological issues that needed to be addressed. And never have.

Not wanting to be with a partner who is not 'sexual' does not make you a bad person. It is like being a biker and not wanting to be with someone who is not, you want to be able to share your 'hobby' with that special person. I do believe, however, that if you enter into a relationship with another person knowing full well that you are not a sexual person you should declare it in advance. Anything else would be cruel!!

No it doesn't make you a bad person - I agree, and I like your anology.

Given some of the responses - I see that perhaps I didn't think it through very well - given the audience, and the question of finding yourself married to someone with a very different sexual appetite to yourself without prior knowledge would be nigh on impossible these days.

[Bikernereid]

No it doesn't make you a bad person - I agree, and I like your anology.

Given some of the responses - I see that perhaps I didn't think it through very well - given the audience, and the question of finding yourself married to someone with a very different sexual appetite to yourself without prior knowledge would be nigh on impossible these days.

I think that society has a lot to do with expectations these days. We are always told in the media that we should all be at it like rabbits and that if we are not havign 50 orgasms a day we are not cool enough! We have advertising and media tell us that we should have everything we want and that anything less means we are less beings. People are 'taught' not to settle and that relationships like consumer good are easily disposable. Relationships like sex take communication, effort, time and understanding and in my hubmle opinion lots of people can't be bothered to put the time in if things don't go exactly as they want, expect or demand.

I still advocate truth and honesty, old fashioned I know but that is just me.