Sexual harrasment is not a joke!!

**illcacophony** · 1st October 2008, 16:26

That's a pretty funny article though... even though it's wrong. I can't believe that sorta thing goes on. I've worked in a division of the building industry for 12 years now, seen heaps of crazy drunken times, but never that kinda bullshit. A flick to the nuts = a punch in the face. ...In my opinion.
Intersting read though, not something you see in the news everyday.

**Dani-D** · 1st October 2008, 16:33

I had a clown grab my ass while I was on the bike at the lights, in Peak Hour traffic on Rangitiki Line a couple of weeks back! Madness! Scared the crap out of me having someone even touch me while on the bike - wasn't expecting that and jump half a mile. Hes bloody lucky I didnt dump the bike.

He jumped out of a van next to me, grabbed my butt and asked for my number! He got the standard 0800 get f$%ked number after I recovered.

**Hemex** · 1st October 2008, 16:56

Originally Posted by 007XX

mmmm... yes, I know what you mean. However, a lot of individuals don't get the message that well: I'd tried the elbow in the stomach at an earlier party, but to no avail...I wasn't keen on getting anywhere his nuts, even Bobbit style

And you're right, I felt it was time for his wife to see what he was really up to. Tell you what, she was watching him like a hawk from then on and he was behaving really well eh!

hahaha for all you know she might have stuck the fork in!!

Well hes learnt his lesson im sure!

I think being a woman subjects you to a lot more harrasment and that sucks!!
Just the usual staring by perv's, creepy smiles, pick up lines.. I could get slaughtered for this but Men can be absolute bastards which brings us to ... man on man harrasment, the start of this thread, thats messed up!!!

**Quartermile** · 1st October 2008, 17:04

The situation took its toll on Mr C and he ended up leaving his job through stress and wound up a sickness beneficiary.

What a crock, turns the whole situation into yet annother joke making a mockery of NZ

**Dani-D** · 1st October 2008, 17:06

Man on man happens more than you'd think. I *know* of a situation that once happened in the barracks involving a man ripping the towel off another guy and admiring things. Got messy and angry and it went on for awhile before it was brought to my attention. Potentially violent as well.

Guys tend to close up about these things and not deal with them at the time and in an appropriate manner. Eventually it comes out and and they do snap and react. Not normally in a good way.

Other guys all treat it as a joke and not a reality as well, until the attention falls on them that is. So its not seen as sexual harrassment by them and dealt with as such. By the time it IS acknowledged for what it is, the problems already out of hand.

Think about it. What would you do, as a guy, if you had another guy grab your ass and say how hot it was? Be honest now.

Would you
a. laugh and say "Thanks!" It would take a strong confident guy to do that.
b. whack the hand away and say "Oi! Get off!" - perhaps
c. Turn and slam the guy up against a wall and tell him exactly what your going to do to him if he even LOOKS at you again?
d. freak out about poeple thinking your gay, like its a major problem or social stigmata, and go out of your way to prove otherwise, and yell at him to "Bugger off F%g!"...?

**Sparrowhawk** · 1st October 2008, 17:08

I was at a stag night recently, and some guys were 'sack wacking', and saying 'do you take eftpos' and trying to run their hands up guys butt cracks. Most of the guys that were doing it know me, and left me alone (wisely). One guy I didn't know was about to try it, until I turned round to see him behind me with his hand getting WAY to close. I suggested (nicely of course) that if he continued then I'd punch his face so hard he'd be shitting teeth for a week

So it does really happen, although why these dickwits think it's funny is beyond me.

**Hemex** · 1st October 2008, 17:16

Originally Posted by Sparrowhawk

So it does really happen, although why these dickwits think it's funny is beyond me.

Its a known fact that its easier for women to try stuff with other women rather than it is for men... Maybe these guys are desperate and end up doing shit like this to feed their cravings? Just a thought....

But yeah I'd probably stick my fist halfway down his face if I had a straight guy touch me the wrong way!! If a gay dude does it.. hes probably messing with ya.. knowing that you'd feel uncomfortable! Not my scene either... might give him a girly slap.. lol

**Hemex** · 1st October 2008, 17:19

Originally Posted by Dani-D

I had a clown grab my ass while I was on the bike at the lights, in Peak Hour traffic on Rangitiki Line a couple of weeks back! Madness! Scared the crap out of me having someone even touch me while on the bike - wasn't expecting that and jump half a mile. Hes bloody lucky I didnt dump the bike.

He jumped out of a van next to me, grabbed my butt and asked for my number! He got the standard 0800 get f$%ked number after I recovered.

Should have given him the 'Oh 800.. your farked!!!' and stuck your bike lid up his cahunee!

**alanzs** · 1st October 2008, 17:23

Originally Posted by Dani-D

Man on man happens more than you'd think. I *know* of a situation that once happened in the barracks involving a man ripping the towel off another guy and admiring things. Got messy and angry and it went on for awhile before it was brought to my attention. Potentially violent as well.

Guys tend to close up about these things and not deal with them at the time and in an appropriate manner. Eventually it comes out and and they do snap and react. Not normally in a good way.

Other guys all treat it as a joke and not a reality as well, until the attention falls on them that is. So its not seen as sexual harrassment by them and dealt with as such. By the time it IS acknowledged for what it is, the problems already out of hand.

Think about it. What would you do, as a guy, if you had another guy grab your ass and say how hot it was? Be honest now.

Would you
a. laugh and say "Thanks!" It would take a strong confident guy to do that.
b. whack the hand away and say "Oi! Get off!" - perhaps
c. Turn and slam the guy up against a wall and tell him exactly what your going to do to him if he even LOOKS at you again?
d. freak out about poeple thinking your gay, like its a major problem or social stigmata, and go out of your way to prove otherwise, and yell at him to "Bugger off F%g!"...?

You forgot:
e. Demand that I'll need your credit card please,
f. Mention my ass is exit only,
g. Say "You have mistaken me for your father/brother/mother/sister/grandpa/grandma/aunt/uncle/cousin,"
h. Ask "if you'll respect me in the morning?"

**Hemex** · 1st October 2008, 17:36

Originally Posted by Dani-D

Think about it. What would you do, as a guy, if you had another guy grab your ass and say how hot it was? Be honest now.

Would you
a. laugh and say "Thanks!" It would take a strong confident guy to do that.
b. whack the hand away and say "Oi! Get off!" - perhaps
c. Turn and slam the guy up against a wall and tell him exactly what your going to do to him if he even LOOKS at you again?
d. freak out about poeple thinking your gay, like its a major problem or social stigmata, and go out of your way to prove otherwise, and yell at him to "Bugger off F%g!"...?

If it was done as a joke... probably A... if the guy was being a dick in a public place probably C

**alanzs** · 1st October 2008, 19:46

Originally Posted by MXheman

If it was done as a joke... probably A... if the guy was being a dick in a public place probably C

But you'd never know it was a joke unless you accepted...

**Hemex** · 1st October 2008, 21:28

Originally Posted by alanzs

But you'd never know it was a joke unless you accepted...

I think one would know if some guy was just having fun or trying to be 'Mr. Cocky' within his peer... and take it from there...

**Sparrowhawk** · 2nd October 2008, 07:04

Originally Posted by Dani-D

Think about it. What would you do, as a guy, if you had another guy grab your ass and say how hot it was? Be honest now.

Would you
a. laugh and say "Thanks!" It would take a strong confident guy to do that.
b. whack the hand away and say "Oi! Get off!" - perhaps
c. Turn and slam the guy up against a wall and tell him exactly what your going to do to him if he even LOOKS at you again?
d. freak out about poeple thinking your gay, like its a major problem or social stigmata, and go out of your way to prove otherwise, and yell at him to "Bugger off F%g!"...?

Probably C to be honest, or something along those lines. Normally grabbing a wrist & twisting, or bending a finger back is effective too. Slightly more subtle.