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    Finances in marriage meltdown

    I see that there has been a few topics on here regarding marriage/relationship problems that have made interesting reading. Without going into detail, my marriage is apparently over and my wife has asked me to leave. We have three small children who are my main concern, however I have a question regarding finance. If I leave do I have to pay all the mortgage on our house? We have a joint mortgage, I work full time, my wife works part-time one day a week so doesn't earn very much. As it's a joint mortgage would I have to pay half of the weekly amount or the full amount as she is not earning enough? Just trying to do some figures and it looks like I'll be screwed if I have to pay the full amount. Also what about bills on the house, rates, power, water, phone or will that be her responsibility?

    Thanks

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    Fuck that, tell her to leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bytor View Post
    I see that there has been a few topics on here regarding marriage/relationship problems that have made interesting reading. Without going into detail, my marriage is apparently over and my wife has asked me to leave. We have three small children who are my main concern, however I have a question regarding finance. If I leave do I have to pay all the mortgage on our house? We have a joint mortgage, I work full time, my wife works part-time one day a week so doesn't earn very much. As it's a joint mortgage would I have to pay half of the weekly amount or the full amount as she is not earning enough? Just trying to do some figures and it looks like I'll be screwed if I have to pay the full amount. Also what about bills on the house, rates, power, water, phone or will that be her responsibility?

    Thanks
    I struck this very thing when I split from my first wife. The family court judge ruled that as she was still living in the house that she had to pay the mortgage, rates, insurance etc. She received an accomadation top up to the DPB to assist with that.

    As it turned out we would have both been better off if we had both moved out, sold the house and split the proceeds.
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    Neither partner can legally tell the other to leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bytor View Post
    I see that there has been a few topics on here regarding marriage/relationship problems that have made interesting reading. Without going into detail, my marriage is apparently over and my wife has asked me to leave. We have three small children who are my main concern, however I have a question regarding finance. If I leave do I have to pay all the mortgage on our house? We have a joint mortgage, I work full time, my wife works part-time one day a week so doesn't earn very much. As it's a joint mortgage would I have to pay half of the weekly amount or the full amount as she is not earning enough? Just trying to do some figures and it looks like I'll be screwed if I have to pay the full amount. Also what about bills on the house, rates, power, water, phone or will that be her responsibility?

    Thanks
    Just say "NO YOU FUCKIN LEAVE"

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    dude

    Mate --Um I just typed a bloody big long bit of advise about the financial and emotional reality of your situation and what I feel you should do.
    Instead if you want to feel free to call me -um been there done that .
    call me if you want --8375005 or 0210354615

    Oh and mate --make fucken sure your kids know you love em and that it isn't their fault. Give em all a bloody big hug
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dooly View Post
    Fuck that, tell her to leave.
    as he said...once you are you are out.....
    should know the answer to this..but not sure,................
    done it that many times .i have worn a track down the aisle

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    Sell the house and split the proceeds.

    If she don't want to leave, yet she cant afford to buy it herself, tough shit.

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    Kill the bitch and hide the body, claim her life insurance to pay the mortgage and claim dpb to stay home and enjoy your new house with your kids....wish thats wot I had done

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    I was overseas when we broke up. She got everything.
    Was a very hard few years.
    Everything good now. (sort off)
    Best of luck mate.
    it isnt easy and it gets worse.
    Just lucky i found a great lady To help me get through the worse parts.
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    Been there, done that. As the other guys have said, feel free to PM (or call) for a chat.

    Aside from that, my only real advice is:

    Engage the services of a good solicitor.

    Immediately.

    And, trust me: It might be hard to fathom at this moment, but in due course, you will be happier than you have been in years. This is a positive step.
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    Quote Originally Posted by **R1** View Post
    Kill the bitch and hide the body, claim her life insurance to pay the mortgage and claim dpb to stay home and enjoy your new hose with your kids....wish thats wot I had done
    You bought a new hose with the payout??.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maha View Post
    You bought a new hose with the payout??.....
    It was all he had left after being taken to the cleaners.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Highlander View Post
    It was all he had left after being taken to the cleaners.
    Can happen.....my 1st marriage ended a bit like that....she even took the clothes pegs....

    But I had the last laugh....I bought some more..

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    Quote Originally Posted by jrandom View Post
    My only real advice is:

    Engage the services of a good solicitor.

    Immediately.

    And, trust me: It might be hard to fathom at this moment, but in due course, you will be happier than you have been in years. This is a positive step.
    Probably the best advice you could get ...on this site anyway...
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