My little angel...

[XxKiTtiExX]

hey kittie, like everyone who has already posted, my heatfelt condolences to you and your man, May 2009 bring your joy and happiness, and may you remember always the blessing your precious baby gave despite the shortness of time that you shared

my luv

H00dz

2009 will bring us everything we have ever wanted, and then some.

Gone but never forgotten,as a mere male we seem to bear the brunt of the emotional rollercoaster,my wife said after she had had 2 stillbirths her then tosser husband said after each birth,tough we'll have another and went to the pub.She managed a live birth after the first(still born) and before the second one,and more after.Sometimes you do wonder if they survived what would their quality of life be,almost like nature making her mind up for you.

Alot of people have said to me "oh well just have another one". Sometimes you want to just scream at them and tell them to go and almost carry to term, then come back with the "oh well" comments. I've had others tell me I shouldn't have another baby, and that I should have gone straight back to work. Even attempting to tell me how I should be feeling. I've had inlaws make nasty comments claiming what happened as being my fault as the mother (completely untrue what happened was beyond anyones control, we did NOTHING wrong, I did nothing wrong, why people can't get that into their heads I just do not know). We've taken the time to make up our minds and have decided that yes we will be trying to have another baby, despite what others feel we should/shouldn't be doing. And I really do hope it happens sooner rather than later. No way will it ever fix whats happened. I do realize that. It doesn't and never will replace the little girl that we have lost but it will definately bring us both alot of happiness and we will definately cherish having our second child even more so (spoilt brat in the making).

[Patrick]

I didn't read the whole thread.... too sad. 2009 has just got to be a better year. All the best to you.

[mashman]

Alot of people have said to me "oh well just have another one". Sometimes you want to just scream at them and tell them to go and almost carry to term, then come back with the "oh well" comments. I've had others tell me I shouldn't have another baby, and that I should have gone straight back to work. Even attempting to tell me how I should be feeling. I've had inlaws make nasty comments claiming what happened as being my fault as the mother (completely untrue what happened was beyond anyones control, we did NOTHING wrong, I did nothing wrong, why people can't get that into their heads I just do not know). We've taken the time to make up our minds and have decided that yes we will be trying to have another baby, despite what others feel we should/shouldn't be doing. And I really do hope it happens sooner rather than later. No way will it ever fix whats happened. I do realize that. It doesn't and never will replace the little girl that we have lost but it will definately bring us both alot of happiness and we will definately cherish having our second child even more so (spoilt brat in the making).

I watched my sister in law tear herself apart because of his families criticisms of how she led her life when she lost hers at 36 weeks etc... She's diabetic and always takes good care of herself and really really struggled. Such a total and utter shitty attitude, I still can't comprehend it... She did the SANDS group thing and found it of limited help, realising that everyone feels differently, reacts differently and handles grief differently, which I think in turn helped her get her head around what had happened. She has since gone on to have 3 perfeclty healthy kids, never another complication... All the best for your all of your futures(aren't you supposed to spoil 'em all anyway) ...

[scumdog]

Just found this thread while boringly sifting through KB, now wish I hadn't.

Condolences and hope '09 is a better year for you.