Broke my back

[Donut]

nah wouldnt of stoped it, doctor says that my back broke from a severe blow to the top of the head.... back protector wont stop that how ever it would of stoped alot of the bruising and swelling

Dude that sucks.

Think a back protector would have stopped your back from breaking? I wear mine on the open road and have considered it for the daily commute as well.

[discotex]

nah wouldnt of stoped it, doctor says that my back broke from a severe blow to the top of the head.... back protector wont stop that how ever it would of stoped alot of the bruising and swelling

Fark that's nasty. Guess you went head first into the gutter from the sound of it.

Hope it heals up quick. Stay positive man. Sounds like you're having a shit time but seriously there's people WAY worse off out there who have no hope of getting better. Remember that if you find yourself getting a bit stuck in self pity mode and it might help snap you out of it. Works for me anyway.

[mtroskill]

Soldier on bro... things WILL pick up.

[sAsLEX]

As a thought



http://www.evs-sports.com/store/?cat...=4&item_id=216

Would that have helped?

[Donut]

i would like to think there are man but it only gets worse for me i have lost my partner and with it my health, i am waiting for a diabetes test result that i got because i have been blacking out, onve on the stove and once on the bike.... unjuries both times.... now i have a broken back..... i half own the house with my partner and just cant get away from it all... and now there is another guy involved, she isnt been fair to me and i feel like i am been used and strung along for the ride. but after 5 years im finding it really hard to let go..... pathetic i know but its just the way it is.

unfortunatly at the moment the only way isnt up because im damn sure i havent hit the bottom...... yet.....and ive already tried sucide which resulted in been arrested by 10 cops.... whats left for me

Fark that's nasty. Guess you went head first into the gutter from the sound of it.

Hope it heals up quick. Stay positive man. Sounds like you're having a shit time but seriously there's people WAY worse off out there who have no hope of getting better. Remember that if you find yourself getting a bit stuck in self pity mode and it might help snap you out of it. Works for me anyway.

[Donut]

probably but then again i woulda crashed earlier at a higher speed.. dont c how anyone can ride with one of those bloody things on

As a thought



http://www.evs-sports.com/store/?cat...=4&item_id=216

Would that have helped?

[EJK]

Would this have helped?



joking buddy lol


Like someone above said, Solder on! Being paralized isn't funny (and thank goodness you are alright). My uncle was paralized during his early career (not bike related) but by seeing him on a chair with 4 wheels, it's really not funny.

[Warr]

Hey mate sorry to hear of your situation..not good. What ward are you in at hospital ?
I'm up there a couple of times a week with my recovery and happy to call by.

... ps You may not remember but I live over on Maitland St, 1 block from your place.

[Trumpess]

Donut .... Im so sorry to hear of your accident and injuries and on top of that your woes of life. It sucks.
Though I will say you are so lucky its not worse and your not flat on your back for the next year. That you have to be extremley thankfull of!
You have an angel looking after you!
My father is a paraplegic due to a work accident, once a lover of bikes but is no more. It is not a pleasent experience to go through, but it is most certianly a challenging one, for everyone involved in life.

I reckon you have come to crossroads in your life.
It is time to reflect during your healing process.
A chance to put things into perpective and perhaps get things right or make things better. This is your chance of doing that.
It will make you a better person (not that your not already) but it will make you stronger and wiser too!

All the best in getting back on your feet.

[discotex]

i would like to think there are man but it only gets worse for me

Dude that's pretty bad but it's still low on the suffering scale. I know it doesn't feel like it but there are 5 billion+ people on this planet and you still have a better life than more than half of them.

Think of the poor kids in West Africa who've been used as pawns in someone elses war. Can't read and write but can fire an ak47 at their mates. Think of all the people who lose limbs and worse from unexploded ordinance through no fault of their own. How about all the kids in africa who will die from HIV. The list goes on and on man. Kiwi's have if fucking cushy to be blunt.

Just gotta pick yourself up and start thinking of positive stuff rather than promoting the downward spiral. If you constantly think about how it'll get worse then I can guarantee it will. That much thought about it will make it a reality. Same applies for positive thought thankfully.

[karla]

It isn't weird for it to be hard to let go of your partner - that's human! You gotta go through the feelings - hate to tell anyone this 'cos I hate "feehling" myself. But there is no other way.

Suicide is a way out - if you want to end your life. But if you really want is to get over what you are feeling and come back to a normal way of being - that to me means no longer addicted to the idea of a relationship, sex or dependent on quick fixes like drugs or alcohol, then you need to let go of staying where you are and be willing to change. Life may end up being better than you have ever dreamed. Believe it or not, that is often the way when we bottom out.

You've started a recovery process by writing things down, keep doing that - get honest, keep on talking to people, get some counselling, do some group work with others who have been where you are now, and you will work through it.

Just suggestions - they worked for me, and it's easy for me to say that from the lighter side of the street. I didn't have an accident, I can't put myself in your shoes. But I was locked in a prison of my own making once, and now I am able to get out into the sunshine. You are worth it; believe and tell yourself that every day.

[James Deuce]

Dude that's pretty bad but it's still low on the suffering scale. I know it doesn't feel like it but there are 5 billion+ people on this planet and you still have a better life than more than half of them.

Think of the poor kids in West Africa who've been used as pawns in someone elses war. Can't read and write but can fire an ak47 at their mates. Think of all the people who lose limbs and worse from unexploded ordinance through no fault of their own. How about all the kids in africa who will die from HIV. The list goes on and on man. Kiwi's have if fucking cushy to be blunt.

Just gotta pick yourself up and start thinking of positive stuff rather than promoting the downward spiral. If you constantly think about how it'll get worse then I can guarantee it will. That much thought about it will make it a reality. Same applies for positive thought thankfully.

Dude, seriously, that's really, mega-unhelpful. This kind of "buck yourself up" stuff doesn't work and just encourages someone have a tough time to think even less of themselves.

Everyone's suffering is relative, and it deserves to be acknowledged and people deserve help, not back-handed criticism. Find someone a little less fragile to drop your message of doom on and try to understand that context is everything. In the context that encompasses Donut's life, he's having a shit time.

Donut, you'll get that from people who haven't ever, really suffered (which will no doubt get me in the crap with disco and earn a long winded rant about him having suffered in ways I can't imagine) and you need to dismiss it and the person delivering it as unhelpful.

I'll PM my phone number and you are welcome to use it any time. Make sure you talk to people who will listen and not rant back at you.

Auckland dudes and dudesses - someone get in touch with this guy and spend some time with him please. Someone make him a Sunday dinner, and don't make me come up there. Errr, please.

[Warr]

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Auckland dudes and dudesses - someone get in touch with this guy and spend some time with him please. Someone make him a Sunday dinner, and don't make me come up there. Errr, please.

Hi JD, yep all 4 what you said. and am trying to get intouch with donut. And last time I saw him we was in hams

[Donut]

out of the wards now back at home just resting up.
im still at the same place as uncomfortable that is

Hi JD, yep all 4 what you said. and am trying to get intouch with donut. And last time I saw him we was in hams

[vtec]

Donut dude, suicide is the only way to really crystallise being a loser, it is the ultimate selfish act. I've contemplated it plenty of times, but I'm quite the philosopher. No matter how low you are, if you've got your freedom, and food to eat, water to drink and somewhere to sleep you've got everything you need.

Figure out what will make you happy. For me it was getting away as far as I could from my ex while she continued to fuck up other peoples lives. I still love her a bit, but she was/is a selfish bitch. So glad I didn't own property with her, and I was smart enough to know that no matter what I did, chances are she would have messed me up sooner or later, so I only did things that still left an out for me. I bought her a dog, but let her know at the time that it was her dog and she would get it, was a far safer option than having a baby with her which is what she wanted. A $1000 dog is a cheap price to pay for my freedom, and she loves him to bits (I loved him too, but you've got to make sacrifices and know when you are holding on to things to try and hold onto them).

If you own a property with her, whoever's living in it should buy out the other ones ownership. Simple. Cut ties, look after yourself, stop wanting stuff and things, and try being happy and fancy free for a while. I was messed up big time I left the country. Couldn't sleep properly for months and had massive depression issues, but gave me a chance to clear my head and get clear, and work out what I had that was worth having. A bitch torturing you is not worth having. In my opinion the bitch is far more likely to fuck you up than a motorcycle, but different guys handle it differently some are more passionate than others, and those ones suffer the worst.

Get your back better and start making yourself happy, stop subscribing to the worlds demands, and do what YOU want. Watch "into the wild". Watch "you me and dupree". Single guys have it all. I feel sorry for women. They aren't as easily pleased. In fact as Chris Rock said "you can fuck a woman with a diamond dick and she'll still complain. That diamond is cloudy, why didn't you get it at Tiffany's". Hahaha, and yes to the woman that have to suffer my vitriol I'm fully aware that this is a generalisation, and not all women are like that... Just the princesses.

P.S. And kids, don't do drugs. Had to drag my ex to hospital on XMas eve last year after she went on a drug and alcohol binge after we broke up and I'd bought my ticket to Australia. She'd dumped me twice before that. I blame the drugs mostly for making her unsalvagable in our relationship. Funny thing is apparently I'm a square.