Need some womenly advice

**White trash** · 10th February 2005, 08:37

Give it up mate. No bike is worth a relationship.

Oh except a Gixxer 1K. No marrige is worth one of them puppies!

**Slipstream** · 10th February 2005, 08:42

Originally Posted by White trash

Give it up mate. No bike is worth a relationship.

Oh except a Gixxer 1K. No marrige is worth one of them puppies!

Personally...I think a matching Gixxer could improve a relationship

Or so I'm told...er....um...

Here's a banana

**muzz** · 10th February 2005, 08:54

How about getting a sidecar.Being a family man you can put the kid's in the sidecar, wife on the back of bike and all enjoy a days outing. And you still get to ride you can always take the sidecar off for a solo trip.

**scroter** · 10th February 2005, 10:21

If your wifes concerned about the danger side of bikes introducing them to her could be a good idea. sure there are risks in riding but like anything else most of the risks can be managed, agreed not all of them but there are a lot of things you can do to keep yourself relativly safe without compromising the enjoyment. only thing is if something does happen, by being on a bike the damage to vehicle and self is increased. anyway hope it all works out for you and your family and remember you have to have time for yourself too.

oh and if all else fails have a

**bondagebunny** · 11th February 2005, 15:02

Originally Posted by outlawtorn

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals, much appreciated.

I reckon I'll just have to take it slowly, I rekcon once I've got my full license I'll take her on a morning run and see how she likes it. But I do also reckon we'll come along to the next group meetings/rally's if everything permits us to do so. She is the best wife in the world and I do understand her fear but she must also realise I'm not a freaking maniac nor do I like to socialise with maniacs either, I ride a bike because I love the feeling of being on a bike.

Thanks again guys, cheers

and you aint a maniac what are you doing here.

you got two choices - dump her, or learn to ride properly - get your self some lessons,
The excuse someone pulled out on me REALLY means I was not reading the road well enough and failled to allow for the dick head in the car - start putting the blames where it belongs. We all know there are wankers and dickheads out on the road, some on bikes some in cars, and even trucks, but YOU have to be the one who is responsible for your own wellbeing, if you reliy on others to avoid you your missus has reason to worry.

**MSTRS:Me** · 11th February 2005, 16:42

Originally Posted by outlawtorn

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals, much appreciated.

I reckon I'll just have to take it slowly, I rekcon once I've got my full license I'll take her on a morning run and see how she likes it. But I do also reckon we'll come along to the next group meetings/rally's if everything permits us to do so. She is the best wife in the world and I do understand her fear but she must also realise I'm not a freaking maniac nor do I like to socialise with maniacs either, I ride a bike because I love the feeling of being on a bike.

Thanks again guys, cheers

You're welcome. Sounds like you should be able to happily resolve your problem. Besides, you have an interest that you are entitled to & every relationship by it's very nature is a series of compromises. :spudwave:

**ManDownUnder** · 16th February 2005, 12:02

Is there any chance of talking to your wife and finding out WHY she doesn't like the thing?

The danger side of it sounds like the most liekly, closely followed by (and likely compounded by) the time apart.

Until you know what's winding her up you can only guess, and likely get it wrong. Sit down, talk and see what you can do about it.

As has been mentioned, if it's a safety thing - learn to ride, get decent safety gear and just be careful. If it's a time thing - work that out too (I saw mention of sync'ing diaries - go do stuff together etc).

You're married - you're not dead, and you're entitled to do something you enjoy. Whether that's at the expense of your wife or not is over to you and her...

... and now I'll swap my skirt for my pants again (kindly look away)
MDU

**Draco** · 19th February 2005, 09:21

I'm glad to hear your listening to your wife's concerns and not taking the 'my way or the highway' attitude. Most women worry about their husband being killed and having to raise the kids on their own. Do you have life insurance? Just to show your wife that you have the worst case scenario covered, it may give her some peice of mind. Then also show her your gear, armoured, leather whatever your choice is, let her see how good it is. I also find it helps to remind concerned relatives (politely) that bad shit happens to people doing all sorts of things, like Christopher Reeves paralysed riding a horse and Jonah Lomu needing a kidney transplant through illness not injury. You have to live life and have something to look back on later. The sidecar thing is not a silly idea either, a friend of mine is just completing his so he can take his 10yr son out with him. My last suggestion would be a riding course to reassure your wife you are being responsible and increasing your safety by increasing your skill. Hope you guys find a happy ground on this one good luck!

**FROSTY:Me** · 19th February 2005, 09:36

mate its a constant juggling act. I'd suggest the following.
1) GET SOME RIDER TRAINING--AND PRONTO.
No compromise from this bloke here Im sorry matey. cos I hate to say it but ya wife is right -inexperienced rider/busy wet roads -not a good mix.
2) Family trips to the park or the beach don't have to mean taking one vehicle -If ya get my drift.-combine the two and your kids will love it --theres daddy --weeeee
3) trade the road bike in on a traillie -then get a quad for the kids -You'll be seen to be safer and youll be doing the family thing. You wont believe how much your riding will improve.

**Krusti** · 19th February 2005, 09:48

I would say number one get some good training or enrol in an advanced course etc. It is a tricky one because who wants to have to look after the kids when Dads injured, killed etc. Not to mention the extra costs involved if something serious happened to you. Could be that she really loves you and is very worried. Try to lessen the risks, get trained properly.

Then get a baby sitter one day and take her for a SLOW ride. Dont be like some Husbands about and treat her like a dumb bitch, offer to let her ride etc. She has got a financial interest in the bike I suspect and this is money that could be used for something else, always a woory with a young family.

If you can get her to feel that the bike is a joint source of pleasure etc then you are most of the way there.

Cousin of mine wont even let his wife wash his bike, arrogent dork. He nearly died one day when I told my wife to ride the bike home and me take the car after a bike rally. She was hooked after that.

**El Dopa** · 19th February 2005, 10:47

Originally Posted by Draco

I'm glad to hear your listening to your wife's concerns and not taking the 'my way or the highway' attitude. Most women worry about their husband being killed and having to raise the kids on their own. Do you have life insurance? Just to show your wife that you have the worst case scenario covered, it may give her some peice of mind. Then also show her your gear, armoured, leather whatever your choice is, let her see how good it is. I also find it helps to remind concerned relatives (politely) that bad shit happens to people doing all sorts of things, like Christopher Reeves paralysed riding a horse and Jonah Lomu needing a kidney transplant through illness not injury. You have to live life and have something to look back on later. The sidecar thing is not a silly idea either, a friend of mine is just completing his so he can take his 10yr son out with him. My last suggestion would be a riding course to reassure your wife you are being responsible and increasing your safety by increasing your skill. Hope you guys find a happy ground on this one good luck!

Outlawtorn,

I was in pretty much the same position as you have described about a year ago. Myself and the missus reached a fairly amicable mutually satisfactory arrangement after a big bust-up by me doing pretty much all the things Draco has outlined above: Pointing out that bad shit happens all the time in every situation, by getting life insurance and by being obsessive about my safety gear.

She's still not 100% happy, but she accepts that it's something I want and need to do, and that I've taken all the necessary steps to minimise the risk.

**Ms Piggy** · 19th February 2005, 11:03

Originally Posted by outlawtorn

Greetings ladies,

I ask you this now from your point of view. My wife is not really enjoying me riding on a bike and seems pretty anti the whole thing, of course with me having 2 minor wipeouts it hasn't helped my cause. What do you suggest I do to warm her up to the whole bike thing? I can't take her out on the bike yet as I am still on a learners.

Suggestions? Comments?

"It's all about balance outlawtorn san." (please say this in a Mr Miyagi voice)

**ManDownUnder** · 20th February 2005, 11:16

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

"It's all about balance outlawtorn san." (please say this in a Mr Miyagi voice)

Touche (<== use your own voice, although a slight french accent may help)

**spookey** · 20th February 2005, 11:29

we like the being on the bike and the social aspect of it all...
Mind you you say you are only on your learners...now I recall that it's a non pillion situation for you anyways..
There are times in your life where the wife and kids need to come first...that's just why you have them..
Be patient if you can stay up right your time will come

**Teflon** · 21st February 2005, 16:06

Originally Posted by outlawtorn

Greetings ladies,

I ask you this now from your point of view. My wife is not really enjoying me riding on a bike and seems pretty anti the whole thing, of course with me having 2 minor wipeouts it hasn't helped my cause. What do you suggest I do to warm her up to the whole bike thing? I can't take her out on the bike yet as I am still on a learners.

Suggestions? Comments?

Just go buy her some jewelry, should buy you a good couple of weeks of riding without the nagging.