Why prolong life?

**98tls** · 26th December 2008, 20:38

A room full from downunder have asked me to pass on "our thoughts" to both of you.

**Stickchick** · 26th December 2008, 20:38

WOW SHIRL!!!! You are one strong lady. If you need anything I'm in Welly for a few more days before I head to Taupo. Give me a PM, even if its just a for a quick coffee.

to you chick

**ynot slow** · 27th December 2008, 07:23

One saying hits home from the whanau side kia kaha.

Great you are celebrating his life to the end,possibe this helps the grieving I don't know,but why be morose about it.The result is a foregon conclusion,sad to think that but no use ignoring the fact,just good you two are being friends to the end.

Much like when I was diagnosed with cancer,some mates couldn't say the word for fear I would object,others cracked jokes(usually me starting them).

Hang tough thoughts are with you.

**Grahameeboy** · 27th December 2008, 08:01

MBW...hugs to you...these things help us to look at life in a different way and although this is a strange thing to say...it is a gift we do not always get...

**alanzs** · 27th December 2008, 08:18

Originally Posted by fliplid

Read somewhere that recently an 80yr old woman had her first tatoo done, on her chest to express her sentiments on this subject; "Do not resussitate" (sp?) You reckon that will be plain enough for the medics to understand either?

I saw the photos of the tattoo. Very good idea...

My father in law was resuscitated against his wishes, like what happened to your friend....

You are a good friend....

**sunhuntin** · 27th December 2008, 09:57

thinking of you both at the time. typical of the doctors to stuff it up though... DNR means DNR. they should have respected that. it is good though, that you will be with him when he passes... im sure hes drawing his courage from you.

**Brownbikerbabe** · 27th December 2008, 10:40

BMW you are Superwoman! If we could only be half as lucky as Ahu to have a friend like you it would be a blessing! You are amazing! Stay strong!! Big hugs to you. And they say superheros don't exist!

**Conquiztador** · 27th December 2008, 14:37

HB will stay sunny for you. And it will be here when all this is over.

You do have amazing strength. And I am glad that you two had this time.

2009 will be your year!

**Pussy** · 27th December 2008, 14:45

Just echoing everyone else's sentiments.... you're an amazing lady, Shirley, and Ahu is VERY lucky to have your friendship

Kia kaha

**candor** · 27th December 2008, 22:57

You will always have an angel in Ahu as he has had in you from the sound of your connection. It is really ummm satisfying to hear how you are easing or helping make a good experience of your friends passage. Spirituality seems to flare in such times, and it sounds like you're dealing with the humps in his road so protectively and well. Good on ya' - if only everyone had a BMW (:

**Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)** · 28th December 2008, 16:05

Ahu passed away peacefully this morning. We had a lovely meal last nite - the one he wanted, steak, onions, eggs, tomatoes and chips. We had an unlit candle - weren't allowed to light it in the hospital, and a bunch of roses in a vase. if I can attach the photo I will. He had a great day yesterday and I thought he was going to get better.

He looks so beautiful and at peace and I am relieved his suffering is at an end and he managed to say his goodbyes.

I was just making him a banana cake and his lunch when I got the call.
We hope to have the memorial service on Tuesday. I have alot to do before then but first I am going to have a wee sleep now.

Thank you all for your kinds words and support. I really do appreciate it.

Cheers Shirley

**Grahameeboy** · 28th December 2008, 16:31

Originally Posted by Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)

Ahu passed away peacefully this morning. We had a lovely meal last nite - the one he wanted, steak, onions, eggs, tomatoes and chips. We had an unlit candle - weren't allowed to light it in the hospital, and a bunch of roses in a vase. if I can attach the photo I will. He had a great day yesterday and I thought he was going to get better.

He looks so beautiful and at peace and I am relieved his suffering is at an end and he managed to say his goodbyes.

I was just making him a banana cake and his lunch when I got the call.
We hope to have the memorial service on Tuesday. I have alot to do before then but first I am going to have a wee sleep now.

Thank you all for your kinds words and support. I really do appreciate it.

Cheers Shirley

He looks so happy eh....and did not have to worry about his cholestrol eh...

Moments are precious....