A Pauper's Funeral - yes they still use that word

[ynot slow]

If you can get a cd of Bob Segars hits a couple of songs spring to mind-In your Time,and for you Like a Rock.

[slimjim]

yup ..know the love....cancer took mother ... dug our own grave site, supplied own car, said our words, then cover her over, all by ourselves..... why cause we didn't have that sort of cash up front...and mom was a down to earth lady...pity everyone needs to make 40% on daily cost's..sad state of affairs

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

Well it wasn't a pauper's service - wow it was amazing. So many people spoke from the heart and you really didn't miss the casket at all. I had a lovely photo blown up big.

Alot of people turned up, I started getting real nervous having to speak in front of them all. A friend provided some water for me which obviously loosened the tongue (god I'm a cheap date lol).

One thing being in a fellowship provides - is experience in speaking in front of people - and from the heart - don't ask me what I said lol. I did have some notes to jot my memory. I didn't get any sleep last nite.

Went to download the songs this morning and it was not a happening thing - I was really beginning to stress especially about one song "Don't Forget to Remember Me" as for as long as I have known Ahu he always said that was his funeral song. Anyway eventually got them. I cracked in the service when I heard it cos it suddenly hit me oh my god this is reality, and we had sung it together so often. Geez I hate crying in front of people lol. I got over myself pretty quickly tho.

Started at 1pm and the service finished at 2.30pm we had to cut it by then. People brought a plate - lots of food.

It was lovely to see a few KBers there - thank you.

I picked up Ahu's ashes after the funeral. He can rest quietly until I return from my holiday lol. I'm calling ALL the shots now. He's around tho - some funny things have happened in my home.

I was so humbled to be surrounded by so much love and support. I am so exhausted I hope this all makes sense - it's helping me wind down - I know it will all hit me soon. But the happy memories and a good sense of humour will see me through - and of course friends and kbers.

Will wait a couple of days before I venture back to Hawkes Bay get my bike then ride around East Cape. Bliss.

Thank you all so much for being there for me. I hope I never have to write a thread like this again.

[Mom]

I hope I never have to write a thread like this again.

Amen to that! Power to you girl, very tiring and stressful time, your inner strength has served you very well. Please take the time to grieve. You need to look after you extra well for a while too!

I understand the core of iron too well, sometimes it can be a bad thing too. Deep breaths and rose smelling for you please. I am a beach girl. In times of stress to find balance for me there is nothing better than taking my shoes off and walking on the sand.

Love to you, sweet dreams, you have done well for your friend, I hope that when my time comes I have people like you around me. Take care now. If you want to smell roses up here the door is always open.

Kia kaha

Anne

[ynot slow]

Well said Anne.

We are still in the waiting zone,i.e don't want to go far from home for a ride incase the call comes,and certainly don't want the kids to be told first if they ring home and we're out.By ride I mean a 2 hour plus jaunt.Will go and see her tomorrow for a ride.

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

How low people can sink to

Today I went to clear out Ahu's room - I walked in and knew it had been "gone thru" and alot of stuff stolen. Despite a request to the Manager at the hostel to not let anyone in - obviously some good lying went on.

I know who the she mongrel is - his fkn sister who wouldn't even attend his funeral - but during it - ransacked his place - robbing the dead. She knew he left everything to me (it wasn't alot and he had also told me who he wanted stuff to go to). I cannot get my head around how low people can go. I'm stunned. Though God knows why I should be - it's just I cannot envisage such shit happening yet my life has been full of it. I guess ever the optomist or just plain fkn stupid more like.

I have a few funeral bills which I could have sold some of his stuff to pay for - well that's gone down the gurgler - I doubt WINZ will help me out on that.

Fk no wonder Ahu had nothing to do with his family - jesus who needs enemies - fkn thieving mongrel bitch.

[ynot slow]

Bastards is too kind a word to describe her.

Wife was in Auckland working for a funeral home years ago,the thieving wankers (not family)would see a notice of a death in Manukau or Sth Dorkland which had send cards to xyz address,come service time the pricks would raid the house as all were away.

[Owl]

Fk no wonder Ahu had nothing to do with his family - jesus who needs enemies - fkn thieving mongrel bitch.

Really sorry to hear that BMW and I understand where you're coming from! Mongrel is an apt description!

I had to make a promise to my father before he passed away, that I'd stand guard and protect his possessions, even from family.
When his father passed away, dad caught his mother’s relatives going through his father’s clothing and trying on shoes etc, while his father lay in state. The poor bugger hadn’t even been buried and he was being robbed!
Dad never forgave nor forgot and completely cut himself off from that side of his family.

[Paul in NZ]

Very sorry to hear that Shirl... Some people just have no class... I'll bet a hat full of randy weasel bums that this darling could justify it a thousand times over (she was owed no doubt eh!). Still - this act dimishes her and not you, you karma must be in the positive fer sure.

[jtzzr]

Despicable...Unbelievable....You`re a good person BMW !!!!

The bitch will get her just deserves .

And you will get your kindness and love rewarded 3 fold.

Karma has a way of sorting these things.

[Conquiztador]

Now you know why she would not come to the funeral service. She was busy...

[Winston001]

Wife was in Auckland working for a funeral home years ago,the thieving wankers (not family) would see a notice of a death in Manukau or Sth Dorkland which had send cards to xyz address,come service time the pricks would raid the house as all were away.

Sadly this is a well-known consequence of death - low-lifes watching the newspaper and spotting houses to burgle while the funeral is on.

High risk is any funeral notice which mentions cancer or long illness - clear targets for pharmaceutical drugs on the premises.

What families do usually is have someone stay in the house during the funeral and make sure the house isn't empty at other times. Something to know if you haven't heard of this sort of thing.

[sunhuntin]

it makes you sick! is there anything the police can do? did ahu have it written in a will, and was it up to date?