Adopted people

[MadDuck]

Heres an out there question for KB.

Anyone out there that has been through the adoption process of the 60's or 70's

[Number One]

I did but it was only one sided. By that I mean my mother married a guy (my lovely daddy ) and he adopted me. I can still vaguely remember family court where I had to tell the judge what I thought about it all.

My 'sperm donor' made things very very hard and made the whole thing drag on for ages - he was a prick...anywhoo

BUMP I guess?

[jrandom]

Anyone out there that has been through the adoption process of the 60's or 70's

I dearly wish that I could answer in the affirmative, but unfortunately, I fear that my godawful parents really are related to me.

[MadDuck]

I dearly wish that I could answer in the affirmative, but unfortunately, I fear that my godawful parents really are related to me.

Poor you

[Winston001]

Not personally, but I know a bit about adoption.

[more_fasterer]

Was adopted in 1981, does that count??

[NighthawkNZ:Me]

I was never adpoted but fostered...

Taken from my parents when I was 2 months old...

1. Went through 16 families by the time I was 5...
2. Grew up as a little shit, changed family (again) & religion was forced down my throat and I choked on it...
3. Was beaten &... Became shy and withdrawn...
4. Rebelled when I was 13-16 and became a bigger shit than before...
5. Worked out that if I don't do something I will either be dead or in prison very soon. So Joined the Royal NZ Navy at 17.
6. Sorted my life out... but am still a big shit.

In the 60's 70's was very rare to be adopted out. DSW prefered fostering and had the so called family homes... a kind way say orphanage.

EDIT: I have never met nor am I interested in meeting my birth parents, and I do know my birth mother died about 10 years ago.

[MyGSXF:Me]

Anyone out there that has been through the adoption process of the 60's or 70's

I have a half sister that was adopted out at birth. early 60's Found out about her when I was 18.. Mother has never really opened up & talked about it,, but I think there was a LOT of pressure (from the Social Workers then) to give the baby up!? We have met her a few times tho, but we are very different people

[pixc]

I was adopted at 1 year in early 70's. Adopted into a family who already had 3 boys of their own. Always knew I was adopted. I got intouch with birth father at 18, birth mother at 20. We all get along great. I got 2 parents+ now. I have mum and dad, and my mother and father, 4 brothers, 3 sisters, lost count of aunties, uncles, cousins etc. My kids are confussed because of the whole situation. ...and then theres their fathers side. bahahahaaaaa. Anyone want some family members? ive got extra to loan. But I wants them back..coz I luvs them all.

On average, theres a birthday in my immediate family twice a month, and I am not going to talk about Xmas.

[Naki Rat]

I have two sibblings who were adopted into our family during the 60s. They have both traced and met their respective birth parent/s with satisfying outcomes.

PM me if you would like info along these lines and I'll do what I can.

[Madness]

How hard is it to adopt these days?. Do you have to go to Uzbekistan to find an orphinage, or is it possible to adopt a Kiwi?.

[Winston001]

How hard is it to adopt these days?. Do you have to go to Uzbekistan to find an orphanage, or is it possible to adopt a Kiwi?.

Difficult. So yes, adoption from another country is more attractive.

It come down to three influences which developed after the 1960s:

1. The Pill

2. Abortion on demand

3. The Domestic Purposes Benefit.

The Pill meant effective birth control and a reduction in unwanted babies. Abortion ended any surprise conceptions. The DPB provided a living for solo mothers who wanted to keep their babies.

As a result the number of unwanted babies plummeted which in turn has made adoption very difficult because there are so few babies available.

There is one more influence:

4. Child psychology research which said that adoption was bad and staying with your family good. However bear in mind that until about 15 years ago, adoptions were "closed". That meant absolute secrecy regarding the parents of the child - no contact, no names etc. So adoption became "unfashionable" as Nighthawk has alluded to.

Today most adoptions are "open" so a child can know their natural parents (or at least the mother) and that works well.

[chanceyy]

was adopted at birth in the 60's .. just was not a done thing & no such thing as welfare back then

Never found my birth mother but know she was 18 unmarried and her mother did not know she was preggers

[Dave Lobster]

How hard is it to adopt these days?. Do you have to go to Uzbekistan to find an orphinage, or is it possible to adopt a Kiwi?.

I see heaps in Pak 'n' Save that should be adopted. Have you tried the one in Albany?

[jim.cox]

was adopted at birth in the 60's .. just was not a done thing & no such thing as welfare back then

Never found my birth mother but know she was 18 unmarried and her mother did not know she was preggers

My Grandmother was adopted.

Aged 80 plus she was able to get her adoption details.

Her mum was gone, but she found several siblings.

We got a whole new side to the family