Saying Thank You.

[Trudes]

So I was pondering while ironing (as you do), thinking of an upcoming birthday party for my mum and who will probably be there. My thoughts immediately went to a cousin of mine who I was closest to when I was growing up, and hoped she would be there as I'd really like to say thank you to her.
Sometimes when things are going on in your life, certain people do things or were there for you when you need it most, and I was thinking how we often forget to say thanks to these people. Often you don't realise at the time how much they did for you and may not realise until years later, hopefully not too late.
My cousin was like a big sister to me and when I was going through a really rough time growing up, she was there for me. I don't think I ever thanked her for this and she probably doesn't know just how much it means to me that she just stepped up and helped me without my needing to ask.
So I'm really hoping she'll be at my mum's party so I can thank her in person and let her know just how grateful I am that she was there for me.

Anyway, just wanted to post this to possibly get a few people thinking of someone special in their lives who may have done something or been there for them that deserves a heartfelt "thank you" before it's too late.
Warm fuzzies.

[Pussy]

I just caught up with an old friend last week, who I helped through a rough patch many years ago. She thanked me for it.... made me feel 10 feet tall!
Good call, Trudes... if someone means something to you, tell them! Don't wait till they're lying in a box at their funeral

[Hitcher]

Nice post, Trudes.

I think it's important to remember to tell the people who are special to you that they are special to you. Life is fragile and short, and things that are often said as eulogies should be shared with people while they are alive. However human reticence and humility often prevents this, more's the shame.

[Trudes]

Exactly. It made me think I would hate to be standing over her coffin telling her that she meant a lot to me and thanks for being the best cousin ever, or I cark it and she never knew just how much she meant to me.
Sorry is another word a lot of people have trouble saying and meaning also, it's amazing how far a meaningful sorry will go, again, life is short.

[Nasty]

Too true babe ... way too true ... so many people miss out cos they forget things like thank you ... and sorry ... and just taking time to talk to those around them who are important.

[Colapop]

I went to visit my brother on Saturday. We sat in the hot sun and talked. I can never thank him for all that he's done for me. It'll be 20 years in November since he passed away and I still miss him. Life is short.

[martybabe]

I realised a while back just how important even the little things we do for others can be and resolved to thank all those whose kind thoughts and gestures have helped this old fella along life's highway.

I don't think any of us are fully aware of just how important a single act of kindness or a lifetimes selfless devotion can be. Taking time to reflect upon and thank those that have helped us is the very least we can do and more often than not, as pussy said, the mere acknowledgement that we've been important in someones life can make you feel wonderful.

On that note I'd like to thank you for all the kind words and friendship you've sent my way, please don't think I'm being sycophantic here, you will never know how much comfort I've taken (as a lonely boy thousands of miles away from his family) from kind and thoughtful people called Trudes and many others.

From yesteryear, two very prominent people were instrumental in ensuring that I saw a few more tomorrows, I thanked them then and I thank them now for every extra day I spend under the sun.

What a lovely thread, thanks Trudes. x

[Beemer]

It must be the time of year for this or something - we were just talking the other day about a couple of friends we haven't seen since our wedding in 2005 - and they only live in Raumati! I said to Andy he should ring them and we should catch up again (they have two young kids now, so their time is probably not as plentiful as before) as I really enjoy their company.

And Hitcher, about time we saw you and Mrs H too - think the last time was at my mum's funeral and that was in 2007. Seeing you two there really meant a lot to me, in case I didn't say so at the time. Must be barbecue time at chez King!

[ynot slow]

Agree with the post,we all take for granted family etc,in my family I have a brother,when only 2 in the family,you take for normal things, other families miss out on,i.e only 13months between us.When he was 19 I gave him my license(no photo)for pubs etc,usually then I needed it,but kept my birth cert on me.

When you are at a low point waiting to discover what ailes you,telepathy kicks in,it would be me ringing him,or him ringing me checking up,usually either of us would say just about to phone.Best part is prior to diagnosis being found,he was upfront and said what if it's cancer,my reply so what I'll deal with it,I said that is better than kidney or liver failure or anything else.The fact that this time he said he loved me blew me away,we had never ever said it,but afterwards I asked why tell me that,I knew it,he said I'd hate it if you died and I never told you.

[Skyryder]

all!
Good call, Trudes... if someone means something to you, tell them! Don't wait till they're lying in a box at their funeral

Ditto


Skyryder

[martybabe]

Nice post, Trudes.

I think it's important to remember to tell the people who are special to you that they are special to you. Life is fragile and short, and things that are often said as eulogies should be shared with people while they are alive. However human reticence and humility often prevents this, more's the shame.

Well said, pertinent and poignant for me sadly. I received word shortly after reading this thread, that an old friend in Jersey has taken his own life, thus begins the painful self interrogation. Was there anything I could have said or done, or was there some thing that I failed to say or do that could have had a bearing on this dreadful outcome. I sincerely doubt it but I'd hate to think he went not knowing how loved and liked he really was.

Damn shame.