Why men cheat.

**jrandom** · 14th February 2009, 16:54

Originally Posted by MsKABC

The point I was making, perhaps too subtley, was that I think you were talking a load of bollocks...

No, don't worry, your point wasn't subtle at all. It was just completely unsupported.

When I think someone's talking bollocks, I go to the effort of explaining where it seems they're wrong. You could try doing the same (or just staying quiet, I suppose).

Not all of us will roll over in response to your contradictory grunts as readily as that well-trained hubby of yours does, y'know.

**MotoGirl** · 14th February 2009, 17:14

Originally Posted by Jantar

That question requires a definition of "who is a cheater?" I have asked before, so I'll ask again: If sex means so little, and isn't a major sign of love, then why would women call it "cheating" when a man goes elsewher for it?

Sorry, but who said that sex isn't a major part of love and means little?

My original post referred to showing gratitude using words and a kiss (still a physical act). Sex doesn't have to happen every day and I was simply trying to point out that a man shouldn't feel unappreciated if he receives acknowledgement via something other than sex for one day.

**Jantar** · 14th February 2009, 17:43

Originally Posted by MotoGirl

Sorry, but who said that sex isn't a major part of love and means little?

My original post referred to showing gratitude using words and a kiss (still a physical act). Sex doesn't have to happen every day and I was simply trying to point out that a man shouldn't feel unappreciated if he receives acknowledgement via something other than sex for one day.

Sorry if I mis-understood. I took your original post to say that sex wasn't a necceassary part of showing love love. On re-reading you do mention "not getting a blow job on that day". So how long without sex, gratitude, a kiss or any other sign of affection is reasonable before a man looks elsewhere?

**AD345** · 14th February 2009, 18:02

Monogamy is a cultural imposition.

No more - no less

**candor** · 14th February 2009, 18:08

Women are like dogs... old faithful and can get by without an adulation supply or sex, men are like cats... fickle requiring ego stroking, and the right varied diet, or they may stray. Caveat - applies to adults not studly players!
Proof - it's priest not nuns getting in strife.

**MotoGirl** · 14th February 2009, 18:12

Originally Posted by Jantar

So how long without sex, gratitude, a kiss or any other sign of affection is reasonable before a man looks elsewhere?

This is a hard question and I think the answer would change per relationship. I'm picking that it would also depend on the man's tolerance and the circumstances around why the partner isn't showing affection (say, for example, the woman is sleep deprived due to a baby). A drought isn't always a bad thing provided both people understand why it's happening, particularly if it's being caused by something out of their control.

For the 32 years my parents were married, my father never heard mum say the words "I love you" and she showed him no affection other than (scheduled) sex once a month. I wish I was joking about the lack of affection between them - even a kiss was a rare event and we certainly never saw them cuddle or hold hands. This is why I say that tolerance is a factor since dad put up with this rubbish for 32 years. He only left because he found another relationship he wanted to pursue (don't get me started on that one!).

**325rocket** · 14th February 2009, 18:35

Originally Posted by candor

Women are like dogs...

yeah .... good luck with that one

**fire eyes** · 14th February 2009, 18:41

Cheating is a choice regardless of circumstance. Just be prepared for the consequences. This is not gender specific. We all have the right to happiness and a reciprocol relationship.

**Skyryder** · 14th February 2009, 19:05

Originally Posted by Goblin

Well said!

All very well with couples who are emotionally divorced already then go looking elsewhere but I caught a part of the program the OP was refering to. Now this dude was getting everything at home from his wife...every night! He was then having a sexual affair during his lunch break!
WTF is up with that???

Ego.

Skyryder

**gammaguy** · 14th February 2009, 19:09

Originally Posted by Trudes

I bags you!!!

see,shes gone already.

**Skyryder** · 14th February 2009, 19:12

Originally Posted by Number One

Perhaps us girls SHOULD just all turn gay then..there seems no hope with men since they are so ruled by their primal urges...why do we bother?

Love. The most abused word in the English, or for that matter, any language.

Skyryder

**Skyryder** · 14th February 2009, 19:23

Originally Posted by oldrider

Reading these threads as they pop up from time to time makes me realise how lucky I am.

We (Mrs O and I) were married 45 years ago on the first of this month.

It's been a bit tricky at times

"but"

I think the secret to our success thus far has been due to her impeccable good taste in men and my extremely forgiving nature!

Whatever, it seems to work.

John.

Got some catching up. Thirtyfour years on the eighth of this month.

Secret. Just one. Shared values. It is the glue that hold all relationships together. Cheat and with it go the lies and those shared values are values no longer.

**Number One** · 14th February 2009, 19:45

Originally Posted by gammaguy

see,shes gone already.

I could take you...Trudes is mine biarch

**Winston001** · 14th February 2009, 22:33

Originally Posted by Sully60

Interesting point seeing as the the Maasai practice polygomy.

Not cheating as such but creating a large family group of varying genetic disposition has it's benefits.

Not fair. Here I am explaining the fundamental elements of our primary instincts and you throw bloody polygamy in!!

Bugger.

Obviously its an abberation - it'll never catch on.