Why men cheat.

[Gremlin]

Edit: Is anyone else getting aroused by this thread?

not until someone tried to put the thread down the path of pictures of hotties...

Kristen, an absolute stunner with a body like no other, charges $4,000 an hour. For anything!

Perhaps renting does make sense at that level... damn!

More serious note... I truly believe its a two way street. Sure, there are crap men and women out there, ignore them for this purpose. Neither partner should be sitting back and saying, oh, he/she doesn't appreciate me etc, if they aren't doing the same back. It gets very easy for the 2nd person to stop doing the little things after the first stops. Everyone likes to feel needed and appreciated.

Relationships are two way streets, as the saying goes, you need to put in 100% to make it work.

[Cheshire Cat]

That's right... I bang one out every night thinking of you

you truely are filth.

[imdying]

Oh noes, someone on the internet doesn't like me

[jrandom]

you truely are filth.

C'mon, Kel scrubs up pretty well, you can hardly blame him.

[Skyryder]

Don't underrate the biological drive - it is fundamental and powerful. Men have the ability to spread their genes among a group of women over a lifetime. The more children you can father the better the chance of your genetic heiritage surviving. Plus you block out other men.

Women have a different imperative. Bearing a child requires an investment of energy and emotion plus about 10 years of commitment to protecting that child. A pregnant woman/woman with a young child is vulnerable so she instinctively seeks the security of one man to protect and provide.

If a woman freely gave her favours to all men, her mate wouldn't know who's child he was protecting......and he'd leave. The main reason for him to stay is to protect his child and if he can't be sure of that........gone.

To understand this - Evolutionary Psychology - you have to remember that for most of our 1.5 million years, we lived in tribes and our animal instincts were primary.

If we were to use the biological drive as an excuse for cheating why not use it for rape??

As for evolutionary psychology and the tribe thing even tribes have taboo’s on sex. One of these is the clan or totem systems where rules within the system when broken can result if severe punishment for the offender.

All other comments are just an excuse for not having the will power, integrity and discipline to honour the marriage vows.

Skyryder

[Winston001]

.........in much the same way that farm workers here in NZ bear little resemblance to the slaves on cotton plantations in the eighteenth century.

There are cotton plantations in NZ???!! Dang gotta get me some of that poon......

[jrandom]

There are cotton plantations in NZ???!! Dang gotta get me some of that poon......

Can't beat a little nigra action, once you've gone black you'll never go back, etc.

Or so they say. It's the initial 'going black' part that's always put me off. I don't dig the untermensch.

[Trudes]

This is thread is starting to meander into the reasons why women cheat perhaps.

[jrandom]

This is thread is starting to meander into the reasons why women cheat perhaps.

And those reasons would be...?

[Finn]

There are cotton plantations in NZ???!!

Yes, but sadly they are overgrown.

[Trudes]

And those reasons would be...?

Well, I would hate to generalise but geeze men can be pigs when they let their guards down and get comfortable. And like you say, once you've gone black, you never go back.

[Finn]

If we were to use the biological drive as an excuse for cheating why not use it for rape??

We're talking about consenting adults here.

[Cheshire Cat]

C'mon, Kel scrubs up pretty well, you can hardly blame him.

ahahahaha.yea but hes still filth.

[MotoGirl]

But it is only at the end that the topic of frequency of sex is mentioned as a reason for men to feel unappreciated.

I don't understand how a man could interpret a lack of sex to mean he is unappreciated. If his woman acknowledges what he does for her and expresses her appreciation in other ways (such as giving him a snog and saying the kitchen looks great after he's finished the dishes), he must be a real jerk-off if he then whinges about not getting a blowjob that day.

[jrandom]

geeze men can be pigs when they let their guards down and get comfortable. And like you say, once you've gone black, you never go back.

In my experience (once again) women cheat for exactly the same reasons that men (according to the article you linked to) do.

They want their egos stroked. The sex just sort of goes along with that.