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    Bugger

    To my mates on bikes,

    I haven't been around biker circles for a while and have not had time to surf or email due to ever more pressured life circumstances.

    Very sadly Diane and I have separated after an extremely difficult and complicated 2008. That year brought much misery and pressure to us both beyond that which we could bear. It would be our 12th wedding anniversary this 18th January.

    Shit happened big time and we reached breaking point after I made some huge errors in judgement during a rather spectacular breakdown and my health has failed me. I will move out of our beloved rural home and move into an apartment in the city this week, if not tonight.

    Hopefully the bike will make it there too - I am sure I can squeeze it into the carpark along with the car, although I have a horrible feeling it will have to be sold.

    Failing as a Husband and a Dad has been the greatest humiliation of my life. Its my little family that deserve sympathy and love, not me.

    Cam.

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    So sorry to hear that Toaster, life sucks big sometimes, you'll always be 'The Mitch's Dad' whatever route your life takes.

    Take care mate.
    Oh bugger

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    Very very sorry to read this Cam...you seemed happy as the other day mate, anything anytime mate, I am not overly good at this but, we are here for ya buddy. PM sent.

    PS: You have not failed....Mitch will always love you, that counts for everything Cam.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Toaster View Post
    To my mates on bikes,

    I haven't been around biker circles for a while and have not had time to surf or email due to ever more pressured life circumstances.

    Very sadly Diane and I have separated after an extremely difficult and complicated 2008. That year brought much misery and pressure to us both beyond that which we could bear. It would be our 12th wedding anniversary this 18th January.

    Shit happened big time and we reached breaking point after I made some huge errors in judgement during a rather spectacular breakdown and my health has failed me. I will move out of our beloved rural home and move into an apartment in the city this week, if not tonight.

    Hopefully the bike will make it there too - I am sure I can squeeze it into the carpark along with the car, although I have a horrible feeling it will have to be sold.

    Failing as a Husband and a Dad has been the greatest humiliation of my life. Its my little family that deserve sympathy and love, not me.

    Cam.
    All the best eh,may seem like it but lifes not over mate and though hard to see now the sun will shine again.We all make mistakes,every last one of us and by no means does that mean you have failed.No matter whats gone on between you and your partner dont forget that to your children your still the most important thing in there lives.
    Be the person your dog thinks you are...

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    We all feel for you... We dont want to know what happend but as time goes on it will get easer. Your kids will allways love you no matter what happend.
    If you are behind meDont ask as I am lost too.

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    Chin up mate been there to
    truth is you dont have to be a great husband to be a great dad and most of the time removing yourself from a Marriage thats causing both parties stress the kids are better off.

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    Mr & Mrs Busa Pete + The 4 Dogs

    I'm so sorry to hear that Cam and as has been said it will get easyer.

    Don't blame yourself for the break up because it takes 2 to make a marriage and it takes 2 to break it.

    It's life some times thing beyond our control happen but don't forget you have a wonderfull little boy in Mitch and you will always be his dad.
    Take Care mate
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    Bugger mate haven't met you but you sound like one of the good dudes.

    the fact you are feeling like you've let people down means that you're the sort of person who cares about that sort of thing, so i'd bet sums off money you did all you reasonably could.

    2008 was a right shitter for a number of people. Lets hope 09's a better one eh.

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    Sorry to read this Toaster, from one that has been there, it is a horrible time in your life. Lean on support from your friends mate, they can make all the difference.

    As far as your babies go, you are their Daddy, and nothing can change that for certain. Your children will love you more than you can perceive.

    Love to you all at the moment mate.
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    Nonono,

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    Tis life Cam.. (have been there), things change.. people change.. but no matter what, you will always be the world to your little man!!

    Please be gentle on yourself hun.. as the BP's said.. it takes two!! to make it.. or break it.. this isn't all 'your' doing! We all make errors of judgment, but we learn & grow because of them. It makes us stronger. Lean on your friends.. & please, keep talking!!

    Thinking of you Cam
    GET ON
    SIT DOWN
    SHUT UP
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maha View Post
    Very very sorry to read this Cam..

    PS: You have not failed....Mitch will always love you, that counts for everything Cam.
    What Maha says is true...Dads are so important in a little guy's life. You are the hero he needs.
    I don't know what else to say, except that I am very sad to hear this.
    If you ever need anything, you know where we are...
    Much love, Cam...
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    What everyone has said + from me. Sorry to hear.

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    all the best Cam. I wish you good luck for the future and we all love you. Take care of yourself and keep on trucking.
    "Take life one day at a time. Make mistakes. Learn from them. Come out a better person. Never regret the things that have gotten you where you are today."

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    Sorry to hear this toaster .. seems to be a common scene at the moment

    echo what everyone else has said & no matter wot kids love both parents unconditionally, keep the communication flowing & let them know that you still love them, no one can or will replace you as their dad

    Have to Karma ... Justice catches up eventually !!

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    Cam its tough right now .. but realise what the Busas said .. "two to make and two to break" .. is so true ... the marridge did not break because of you or what you did . .but because of both of you - its unforunate ...

    For the kids .. no one has the right to call you a bad father ... you are THEIR father and no one can take that away from you ...make time for them .. and love them unconditionally ... as you always have ...

    You will come through this ...
    Life is a gift that we have all been given. Live life to the full and ensure that you have absolutely no
    regrets.

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