To be a man?

[MyGSXF:Me]

I have a request.. I have local men/friends to ask, but I thought as I have met so many good men from all over this country through KB, I would ask more widely.. so here goes..

My oldest son is turning 13 in a couple of weeks. His dad disappeared off the scene 3 years ago when the evil new wife came along. I do my best to make sure he still has some positive male role models in his life.

Being a mum & a single mum there is only so much I can teach him. I'm raising my boys to be independent & widely useful, so they grow up to be capable men who will look after their partners & children well. He knows how to cook a few different meals, mows the lawn, stacks firewood, does dishes, uses the washing machine, makes lunches, rides a motorbike etc. He's a quiet, introverted kid with a small group of good friends. He has beautiful manners, is considerate & polite. Jess is in the top English class at College, learning Karate & the drum in the marching band.. & enjoying both a lot. All the above are good manly skills to have as far as I'm concerned.. but only a man can teach him of "being" a man.

So I wondered, would any good men out there be willing to write a letter to Jess & impart some of your manly wisdom on what it is "to be a man" please? It doesn't have to be a novel.. maybe just a page on one subject.. or whatever you wish, & preferably handwritten (makes it more personal). I would like to make a book up for Jess for his birthday, so he can read it whenever he feels, & it could be added to by others over the next few years.

I would be very appreciative of any (appropriate) input for my son!


http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/at...0&d=1175767924

Please pm me for addy, to send letter to.

Thank you

Jen

[Mom]

Hi girl, commendable post and good for you asking too. Years ago I knew a bloke that had a buddy. He used to take this buddy all sorts of places.

Had a very quick search, have a look at this service. I know it was good for my (grown) firend, and have no doubt his buddy loves it too!

http://www.bigbuddy.org.nz/

[Trudes]

Far out brussel sprout, what a cool idea and an awesome thing to do for your boys! The old, "if I knew then what I know now" thing imparted from someone who's been there and done that.
I'm not a man, but I would tell him to be good to his mum and to screw a lot of chicks while he's young and single and to use protection otherwise he won't be for long (although I would leave that one until he was maybe 18 or so)

[MyGSXF:Me]

I knew a bloke that had a buddy. He used to take this buddy all sorts of places

Thanks Anne

Jess has had a 'mentor' for the past 3 years.. however his mentor was a female also.. they were seriously lacking male mentors when I signed him up.. such is the demand!! however, they have had a wonderful time together, kayaking, rock climbing, swimming etc. He's been on the waiting list for a male mentor through a different programme in Nelson, for nearly a year & a half now.. & still waiting..

[Mom]

Thanks Anne

Jess has had a 'mentor' for the past 3 years.. however his mentor was a female also.. they were seriously lacking male mentors when I signed him up.. such is the demand!! however, they have had a wonderful time together, kayaking, crock climbing, swimming etc. He's been on the waiting list for a male mentor through a different programme in Nelson, for nearly a year & a half now.. & still waiting..

Serious. NO good mate.

[piston broke]

I have a request.. I have local men/friends to ask, but I thought as I have met so many good men from all over this country through KB, I would ask more widely.. so here goes..

My oldest son is turning 13 in a couple of weeks. His dad disappeared off the scene 3 years ago when the evil new wife came along. I do my best to make sure he still has some positive male role models in his life.

Being a mum & a single mum there is only so much I can teach him. I'm raising my boys to be independent & widely useful, so they grow up to be capable men who will look after their partners & children well. He knows how to cook a few different meals, mows the lawn, stacks firewood, does dishes, uses the washing machine, makes lunches, rides a motorbike etc. He's a quiet, introverted kid with a small group of good friends. He has beautiful manners, is considerate & polite. Jess is in the top English class at College, learning Karate & the drum in the marching band.. & enjoying both a lot. All the above are good manly skills to have as far as I'm concerned.. but only a man can teach him of "being" a man.

So I wondered, would any good men out there be willing to write a letter to Jess & impart some of your manly wisdom on what it is "to be a man" please? It doesn't have to be a novel.. maybe just a page on one subject.. or whatever you wish, & preferably handwritten (makes it more personal). I would like to make a book up for Jess for his birthday, so he can read it whenever he feels, & it could be added to by others over the next few years.

I would be very appreciative of any (appropriate) input for my son!


http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/at...0&d=1175767924

Please pm me for addy, to send letter to.

Thank you

Jen

hey jen,
if you're nearby'ish,
i'd be more than happy to take the young fella sailing and surfing.
and some part time work in a boatbuilding shop.


damn,i see you are a bit far away,unless you want to send him up here for a week or two

[Pussy]

Quite honestly, Jen, it sounds like you're doing an EXCELLENT job with the young bloke anyway!
If I can help with anything, sing out!
Cheers, John

[FROSTY:Me]

To be a father or to be a dad. The two things aren't of course mutually exclusive. With my brady bunch Im being either dad or both depending on the boy.

[Swoop]

they have had a wonderful time together, kayaking, crock climbing,

There is no bloody way I'm going anywhere near a crocagator, let alone climb onto a mobile handbag!

Other than that, great stuff!!

[piston broke]

Quite honestly, Jen, it sounds like you're doing an EXCELLENT job with the young bloke anyway!
If I can help with anything, sing out!
Cheers,

i agree wholeheartedly.
just carry on carrying on.
you are obviously a jem

[MyGSXF:Me]

There is no bloody way I'm going anywhere near a crocagator, let alone climb onto a mobile handbag!

lols.. edited..

[Nasty]

I think that is an awesome idea ... because to tell you the truth it takes many ideas from exposure to many people to make a man a man ... and you are doing a great job .. the extras will come and this is a great way of getting that!!!

[piston broke]

so is the young fella hands on, or more cerebrial?

[MyGSXF:Me]

if you're nearby'ish,
i'd be more than happy to take the young fella sailing and surfing.
and some part time work in a boatbuilding shop.
damn,i see you are a bit far away,unless you want to send him up here for a week or two

Oh hun.. thankyou thankyou thankyou for your offer.. I'd have him there in a flash if you were closer.. you could always shift to Nelson & marry me...

Quite honestly, Jen, it sounds like you're doing an EXCELLENT job with the young bloke anyway!
If I can help with anything, sing out!
Cheers, John

To be a father or to be a dad. The two things aren't of course mutually exclusive. With my brady bunch Im being either dad or both depending on the boy.

Tis a bugger you guys are so far away too!!

it takes many ideas from exposure to many people to make a man a man ...

Cheers Kari.. I agree.. there's a saying round something about "it takes a community to raise a child".. & personally, I find that motorcyclists tend to be very "real", decent & down to earth people.

so is the young fella hands on, or more cerebrial?

Depends on what it is really hun.. he enjoys fishing, & motorbiking (with me) but loves his computer, playstation & reading. He also loves going tramping with my Olds & to places like the Steam Museum.. I drove Dads old Morrie Van in the Classic Car Run last weekend.. & took the boys.. they love it! He is bright.. but his personality is generally that of a dreamer.. (Pisces). He would like to be an Aircraft Engineer & I encourage him to go through the Airforce to achieve that.. but maths is not his strong point.. so not sure if it is really feasible or not..

[Ocean1]

I wondered, would any good men out there be willing to write a letter to Jess & impart some of your manly wisdom on what it is "to be a man" please?

I is good.


But not as good as this dude...


Read him this:

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son.