To be a man?

**Maha** · 28th February 2009, 22:01

Originally Posted by MyGSXF

I needz to get me one of these babies then...

http://www.trademe.co.nz/Sports/Camp...-204526042.htm

I use one of those for a sugar scoop!!!.....

**Skyryder** · 28th February 2009, 22:03

Real men respect woman.

Skyryder

**MyGSXF:Me** · 28th February 2009, 22:27

Originally Posted by Skyryder

Real men respect woman

Awesome!!!!!

Please can you put that in writing for me!!?

**Mikkel** · 28th February 2009, 23:05

Originally Posted by MyGSXF

That's why I want to make a book.. it will be something he can keep & look back through over the years & can be added to as he grows. Jess is a sentimental kid, he 'feels' very deeply. I've given him some soppy cards over the years & he keeps them in his drawer beside his bed! I could pretty much guarantee the chances of him going "off the rails" would be about as likely as me getting to own a Britten..

Sentimentality can be a handicap too, I know so from personal experience. And while "off the rails" may be very improbable, turning into a (semi-)alcoholic may not. I wouldn't worry too much Jen, I am sure that you are doing a very good job of it, but no matter what you do this is not a perfect world and there's no way in which you could hide that fact from an intelligent child. How we deal with the imperfections that we encounter is impossible to predict, as long as you make sure your kids are raised with love and not indifference I am sure they will be better equipped to handle whatever shit comes their way than what constitutes the average.

We'll have to see about that Britten though... would any old Britten do?

**Mikkel** · 28th February 2009, 23:05

Originally Posted by Maha

I use one of those for a sugar scoop!!!.....

You use a used one... or... ?

**Mort** · 1st March 2009, 00:41

All boys love their mum because all mums love their boys. You have shown that to us and I am sure you have shown that to your boy. He may be going through a difficult time of his life but if you are always there and you always love him you will be the rock of his life.

Every boy/man wants to lead and make his way. If you can allow or instigate opportunites for him to do this he will gain confidence and subconsciencely (if not explicitly) acknowledge and love you for it. At 13, now is a time to let him have a little more space but he must be sure that he has your love and support regardless of ANY situation he find himself in. He should always know, at any age and at any point in the future he has your support. This will stand him in good stead throughout his life. A parent can give no more than this.

**ynot slow** · 1st March 2009, 06:34

Sounds like you're doing an A grade job,don't beat yourself up about it.

At least he enjoys his grandparents,not many at that age do (respect) them,I liked my grandparents at all ages and wish they were alive to see my kids,once they go ya can't get em back though.

Be proud he respects you and grandies,just give him a little more slack,hell I remember the first time I got pissed lol(16 or so),first small car crash,never hurt me(emotionally)and is part of growing up and knowing limits.

**portokiwi** · 1st March 2009, 07:03

You are doing a great job

He sounds like he is doing great.
Many of us have come from homes which we never had a father. Passed away of left. My dad passed away in front of me when I was 7. My ex wife and I seperated after 18 years of marrige. We had 4 kids togeather.
The kids are good Yes it hurt the kids but it was for the best. Been allmost 4 years now. I miss them so much and cant wait till they come up for hollidays.
Your son is doing a fantastic job. You have him pointed in the right direction.
Just keep doing what you are doing

Keep up encouragement and he will go far.

**Maki** · 1st March 2009, 07:45

Wow, original poster your son is lucky to have such a fantastic mom. Men are overrated but if you think your son really needs some manly advice I have a few words.

Please tell him.

Take 100% responsibility for your actions. Know that you will gain satisfaction from what you do and what you achieve.

Be a warrior. Decide carefully what you want to do and do not be afraid to say no. When you have decided you want to do something, give it everything you have got.

Always remember the words of a wise man (Jackie Stewart 3 times formula 1 world champion): "You can not be half pregnant"
I was just reading his biography. He was branded as "stupid" when he went to school because of his dyslexia. He then went on to live a life of great achievement.

Support your son, give him responsibilities. Pick him up when he falls down and let him learn from his own mistakes.

I hope this makes some sense.

**FROSTY:Me** · 1st March 2009, 08:10

Originally Posted by Big Dave

Frosty is actually Alice. :-P

And who the F$#$ is alice??

**Swoop** · 1st March 2009, 08:55

Originally Posted by Maki

I was just reading his biography. He was branded as "stupid" when he went to school

Unfortunately schools have a bit to answer for.
The lack of male teachers at younger age levels, for example. Most male teachers seem to be at secondary level.

Slightly OT.
The "Virtual" or "online" social interaction is something that we have possibly overlooked with the younger ones. They naturally take to online communities for gaming and suchlike, and can be a place of learning things like teamwork and communication skills.

**gman49** · 1st March 2009, 12:39

If you asked my mum what I was like at 13 and compared me to Jess, she would say you were pretty lucky.

And if I was Jess it wouldn’t matter what anyone wrote for me I would still be the way I am, it would take more than letters, give him some good old fashioned adventure books or movies to watch, a PS3 with a huge HD LCD TV a 100 pack of condoms and a penthouse magazine, oh and a rechargeable electric shaver, don’t worry about him learning how to use a blade.
Oh and DON”T let him ride a Harley

Luv ya lots, you're doing a good job now