To be a man?

[Winston001]

Hi I don't think you need to worry so much, as it sounds like you're doing pretty good as it is, he sounds a bit like me as a teen (not too long ago)..

Agreed. The very fact you are aware of the importance of male role models in your son's life says a lot about you. You are good parent, your son is a lucky boy. Let us know how you are getting on, there are many decent blokes who would be only too happy to let your son join in with their own kids doing mens stuff.

Men do look at things differently. I tried to do lots of adventurous dangerous stuff with my children while my wife had conniptions. Not actual danger, just let them push the boundaries climbing a tree, rock wall, hold a chainsaw, mountain walks etc.

[MyGSXF:Me]

You said he's into bikes ? Kick his ass if he brings home a harley poster, or says he like country music

Most definitely!!

hold a chainsaw

Oohh.. ooohhh.. oohhhhh.... I can teach him how to do that tooo.. pretty dab handy wiv a chainsaw is I..

[MyGSXF:Me]

Update.... Jess is now a gorgeous young man of 18!! (& taller than me.. little shit! ) (holy shyte... where has the last 5 YEARS gone!!!!?? )

He still has the same gentle loving sensitive nature. When the younger brother went to his dads for the weekend.. Jess & I would have "Friday date nights" (Jess instigated this idea!!!) we'd get takeaways for tea, a dvd, & park up for the evening. One night we cried so hard from laughing so damn much watching Nigel Lattas "Politically Incorrect Guide to raising Teenagers"! bloody funny!!

He played the Bass drum in the pipe band for several years.. was fantastic at it & took a lot of pride in the importance of his role at keeping the beat & timing for the rest of the band! He worked at Pak'n'Save for a couple of years in the weekends, & kept the same group of awesome College friends right through till the day he left home. (now they Skype & txt!)

He passed his restricted licence (car ) today.. & starts Chef training on Monday, at the Culinary Institute in KeriKeri!!

see also this thread.... http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/sh...equired-please!!!!!

So if any of you lovely manly men are still around up that way, & have a little spare time to catch up & talk man stuff.. let me know. He's finding it a bit lonely being away from home (he left just before Xmas.. & he misses his Mum... aaawwww shucks.. )

Jen

[caseye]

Bit far south of his local, but always a bed and an ear down here in Dorkland.
Even a stop over for Ma, coming to see her boy.
Got three girls, 2 still at home, one away, never miss the chance to see em.

[Padmei]

hey Jen
In all honesty i think the role models of men are by & large overrated. Your boy has had the good fortune of having a pretty cool, open, caring & humourous mum & I think now you're seeing the fruits of your hard work in how your boy has turned out. you've done well.

ps my littlest was too shy to tell you she was my daughter at CTS for the 1st aid

[Akzle]

seriously. Why the hell would you call a boy jess?!

[Tarded]

I reckon a boy does need a male role model if for no other reason than balance.
Same applies to girls in the reverse.

He needs to learn how to act in bloke company and in polite (obviously I mean female here) company.

There is a difference depending on the blokes and females but you get my drift.

The world is a tough place.
It sounds like he will make a good hubby one day but guys that are too nice can get eaten alive.

Im going to get slammed by the brigade but a little mongrel never hurt.

Girls dont tend to impart this knowledge (not their make up), or teach the wisdom of when to apply it and when to walk away.

I dont care if its 2014, one of my key roles is to protect my clan and my cave. Boys need to be able to do this.
This sooky PC BS needs to stop.

It sounds like you have done a pretty good job with the boy, well done.

And I cook and clean my fair share too for the record.
Its not like its hard and 'hun the house is clean' seems to be reasonable foreplay

(edit - that emoticon is a bit rude in context of foreplay but it made me laugh when I reread my post so you can too..........)