When is verbal or physical domestic violence understandable?

[scumdog]

It's probably time to walk away and find some one else.

Or just take a break.
Be like the moss-killer ad. "walk awaaaaay"

[scumdog]

2 years of having every spelling mistake and every grammatical error written down in a book plus other stuff - what's that called. no smilie faces here

Post on KB and you'll get more of that too if you make any grammar and spelling mistakes......

[Marmoot]

Treating women differently just because of them being female is sexual discrimination, and such practice should be banned/discouraged/scorned upon.

Women has long fought for equality through suffrage, and thus their wish should be acknowledged and respected.
If it is fine to punch a bloke, then it should be fine to punch a bitch.

[Burtha]

Treating women differently just because of them being female is sexual discrimination, -->
If it is fine to punch a bloke, then it should be fine to punch a bitch.

do I see discrimination, I think so - bloke vs bitch?
classy.

breaking points as mentioned by others is human. how you deal with them is the difference between abuse and respect. if you still remain respectful then you can quite clearly say "please shut the f**k up"!

abuse, personal attacks either verbal or physical are unacceptable.
if there is found to be a mental or physical disability that is the cause of it however, this needs to be identified and treated.

[ynot slow]

Point and case about verbal or physical abuse,noticed how road rage starts with verbal and ends in violence.

Seems we can't just ignore or walk away anymore,must result in violence.

Similar thing happened to us,walking down a walkway in town to a bar,several slightly pissed 16-17yr olds gave a bit of lip.Others with us carried on,but I thought fuck you(youse for them)and walked back to ask what they meant,one tough guy said piss off as I walked to another(closest).
Turned out he was all talk,we said a few words about them getting pissed and bad mouthing passers-by,being tough and maybe getting the shit kicked out of them if they picked on 4 wrong guys.Best thing was he wanted to shake my hand,I said nah you're not worth it,he said,please sir,so I did,best part was getting close to him to shake I kept alert,but also reminded him,bit of a cunt you're right handed eh,can't hit me,the look on his face when I said I'm left handed,priceless.

[Mom]

Verbal abuse is one thing, I have been known to throw a bit of VB from time to time if I get sufficiently pissed off, seems to happen a bit when out riding and dickhead car drivers want to remove me from the face of the earth.

I have already stated my feelings about physical abuse, but I think what everyone is trying to talk about here is emotional abuse. That is an incidious and really damaging kind of abuse. It destroys lives and is every bit, if not more damaging than physical abuse.

[cc rider]

Post on KB and you'll get more of that too if you make any grammar and spelling mistakes......

I know, I know. Small man syndrome is nothing new.

cheers

[trump-lady]

The problem is by the time the physical abuse is happening there has often been years of emotional abuse, verbal abuse. As someone who works in this field and deals directly with victims once police get involved everyday I can tell you its not just men and women. I have many clients where the woman is the abuser however men are reluctant to seek help. We have grandparents being hit by grandchildren. (so fuckin maddening) Teenagers hitting their parents/siblings and many gay relationships are surfacing lately. Headbutting is the latest trend and I believe this comes from TV. We only get 30 percent of incidents reported

The other factors are the "intent of the perputrator" and "the effect on the victim"

All the things that have been noted can be simply answered as:

as soon as the use power of any type be it verbal, emotional or physical is used to try to control another being.... ITS NOT OK.

Power and control is the key here.

Wear a white ribbon to show your against violence

[Mom]

Power and control is the key here.

The sooner this amazingly simple wheel is better understood by the general population, the sooner we will see a bigger intolerance of domestic violence in any form. The rednecks will stop spouting "she asked for it" or "she deserved it" and instead be saying shit, wish I was closer to that situation to pull tugger up on his behaviour.

I apologise too for making this a gender specific issue in this post, I know that it applies across the population. Power and control, simple.

[Dave Lobster]

We only get 30 percent of incidents reported

How do you know how many aren't reported, if they're not reported?

[ital916]

if you wind someone up long enough an explosive reaction is bound to occur.

What I would like to know is how woman and men differ in their reactive measures.

Kinda like how catfights between female friends can be viscous with a lot of verbal abuse, backstabbing etc whilst between men there is a bit of a punch up instead and less verbal abuse.

[ital916]

The sooner this amazingly simple wheel is better understood by the general population, the sooner we will see a bigger intolerance of domestic violence in any form. The rednecks will stop spouting "she asked for it" or "she deserved it" and instead be saying shit, wish I was closer to that situation to pull tugger up on his behaviour.

I apologise too for making this a gender specific issue in this post, I know that it applies across the population. Power and control, simple.

Im pleased that you added in that end paragraph, abuse is not tolerable ever, no matter the gender of the culprit or the victim.

[MisterD]

as soon as the use power of any type be it verbal, emotional or physical is used to try to control another being.... ITS NOT OK.

S'what I always say...socialism...ITS NOT OK.

[cave weta]

2 years of having every spelling mistake and every grammatical error written down in a book plus other stuff - what's that called. no smilie faces here

Shit I wish I had Known about him When I dumped my ex!- we could have set them up and if it all went according to plan they would have psycologically destroyed each other by now!

power tripping little bitch that she was! -tasty tho

[MisterD]

Im pleased that you added in that end paragraph, abuse is not tolerable ever, no matter the gender of the culprit or the victim.

So...a question. Say we have a hypothetical situation where one partner is abusing the other mentally, verbally, emotionally...the other partner snaps and uses superior strength to turn the tables physically. Why is it only the retaliation that receives society's condemnation?