First things guys have to understand, the money is going towards the children. If you think you are "paying your ex" (which you are not) then you'll hold a grudge against her for no reason.
If you feel she is spending the money unwisely, then suggest you both share in the usual out of house expenses. She may think you are taking control and refuse this, but it is worth suggesting.
Originally Posted by FlangMaster
This is only true if she is not on a benefit. And then only if she is ethical about it. How many times do we see her in a new car, lots of shit on HP etc, whilst your kids still only have what they did when you were there?
If she is on a benefit, then 'your contribution' goes direct to the Govt coffers. Theoretically, it is possible for you to pay more than she receives in benefits. How fair is that?
Do you realise how many holes there could be if people would just take the time to take the dirt out of them?
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What IRD NEED to be aware of is that this man is supporting 3 other children. This has a substantial effect on the amount of child support paid.
Theres also family tax credits that help offset.
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Most guys are quite happy to pay child support when it is going towards helping the kids out, and mostly it does. If he is unhappy with what he is paying he should get a review. The IRD should take into account other children and expenses or else they all lose out.
I agree. Once you have split then the only expenses you should pay should be for the children. Unfortunalty when some people split it becomes personal and a little childish. The best way is to have a private agreement, and that money is decided upon by both in the best interest of the child. I guess parents who have split have to put everything else aside and be a little grown up about things, everything should be about the kids. Guess I am lucky, me and my ex are co-parents and will be for the rest of our lives we have to get on and think only of the kids.Originally Posted by cowboyz
Good luck. IRD is like GOD. I have been on both sides of that fence - and no, it is not easy. I too would suggest getting a review done of his entitlement to pay. But frankly, they are tough and often are most unlikely to budge. Easiest option would be to have someone live with him and support her and her kids....... OR as we did, get smart - start a business and draw an income - only enough to survive on.
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