Fighting Depression

[CookMySock]

Owch, thats not the best, bud. I'd say get that bike on the road pronto - just do what it takes and get riding the bugger. It's tempting to recommend all sorts of after-school fun, but I won't because they can backfire real badly, but I will say that you and your mrs should be able to fun something really distracting to do together, I am sure. Well, just a j together and a funny movie can help a lot, but dont smoke lots and lots of it. Also try dropping a few kilograms is a very encouraging thing to do, and join a gym and push some iron around three or four nights a week.

i was in a job for 5 years with to much pressure and I should have left the job earlier before I got sick

You did well getting out of there after only 5 years. Mine took 15 years and now I'm completely fucked. Stupid ay.

Steve

[tigertim20]

Basically I have a problem with starting it...it has fuel and spark, and pretty sure air as well, but its not firing...the odd time it has a bit of a backfire but it wont go...I dunno wots up with it...I have tried engine start down the airbox but that dont help either....was going b4 I replaced the seals...im stumped...

Then it needs a new tyre..not a prob, then revin....I am thinking of buying an old bike thats reg'd, but thats money i dont have at the moment...everything has been so tight since we moved up here...

A spanner day would be a fuckin great idea mate, get some local bikers around, out a few bangers on the barby, make a bunch of new friends, work on bikes, that would be a positive in more ways than one, and for many people, us bikers love a bloody good excuse to get social! Ya should organise a day and post a date in here for local bikers. A meet and greet maybe? Just a thought.

I think its fuckin awesome that this site provides so much support for fellow riders, outside the norm of riding. Youg uys all fuckin rock!!!

[vifferman]

Things seem to suck at the moment, but I got me some happy pills(are they really happy), and a list of counselors (that all seem to charge $75 P.H)...

Sounds like it's largely circumstantial, Bren. But regardless of whether things do get better, you will get better.

You did well on the counsellors - I was seeing specialists that were $250/hour, and weren't even $25 worth, for all the help they were. I would've been better spending the money on bike parts or toys for myself.

[1 Free Man]

Well, it's been confirmed. I am suffering from Depression.

I have been finding it bloody hard of late after moving up from the south island. I miss my mates and my kids, but I made the move to support my wife, and to tell you the truth its not so much that I don't like Kapiti, it is more that I miss Christchurch. Added to that is the fact that my job sucks, and my bike is still in bits, and the fact of dealing with in-laws constantly and you have my very own recipe for depression.

I am guessing the winter blues have set in and a crisis in the family re my mums heart attack have not helped.

Anyway, I went to the doctor today and he was as helpful as tits on a bull, in fact all he seemed to care about is ejecting me out of his clinic and seeing the next patient. Maybe I should be glad that he is so dedicated to his job that he wants to see as many patients as possible...But I felt shortchanged....

Things seem to suck at the moment, but I got me some happy pills(are they really happy), and a list of counselors (that all seem to charge $75 P.H)...


Just my rant

Geezz man I tried to warn you off Otaki but you wouldn't listen. You poor bugger sorry to hear that Otaki got to you so soon after moving there. You went to the Otaki medical centre didn't you. Another mistake!!! it's all about the money for those dudes. They don't want to fix you they just want to lighten up your wallet so it won't give you a back strain. You wait until the "black cold days" come along in the middle of the winter. You get chilled to the bone and just don't warm up all day. Worst part is these days can go on for a week at a time.
Go up to the Railway Hotel and get shit faced that's a good counselor it used to work for me.

[chanceyy]

Basically I have a problem with starting it...it has fuel and spark, and pretty sure air as well, but its not firing...the odd time it has a bit of a backfire but it wont go...I dunno wots up with it...I have tried engine start down the airbox but that dont help either....was going b4 I replaced the seals...im stumped...

Then it needs a new tyre..not a prob, then revin....I am thinking of buying an old bike thats reg'd, but thats money i dont have at the moment...everything has been so tight since we moved up here...

k got an idea or two .. let me think on it for a few days

A spanner day would be a fuckin great idea mate, get some local bikers around, out a few bangers on the barby, make a bunch of new friends, work on bikes, that would be a positive in more ways than one, and for many people, us bikers love a bloody good excuse to get social! Ya should organise a day and post a date in here for local bikers. A meet and greet maybe? Just a thought.

I think its fuckin awesome that this site provides so much support for fellow riders, outside the norm of riding. Youg uys all fuckin rock!!!

We have already had a few get togethers and they are always good .. at the end of the day its always bikers helping bikers ...

have a few ideas for a loop "or three" as well Bren

[Maha]

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have a few ideas for a loop "or three" as well Bren

Oh no.......not knitting as well?....

[fire eyes]

Hey Bren .. awesome advice folks on here have given

I guess all I wanted to touch on at how important the grieving process is .. loss is loss in whichever capacity it comes in and we are often so involved in moving forward that we don't give ourselves the time to grieve for what once was. We are constantly in transition .. I guess that is what life is all about .. but often we leave parts of ourselves in the past and find it hard to cope with the present and then suddenly situations and dramas seem to bombard you from every angle you end up feeling scattered, lost & confused.

I agree with take one day at a time .. I also suggest to spend sometime relishing in the memories, whatever they maybe and accepting them for what they were .. lifes experiences.

Take care dude

[chanceyy]

Oh no.......not knitting as well?....

darlin you must have me confused with another man bitch ... I am not a knitter .. more of a stirrer ....

[Bren]

Geezz man I tried to warn you off Otaki but you wouldn't listen. You poor bugger sorry to hear that Otaki got to you so soon after moving there. You went to the Otaki medical centre didn't you. Another mistake!!! it's all about the money for those dudes. They don't want to fix you they just want to lighten up your wallet so it won't give you a back strain. You wait until the "black cold days" come along in the middle of the winter. You get chilled to the bone and just don't warm up all day. Worst part is these days can go on for a week at a time.
Go up to the Railway Hotel and get shit faced that's a good counselor it used to work for me.

Family Hotel is 2 doors down, they are good buggers there...I think it is more of the point of leaving CHCH than moving to Otaki...this place is okay and the beach is just down the road....I went to Team Medical in P'ram...

[ynot slow]

At least ya haven't listened to people saying HTFU.Each day at a time,talk,talk to the best mate(wife),not much we can say,except don't jump on the bike if ya don't want to.

[Bren]

at least some good shit....My bike has got over the burping and farting....after 15 min of trying and going through half a can of "start ya bastard" I have got her to run...neighbours cant be too happy cos I have fucked up in putting the cans back on, and instead of the putt putt putt of a 250 its sounding more of a brrp brrp brrp....sounds way too cool, but mr plod would not like it...

least it's a start...i might be able to take her for a blast on the back roads this weekend

[The Pastor]

Most people dont suffer depression for ever, there is an end to it, just takes time.

[WolfCollared]

There is no hope
My mind is all over the place
I dont know what to do
No one listens
No one understands me
Why me
why is everyone so happy
dont want to be sociable
cant be bothered
this is the end im going to do it

Harden up...the lows are lows, they take over unexpectedly. Make the most of when you are happy and on top of the world. A passing phase of a low will happen from time to time. Work out the patterns, triggers and what bounces you back.

I've got it - stuck with it for life, it dont stop me enjoying life. I make the most of when I am happy....although those lows are the end of the world but it passes.

[peasea]

Known things to help fight depression....


First & foremost, knowing you are & understanding its why you are feeling the way you presently do, then excepting that. Then, exercise, a healthy balanced diet, good sleeping patterns (ie don't stay up late) & don't eat junk food at night plus lashings of motor cycling



True story

Part right and good on ya for the positive post. My sister (who should be a nurse and gave it away for dumb paperwork reasons) reckoned I was clinically depressed a while back.

I got through it thanks to a good diet as part of it; I truly beileve that good (not expensive) food has a lot to do with mindset.

However.

People are the lifeline.

Friends, family, workmates, even strangers can make the difference. I am fortunate to have some very good mates, family and workmates. I list them in order of how they helped me.

If you have more mates than fingers on one hand, you're extremely lucky. Only one is all you need, any more is a bonus.

Family will be there when you need them, sometimes the ambulance at the bottom of the hill, but they'll be there.

Workmates often help you through the day.

If I'd had an email friend when my shit hit the fan I think I'd have opened up more because I could have let loose with no repercussions. As it was I had to tough it out, so I extend an experienced hand..............in the annonimity of cyberspace.

No problem is insurmountable when you have a mate.

[DarkLord]

I've found journaling really helps. It just gets it out of your system. Sometimes I sit at my computer for hours, just bashing away on the keyboard about however I am feeling at the time.

I've often found circumstances are just a trigger for what is really going on inside. Although things are shit at the moment, this can be a real time of growth for you - if you let it. I can say that as well - I've been made redundant recently and am currently on the benefit, through no fault of my own. When you've got no job, your mind wanders, and not necessarily to good places.

I've had days where I've had to look up to see the bottom (get your mind out of the gutter - lol) but as I've just gotten really honest with myself and dug real deep, as well as connected with some trusted friends about things, I feel I've made progress.

I'm sorry to hear things are hard for you. However I really encourage you to at least try and put some of the things me and others on here have said into practice. I believe it can make a difference for you.

PM me if I can be of any further help to you.

Cheers

DarkLord