'Issues' with boyfriend and bikes

[steelphoenix]

I'm a learner, which is awesome. I pootle around every weekend on boyfriend's bike (Yamaha Scorpio, cute zippy little thing), I'm not too bad (hill starts still need work), and I'm planning on getting a bike once I get my Restricted - gives me time to save up a decent amount for a deposit. I'm 25, so it won't be that long.

The problem is that all of a sudden, boyfriend doesn't want me to get a bike/licence. :blink: :angry: He's the one who initially taught me the basics, too, so it's not as if he doesn't know that I'm okay on a bike. :facepalm:

Also, I'm the acknowledged Safety Queen, ATGATT and all that - and he far too often heads off, jacket flapping in the breeze and helmet unfastened (and no other gear).

Is there any way to deal with this/make it less of a contentious issue, because I really do want a bike (running costs, parking, FUN)! I love him to bits, but I'm confused by the suddenness of this, and the sheer nonsensical crazy of it (double standards much?).

Any advice, Angels?

[Taz]

Just tell him this is how it's going to be. No one should dictate how another lives their life IMO.

[Scuba_Steve]

Death to the infidel!!!

failing that I'm sure there's plenty of guys on here willing to take in a chick who's into bikes :laugh:

[ellipsis]

Just tell him this is how it's going to be. No one should dictate how another lives their life IMO.

+1 ..exactly my sentiments...have you checked out what HIS problem is...

[Mental Trousers]

A case of careful what you wish for. He wants you to get into bikes, but on his terms, not yours. If you get your own bike he doesn't get to control how, when, where and what you do with bikes.

You might end up having to choose between bikes and boyfriend. In which case my advice is go with bikes. There's plenty of guys out there.

[Spazman727]

I can see how he feels, I don't really wan't my girlfriend to get a bike. But I don't want to stop her doing what she wants and it's fully hypocritical for me to stop her (not that I could of course). If it was me, I'd tell him that it's your decision and he can't stop you and just do what you want. I know when my girlfriend gets a bike I'm gonna love going on rides with her.

[hayd3n]

thats fine as long as he stops riding as well.

you could always stop him from riding something else

just buy a bike and tough shit he'll hopefully get over it

[Mom]

I would suggest that you just ignore him. He may be just realising that you are REALLY getting into this biking thing and is worrying that you will maybe hurt yourself at some stage. Some guys are real softies like that, failing that he is being a dick.

Dont make it an issue, just quietly go about doing it for yourself (get your own wheels soonest to avoid any issues there) and dont worry about what he is thinking. As far as him not wearing ATGATT, that is his call, a stupid one in my opinion but his choice. He sounds to me as if he is the big I AM, do what I let you do and I will do what I like.

[DMNTD]

Why don't you just tell him to fuck off? :facepalm:

[Spazman727]

Why don't you just tell him to fuck off? :facepalm:

Yeah, If he really cares about you, he will let you do what you want, and if not, you're better off without him. Jeez, I sound so sensitive and shit, gah.

[White trash]

He's having a bad case of "buyers remorse" so to speak, as old Mental Trousers has already alluded to.

When he first showed you about bikes, and how to ride them he was thinking "Yup, I'm the experianced one, more respect, be cool for both of us" etc etc. All of a sudden, he's relaised that "Shit. She actually enjoys this and I'm never going to get any time on my own. This is supposed to be MY hobby"

[rickstv]

Just tell him that your bike will be forever,,,,,,, He may not be.:bye:

Rick.

[nodrog]

Trade him in for a good woman, we like bikes :yes::love:

Fanny.

[steelphoenix]

Thanks everyone for your replies - man, a lot in a short time! :)

@Taz, CAMSec, Dumpty, Spazman - Yeah. I'm gonna keep on with it, I want my bike! :)

@Scuba_Steve, rickstv - LOL, trudat! :P

@Mental Trousers, white trash - Yeah, I think he has a case of 'careful what you wish for'. Because he was quite keen initially - perhaps only now realised the ramifications? And yeah, bikes FTW, other fish in the sea.

@Mom - I think he is worried I'll hurt myself, he's a big softie sometimes. Carrying on as I am seems order of the day.

@auntfanny - *snerk* Tried that, and she left me... but that was before I tried bikes. Maybe it would help, LOL! :D

[EJK]

Why don't you just tell him to fuck off? :facepalm:

LOL!!!! Straight to the point, cut to the chase. I like that.


To Original Poster (OP), good luck finding a win-win situation.

[Gremlin]

This fella doesn't seem to mind chicks riding: http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php/131284-To-the-beauty-riding-the-orange-ER-6n-down-K-Road... :lol:

[steelphoenix]

This fella doesn't seem to mind chicks riding: http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php/131284-To-the-beauty-riding-the-orange-ER-6n-down-K-Road... :lol:

LOL, I saw that! :lol: Maybe I should get an ER6N? :P

[gijoe1313]

I think you should scare him more with saying you feel more butch, thinking of getting a dyke haircut, shopping for some romper stomper boots and overalls, using safety pins as accessories and other such stereotypical markers.

Then just go back to riding - if he has a problem, then its him not you! And he should have realised, bikers by nature are rebellious!

[avgas]

Are you a sexy, 25y/o biker chick?

If so I reckon you ditch the dead weight (boyfriend) and keep being a sexy, 25y/o biker chick.

Its hot.

[steelphoenix]

I think you should scare him more with saying you feel more butch, thinking of getting a dyke haircut, shopping for some romper stomper boots and overalls, using safety pins as accessories and other such stereotypical markers.

The fact that I wear combat boots and jeans at least 50% of the time may possibly not assist with this... :lol:

@avgas: Umm... 'sexy' is a matter of opinion, I guess? :P

[ellipsis]

....steelphoenix...why aren't you out looking for your bike...NOW...

[EJK]

@avgas: Umm... 'sexy' is a matter of opinion, I guess? :P

Show us a pic and we can be the judge.

I'm not trying to be rude here. Oh hell, I'm a good guy.

[Juzz976]

I don't think its a matter of choosing between biking and boyfriend,

its choosing between having a boyfriend who wants to control you and one that doesn't.

I couldn't be with someone who thought they had the right to tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing.

My opinion only of course.

[steelphoenix]

Show us a pic and we can be the judge.

I'm not trying to be rude here. Oh hell, I'm a good guy.

LOL no.


I don't think its a matter of choosing between biking and boyfriend,

its choosing between having a boyfriend who wants to control you and one that doesn't.

I couldn't be with someone who thought they had the right to tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing.

My opinion only of course.

Yep, I know what you mean, Juzz - and this is the only time he's been anything less than okay about what I do (and I get up to some crazy stuff - he knows I can look after myself). I think he's had a sudden panic, hence why I'm trying to... smooth things over? until he gets used to the idea.

[gijoe1313]

The fact that I wear combat boots and jeans at least 50% of the time may possibly not assist with this... :lol:

@avgas: Umm... 'sexy' is a matter of opinion, I guess? :P

Shhh! You'll get the guy's pornographic memories going with statements like that! Your bf probably knows how he reacts when he sees other biker chicks riding about doing their own thing! :msn-wink:

He'd be damned if he wants other biker guys to be doing that to you! :lol:

[Crasherfromwayback]

The fact that I wear combat boots and jeans at least 50% of the time may possibly not assist with this... :lol:

@avgas: Umm... 'sexy' is a matter of opinion, I guess? :P

Sounds like ya BF should be dressing like a dyke!

[hellokitty]

Trade him in for a new model :yes: There are heaps of biker guys out there and not that many chicks.
When I got my license, my husband was happier than I was - he ran around telling all his mates! Of course, now I have a bigger bike that he rides when he has no gas in his :facepalm:

Seriously, don't let some guy tell you what to do - it is a slippery slope....
and you wouldn't stop him from riding would you? Its all about respect.

[MadDuck]

Why don't you just tell him to fuck off? :facepalm:

Thats pretty good advice as far as I can tell :sunny:

[Tink]

Any advice, Angels?

Ain't it sweet when all the boys answer to 'Angels'... listen to your heart, obviously that means keep riding. He will come around they all do eventually, eh Angels!!! hehe

Seriously, he really needs to give you a justified reason, and even then its your call not his... again obviously it will be bikes lol.:scooter:

[slofox]

Well...in my considered opinion, after forty plus years of riding, any bike is worth much more than any boyfriend (or girlfriend as the case may be).

But then, I could be biassed...

[tigertim20]

I'm a learner, which is awesome. I pootle around every weekend on boyfriend's bike (Yamaha Scorpio, cute zippy little thing), I'm not too bad (hill starts still need work), and I'm planning on getting a bike once I get my Restricted - gives me time to save up a decent amount for a deposit. I'm 25, so it won't be that long.

The problem is that all of a sudden, boyfriend doesn't want me to get a bike/licence. :blink: :angry: He's the one who initially taught me the basics, too, so it's not as if he doesn't know that I'm okay on a bike. :facepalm:

Also, I'm the acknowledged Safety Queen, ATGATT and all that - and he far too often heads off, jacket flapping in the breeze and helmet unfastened (and no other gear).

Is there any way to deal with this/make it less of a contentious issue, because I really do want a bike (running costs, parking, FUN)! I love him to bits, but I'm confused by the suddenness of this, and the sheer nonsensical crazy of it (double standards much?).

Any advice, Angels?

hes either a control freak, or he is worried about your safety. politely remind him that its no longer 1923, and that (apparently) now women have rights and shit, and you can and ill do what you want, and if he ever wants pussy again, he will accept and support your decision.

frankly, I found my girl even hotter when she demanded a bike. and i didnt think she could get any hotter, what the fuck is wrong with this fella???

[Gibbo89]

what the fuck is wrong with this fella???

+1. Get some leathers etc, get into them and see if he still thinks it is a bad idea. :yes:

[Little Miss Trouble]

My ex didn't like me riding, nearly four years later bikes are still in my life...
Oh and a sexy man who I got 'friendly' with after we rode together :love:

[Genie]

Do what makes you happy, you have one life, live it your way. If his love is true you'll have the best of everything, if not, then you'll be making loads of new friends.

[James Deuce]

Boyfriend sounds temporary to me. Start washing his undies in Ajax. That'll learn him.

[Katman]

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Nice one Biker Angels.

Now show us your tits.

[Crasherfromwayback]

Nice one Biker Angels.

Now show us your tits.

You'd go blind if I showed you mine!

[cs363]

You'd go blind if I showed you mine!

He'd certainly wish he was...... :facepalm: :sick:

[James Deuce]

m00bs!!!!!!

[Mental Trousers]

Nice one Biker Angels.

Now show us your tits.

http://images.google.co.nz/images?hl=en&source=hp&q=moobs&btnG=Search+Images&gbv=2&aq=f&oq=&biw=1680&bih=871

[Katman]

http://images.google.co.nz/images?hl=en&source=hp&q=moobs&btnG=Search+Images&gbv=2&aq=f&oq=&biw=1680&bih=871

I'm now busy putting names to faces.:shit:

[cs363]

I'm now busy putting names to faces.:shit:

Fuck that, I need a stiff drink after viewing that page! :sick:

[Genie]

Fuck that, I need a stiff drink after viewing that page! :sick:

I hope the drink is the only stiff thing, if you know what I mean:sick:

[Crasherfromwayback]

Why oh why did I click on that link??? Now I need to scoop my eyeballs out with a hot spoon.

[Katman]

Why oh why did I click on that link??? Now I need to scoop my eyeballs out with a hot spoon.

Hold that thought until I tell you which one I've named Crasherfromwayback.

You may want to borrow my Katana - no, not the bike.

[Crasherfromwayback]

Hold that thought until I tell you which one I've named Crasherfromwayback.

You may want to borrow my Katana - no, not the bike.

Makes no difference now!

[hellokitty]

Why oh why did I click on that link??? Now I need to scoop my eyeballs out with a hot spoon.

My thoughts exactly - when am I going to learn - never ever clink on a link provided by anyone on this site :facepalm: yet I still do it......

[rie]

Well. My other half often has delusional ideas about buying Shit He Doesn't Need. I equally make extremely uninformed decisions about Really Expensive Shit like motorbikes. Then we go buy that shit and bitch about it to each other.

So in sum, I suggest you buy whatever the hell you want. It's your money.

...as an afterthought, does it occur to anyone that there's a pretty good chance he's on KB? Be very afraid, young men of [insert locality] who own a scorpio...

[LBD]

Well. My other half often has delusional ideas about buying Shit He Doesn't Need. I equally make extremely uninformed decisions about Really Expensive Shit like motorbikes. Then we go buy that shit and bitch about it to each other.

As you have worded the situation, it sounds like a little respect and tolerance is lacking on his side of the relationship...
27 years happy married life is only acheivable if there is mutual trust and respect and a good degree of tolerance.
I am MOTGMOTT...my wife is ATGATT...But if I want to enjoy MC travels with my wife, then it is in both of our interest that she feels as comfortable and and as safe as she can, which means not skimping on gear or critisizing her ATGATT approach.

Now she is relaxed on the bike, enjoys our travels which means we enjoy our travels. Which in turn means we have lots of mutual experiences which is a key to another key to lasting relations.

If a relationship begins or develops into disagrements, oneupmanship, bullishness, diffeing opinions that lead to arguments....then in my honest opinion, things do not bode well for the long term...

And as the earlier posts point out, there are no shortage of young blokes having the hots for biker chicks...

[steelphoenix]

http://images.google.co.nz/images?hl...w=1680&bih=871
Thanks Mental Trousers... judging by the comments below, I'm glad I didn't click the link...:lol:


...as an afterthought, does it occur to anyone that there's a pretty good chance he's on KB? Be very afraid, young men of [insert locality] who own a scorpio...
Nah, he isn't. Amusing though this would be.

I actually had a pretty long talk with him last night, and he admitted that it was because he was worried about me crashing (he's done it a couple of times himself, though nothing serious). In his words - "I didn't want you to feel like I did - and I really don't want you to get hurt." Basically, sudden realisation and overreaction.

It helped that other boyfriend was being cool about the whole thing (was a bit worried, but was sure that I'd be a good careful rider, also reassured by ATGATT). :love:

Both certainly have the message now that I'm going to ride and have a bike. Nice form-fitting leathers may assist in their getting used to the idea. ;) Perhaps that should be first on the list of stuff, after helmet of course...

So all's well that ends well, I think.

[Genie]

You've got two boyfriends, that's just greedy. do they both know about the other one??? change of subject kind of but hell, that just seems wrong! you've got two and I haven't even got one...though I'm damn fussy!

[ellipsis]

.....sounds like you need a bike with a sidechair.....

[Reckless]

you've got two and I haven't even got one!

Awww Genie if you weren't so damn far away LOL!!


though I'm damn fussy!

ooopps now that could be a problem as I ain't the prettiest picture in the album LOL!!:facepalm: prob why I ain't got one either LOL!!

[XxKiTtiExX]

So he is worried bout you crashing and hurting yourself because he has crashed and hurt himself. Yet he still rides/owns a bike? Cop out much?

Time for an upgrade. And I don't mean bike wise.

Though I see you have two. What the hell? lol

[White trash]

Though I see you have two. What the hell? lol

Obviously into spit roasts. Not my cup of tea but each to their own.....

[steelphoenix]

@Genie - Yeah, they both know about each other, they get on really well (and have been known to gang up on me at times). Just a matter of luck (finding them), and the belief that honesty and communication can make any relationship work. Check out polyamory (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory). And hey, being fussy isn't a bad thing; I didn't have a boyfriend for a couple of years before I found one-then-two of them.

@CAMSec - Or we could all get bikes... :yes:

@Reckless - Long-distance? :P

[Stirts]

I didn't have a boyfriend for a couple of years before I found one-then-two of them.

When it rains, it pours aye? :Punk:

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[Laava]

Fuck this is a funny thread! Love to hear the other side of the story too tho!
So in the original thread, the boyfriend who's bike you ride and the boyfriend who is unhappy about you riding are the same boyfriend?

[Grubber]

You've got two boyfriends, that's just greedy. do they both know about the other one??? change of subject kind of but hell, that just seems wrong! you've got two and I haven't even got one...though I'm damn fussy!

and you stick to the fussy untill you find one too young lady.
Ya too good to be sharing it around!

[Genie]

and you stick to the fussy untill you find one too young lady.
Ya too good to be sharing it around!

Too right I am...ain't no-one getting a peice of this unless they is worthy of the Lady in the Lamp!

[steelphoenix]

Fuck this is a funny thread! Love to hear the other side of the story too tho!
So in the original thread, the boyfriend who's bike you ride and the boyfriend who is unhappy about you riding are the same boyfriend?
Yup. Which was what was making it awkward, because it's his bike I ride for now (until I get my own). But I think it's sorted now... *whew*


When it rains, it pours aye?
LOL, yeah! And totally unexpected in the second case.

[Stirts]

LOL, yeah! And totally unexpected in the second case.

You unexpectedly fell on his cock? :pinch:

[Reckless]

You unexpectedly fell on his cock? :pinch:

haha Could have been both :innocent:

Looks like the girls wanna know what the 3some's are like LOL!!!:sick:

Shit I really hope she's not to young for that sorta comment?

[Stirts]

haha Could have been both :innocent:

At the same time? Are you insinuating that steelphoenix has a bucket flange?



Shit I really hope she's not to young for that sorta comment?

She has two boyfriends.....me thinks it's a bit late to worry about her "innocence" as such.

[Monja]

Get a bike that needs a couple of little things to fix up and play the pouty "i need your help" role, that might satisfy his need to feel a little bit in control and boost his ego a little - that's never a bad thing!

[Pussy]

I'd like to know how steelphoenix can find enough time to get out of the kitchen.....

[cs363]

I'd like to know how steelphoenix can find enough time to get out of the kitchen.....

And you wonder why your wife booby traps the dish washer with sharp knives.... :whistle:

[cs363]

I hope the drink is the only stiff thing, if you know what I mean:sick:

Definitely the only stiff thing here matey! :angry:

And I used to think you were such a nice girl.... :lol:

[steve_t]

You unexpectedly fell on his cock? :pinch:

:killingme:killingme Over and over again, by accident :innocent:

[hellokitty]

Too right I am...ain't no-one getting a peice of this unless they is worthy of the Lady in the Lamp!

Nice to hear a lady with a bit of self-respect.
Too many women don't want to be alone and will just have any old idiot.

[st00ji]

lord knows its how i get all my girlfriends

[tigertim20]

I'd like to know how steelphoenix can find enough time to get out of the kitchen.....

id like to see a photo to see if shes worthy of two man attention, or if shes full of shit . . .

[Genie]

Nice to hear a lady with a bit of self-respect.
Too many women don't want to be alone and will just have any old idiot.

Who's wants to waste time in a relationship with an idiot that is not worthy? I'd rather be happy and alone, than be with someone just for the sake of being with someone. Can't imagine how some just make 'do'.
Though there is a saying 'if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with'. Must have been spoken from the lips of a shallow one.

[steelphoenix]

@Genie, hellokitty - Absolutely. Being happy with yourself without a relationship is really important. Sometimes I think too many people blame their relationships for their own issues. You sound like a lady with self-respect and confidence, which is awesome. :yes:

@Stirts - :facepalm: :lol: LOL, no, I mean the relationship was completely unexpected. Sex came after.

@Reckless - I'm 25, so no, not too young. :yes: As for 3somes... :shutup: :innocent:

@Monja - I'm actually not too bad mechanically, but he does know more about bikes. It might help... :)

[FROSTY]

Anyhoo OP. Have you gone for your basic skills n handling test yet?
AMCC run theirs in the evening and you don't even need your own bike.

[Reckless]

Anyhoo OP. Have you gone for your basic skills n handling test yet?

Frosty from the tone of the thread I think her handling skills must be fine LOL!!!:gob:

Well one things for sure steelphoenix for a chick without a bike yet, you certainly have arrived on the Kiwibiker scene with a flourish !! LOL!! :facepalm:

you go girl LOL!! :woohoo:

[davebullet]

I'm just repeating, but sounds like he had this vision you wouldn't take to it, respect how "hard" it is and be happy being his pillion.

Or your skills are improving and he is feeling a little insecure? ("she might be a better rider than me"?)

I introduced my partner to riding and encouraged her. she loves it and I'm glad she does. Yes - I had an alterior motive. for her to do something I also love so we have another thing we can do together (readers - you're either thinking :love: or :sick: right now).

Anyway - tell him you want to be able ride with him. Wouldn't it both be great if you both had bikes and could ride together?

Mrs. B and I are going on our first combined camping expedition. Just bought her a pack for her rack (bike rack that is KBers). Just need to sort out a comfy mattress for tent nookie.

[HenryDorsetCase]

I'm just repeating, but sounds like he had this vision you wouldn't take to it, respect how "hard" it is and be happy being his pillion.

Or your skills are improving and he is feeling a little insecure? ("she might be a better rider than me"?)

I introduced my partner to riding and encouraged her. she loves it and I'm glad she does. Yes - I had an alterior motive. for her to do something I also love so we have another thing we can do together (readers - you're either thinking :love: or :sick: right now).

Anyway - tell him you want to be able ride with him. Wouldn't it both be great if you both had bikes and could ride together?

Mrs. B and I are going on our first combined camping expedition. Just bought her a pack for her rack (bike rack that is KBers). Just need to sort out a comfy mattress for tent nookie.

if you buy an air mattress get a 12V compressor because you wouldnt want to be so exhausted from blowing up the airbed that you had no energy left for anything else...

[enigma51]

Wow kb has become realy soft

The question is why is the bitch out the kitchen in the first place.

[raftn]

My ex didn't like me riding, nearly four years later bikes are still in my life...
Oh and a sexy man who I got 'friendly' with after we rode together :love:

Any chance you could elaborate on what exactly friendly means....just , u know , umm, curious!

[Argyle]

I'm just repeating, but sounds like he had this vision you wouldn't take to it, respect how "hard" it is and be happy being his pillion.

Or your skills are improving and he is feeling a little insecure? ("she might be a better rider than me"?)

I introduced my partner to riding and encouraged her. she loves it and I'm glad she does. Yes - I had an alterior motive. for her to do something I also love so we have another thing we can do together (readers - you're either thinking :love: or :sick: right now).

Anyway - tell him you want to be able ride with him. Wouldn't it both be great if you both had bikes and could ride together?

Mrs. B and I are going on our first combined camping expedition. Just bought her a pack for her rack (bike rack that is KBers). Just need to sort out a comfy mattress for tent nookie.

I have a complaint to you, your avatar is making it impossible to read :innocent:

[Argyle]

@Genie - Yeah, they both know about each other, they get on really well (and have been known to gang up on me at times). Just a matter of luck (finding them), and the belief that honesty and communication can make any relationship work. Check out polyamory (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory). And hey, being fussy isn't a bad thing; I didn't have a boyfriend for a couple of years before I found one-then-two of them.



Two boyfriends is wierd....

[DMNTD]

Two boyfriends is wierd....

Why,how many do you have? :blink:

[avgas]

Wow kb has become realy soft

The question is why is the bitch out the kitchen in the first place.
We have cleared this up already.
To fall on penises or ride motorbikes.

[steelphoenix]

I'm just repeating, but sounds like he had this vision you wouldn't take to it, respect how "hard" it is and be happy being his pillion.

Or your skills are improving and he is feeling a little insecure? ("she might be a better rider than me"?)

I introduced my partner to riding and encouraged her. she loves it and I'm glad she does. Yes - I had an alterior motive. for her to do something I also love so we have another thing we can do together (readers - you're either thinking :love: or :sick: right now).

Anyway - tell him you want to be able ride with him. Wouldn't it both be great if you both had bikes and could ride together?

Mrs. B and I are going on our first combined camping expedition. Just bought her a pack for her rack (bike rack that is KBers). Just need to sort out a comfy mattress for tent nookie.

I think it was more he had a bit of a freakout about me possibly falling off and getting badly hurt (and possibly binning his bike). The improving skills might have a bit of impact on it... ;) I certainly want to ride with him, and I'm really looking forward to it. Sooner or later, he'll get around to liking me riding too. :)


Anyhoo OP. Have you gone for your basic skills n handling test yet?
AMCC run theirs in the evening and you don't even need your own bike.
I'm booked in to do my BHS this Tuesday coming, and I'm going to study up to do the licence test the same day (assuming I get the BHS! :) )

@Reckless - Thanks, I think! :laugh: :killingme

@Argyle - Yeah, a lot of people think that... but it works for us. :)

[steelphoenix]

I think it's been sorted.

Boyfriend is going to be away for the next three weeks. When he left on Monday, he gave me the keys to his bike, and said, "Here, for when you get your Learner's tomorrow, so you can practise."

[Reckless]

I think it's been sorted.

Boyfriend is going to be away for the next three weeks. When he left on Monday, he gave me the keys to his bike, and said, "Here, for when you get your Learner's tomorrow, so you can practise."

I tell you what girl he's a good cunt (or a mug) no bird would get the keys to my bike if they where shagging another dude that's for sure!!! :facepalm:

[steve_t]

I tell you what girl he's a good cunt (or a mug) no bird would get the keys to my bike if they where shagging another dude that's for sure!!! :facepalm:

+1 :yes::yes:

[Number One]

I'm a cynic - the first thing I thought was is he actually afraid you might go riding without him and get ANOTHER boyfriend? Perhaps he is worried about having to share you some more....

But again - I'm a total cynic

[Genie]

I tell you what girl he's a good cunt (or a mug) no bird would get the keys to my bike if they where shagging another dude that's for sure!!! :facepalm:

Ditto, though in my case it would be a bloke that wouldn't be getting my keys, he wouldn't be getting anything at all if he was shagging some other chick.

[Blinkwing]

Ditto, though in my case it would be a bloke that wouldn't be getting my keys, he wouldn't be getting anything at all if he was shagging some other chick.

Not even a swift kick to the nether regions?

[Genie]

Not even a swift kick to the nether regions?

why waste my energy?

[R-Soul]

Warning to boyfirends: Whenyou encourage and teach your womanin your life to ride a bike, they will eventually become bike riders, and want to go riding. Duh!

and expect you to stay at home looking after kids....
and expect you to sell your bike and get a 250 that she can ride too...
and get really naffy when you go riding and she can't....

Its just not worth it!!

[hellokitty]

Warning to boyfirends: Whenyou encourage and teach your womanin your life to ride a bike, they will eventually become bike riders, and want to go riding. Duh!

and expect you to stay at home looking after kids....
and expect you to sell your bike and get a 250 that she can ride too...
and get really naffy when you go riding and she can't....

Its just not worth it!!

hahahaha my husband gets shitty when I go riding and leave him behind looking after his kids

[Bald Eagle]

hahahaha my husband gets shitty when I go riding and leave him behind looking after his kids

hahahaha my wife tells me to get out from under her feet and go for a ride. :yes:

[2wheeldrifter]

Who wants porridge for brekkie?


I want photo's!! :yes:

[LBD]

My wife says to me....you can have 3 bikes if you want.....

......There must be an alterior motive hidden in there, somewhere.

[hellokitty]

My wife says to me....you can have 3 bikes if you want.....

......There must be an alterior motive hidden in there, somewhere.

Perhaps she wants to ride them? Sounds like something I would say, while eyeing up the bike husband is lusting after.......

[2wheeldrifter]

My wife says to me....you can have 3 bikes if you want.....

Cool, just means 4 things to ride... :yes:

......There must be an alterior motive hidden in there, somewhere.

been in the kitchen lately?

[Genie]

hahahaha my husband gets shitty when I go riding and leave him behind looking after his kids

haha...I left the husband behind years ago and still he tries to dictate that I should not ride that death machine!

[scumdog]

Warning to boyfirends: Whenyou encourage and teach your womanin your life to ride a bike, they will eventually become bike riders, and want to go riding. Duh!

and expect you to stay at home looking after kids....
and expect you to sell your bike and get a 250 that she can ride too...
and get really naffy when you go riding and she can't....

Its just not worth it!!

My wife had her bike licence and motorbikes waay before I did.

[crazyhorse]

hahahaha my wife tells me to get out from under her feet and go for a ride. :yes:

I tell my man - I'm outta here and off for a ride :LOL:

Kind of convenient too - he plays golf, and I go riding........ yeehaaaaa, i am sure I have more fun that he would chasing a ball around a paddock :whistle:

[LBD]

Perhaps she wants to ride them? Sounds like something I would say, while eyeing up the bike husband is lusting after.......

She has license and had bike, but prefers to pillian...

Re kitchen...its a mess....probably because she is away and I am baching it atm.....

[hellokitty]

She has license and had bike, but prefers to pillian...

Re kitchen...its a mess....probably because she is away and I am baching it atm.....

really? Being a pillion scares the crap out of me!

[FJRider]

My wife had her bike licence and motorbikes waay before I did.

We could tell ... :innocent:

[LBD]

really? Being a pillion scares the crap out of me!

Its a trust and a confidence thing...she is not that confident riding a bike and....(the silly girl)....trusts Moi within limits of speed and riding style. She has no hesitation asking me to slow if she is uneasy and in true team fashion, we do slow down

[Mungatoke Mad]

I'm a learner, which is awesome. I pootle around every weekend on boyfriend's bike (Yamaha Scorpio, cute zippy little thing), I'm not too bad (hill starts still need work), and I'm planning on getting a bike once I get my Restricted - gives me time to save up a decent amount for a deposit. I'm 25, so it won't be that long.

The problem is that all of a sudden, boyfriend doesn't want me to get a bike/licence. :blink: :angry: He's the one who initially taught me the basics, too, so it's not as if he doesn't know that I'm okay on a bike. :facepalm:

Also, I'm the acknowledged Safety Queen, ATGATT and all that - and he far too often heads off, jacket flapping in the breeze and helmet unfastened (and no other gear).

Is there any way to deal with this/make it less of a contentious issue, because I really do want a bike (running costs, parking, FUN)! I love him to bits, but I'm confused by the suddenness of this, and the sheer nonsensical crazy of it (double standards much?).

Any advice, Angels?
Get the FKN bike !!! he will learn to live with it if not call me

[Monie]

go for it i was on the back with hubby now i ride my own and love it .. would never give my bike up for him..... and he would not ask......

ah mom lol ...

[Ratti]

http://images.google.co.nz/images?hl=en&source=hp&q=moobs&btnG=Search+Images&gbv=2&aq=f&oq=&biw=1680&bih=871

heck some of those guys have bigger tits than I do, and thats saying a lot


id like to see a photo to see if shes worthy of two man attention, or if shes full of shit . . .

If the guys think so then she is..get over it


Mrs. B and I are going on our first combined camping expedition. Just bought her a pack for her rack (bike rack that is KBers). Just need to sort out a comfy mattress for tent nookie.

Kathmandu, self-inflating mats. get the 7.5 cm ones


Two boyfriends is wierd....

not true.If this wasnt a public forum I'd tell you a weird situation I found myself in about 5 years ago. now THAT was weird

personally, I have had a few men over the years say 'we could sell your bike and buy us a ..." suffice to say we parted company fairly rapidly. There are some honeys tho, my hubby bought me 3 bikes just cos I like them:woohoo:. He couldnt ride and had no interest in riding.

[mstriumph]

interesting - the thought that some people think they have the right to control their partners ... and have partners that allow them to think that's mebbe OK by even considering it.

talk to the bloke - ask why
if the answer isn't acceptable, tell him why

either way - you both get to choose

life's too short :wari:

[crazyhorse]

I'm a learner, which is awesome. I pootle around every weekend on boyfriend's bike (Yamaha Scorpio, cute zippy little thing), I'm not too bad (hill starts still need work), and I'm planning on getting a bike once I get my Restricted - gives me time to save up a decent amount for a deposit. I'm 25, so it won't be that long.

The problem is that all of a sudden, boyfriend doesn't want me to get a bike/licence. :blink: :angry: He's the one who initially taught me the basics, too, so it's not as if he doesn't know that I'm okay on a bike. :facepalm:

Also, I'm the acknowledged Safety Queen, ATGATT and all that - and he far too often heads off, jacket flapping in the breeze and helmet unfastened (and no other gear).

Is there any way to deal with this/make it less of a contentious issue, because I really do want a bike (running costs, parking, FUN)! I love him to bits, but I'm confused by the suddenness of this, and the sheer nonsensical crazy of it (double standards much?).

Any advice, Angels?

Do what you want - I ride and love it. If anyone told me I couldn't do it - they wouldn't be worth it. Life is what you make it. Fortunately for me, my partner taught me to ride and supported me all the way. Now I ride as good as he does. Go girl, do what your heart wants :niceone:

[thepom]

Get the bike and change your man....:eek:

[hellokitty]

Get the bike and change your man....:eek:

get a rich man who will buy you a bike! :msn-wink:

[Bald Eagle]

get a rich man who will buy you a bike! :msn-wink:

I think my wife might object

[Ratti]

maybe we should have measured your wallet instead of your thumb the other night??? would the result have been as impressive tho?