How do I.....

[Sniper]

.....cheer one of my best mates up?

His girlfriend of 7 months (only 7?) dumped him the other night and he seems to be taking it farking hard. He moved to CHCH cause of her and spent mega bucks on her ect. But of course, that means nothing now.

I have tried the old breaking stuff, running till you are shattered and drinking so that you are constantly pissed, but it never seems to work. Bit of background on the guy. He is a pretty strong willed guy but a bit too trusting at times. Not one of those guys that will kill themselves cause of a girl, but he is pretty shattered. A bit of history on me: Im not a sensitive guy and usually make jokes at the in appropriate time, so I don't exactly know what to say and do.

Any help would be appreciated cause he is starting to make me depressed. I can't even get him into a strip club (not that I would usually go :blip: )

(Mods can move this to PD if it warrents it)

[Postie]

.....cheer one of my best mates up?

His girlfriend of 7 months (only 7?) dumped him the other night and he seems to be taking it farking hard. He moved to CHCH cause of her and spent mega bucks on her ect. But of course, that means nothing now.

I have tried the old breaking stuff, running till you are shattered and drinking so that you are constantly pissed, but it never seems to work. Bit of background on the guy. He is a pretty strong willed guy but a bit too trusting at times. Not one of those guys that will kill themselves cause of a girl, but he is pretty shattered. A bit of history on me: Im not a sensitive guy and usually make jokes at the in appropriate time, so I don't exactly know what to say and do.

Any help would be appreciated cause he is starting to make me depressed. I can't even get him into a strip club (not that I would usually go :blip: )

(Mods can move this to PD if it warrents it)

dunno much about that mate, but maybe you could pass on your lonely guy flame nomination on to your buddy?

[Colapop]

What are you like a fast forwarding time? Time is really the only thing that'll make it better. In the mean time all you can do is be the mate that you are. Start being something else and things will get weird. He's your mate coz you are who you are. I got told this, (it's old but true)

Do not walk in front of me, I may not follow,
Do not walk behind me, I may not lead,
Just walk beside me and be my friend.

Just doing things (anything) takes my mind off things. It's only when it's dark and quiet do I tend to mull over things.

2c

[hXc]

If he rides, go for a ride with him.

If he doesn't, take him for a ride.

[Grahameeboy]

What are you like a fast forwarding time? Time is really the only thing that'll make it better. In the mean time all you can do is be the mate that you are. Start being something else and things will get weird. He's your mate coz you are who you are. I got told this, (it's old but true)

Do not walk in front of me, I may not follow,
Do not walk behind me, I may not lead,
Just walk beside me and be my friend.

Just doing things (anything) takes my mind off things. It's only when it's dark and quiet do I tend to mull over things.

2c

True but he needs looking after during that healing time and may not need Snipers good intentions (not your fault Sniper)......mates are not always the best 'Counsellors'......but what you can do Sniper is just listen rather than find things to help cause that is the best thing you can do....doesn't mean you have to change either (a plus)....remember he doesn't want answers so listen when he needs that time and just be his mate the other times......he doesn't need diversions................like strip clubs......just conversations

'hek what do I know'

[Biff]

Beer
Drugs
Motormacycling
Porn
X-Box
Porn
Beer

In no particular order.

Just be there for him dude. And share your missis. That's what friends are for, friend.....

[Grahameeboy]

Beer

And share your missis. That's what friends are for, friend.....

What if he doesn't fancy Snipers misses.........

[Colapop]

True but he needs looking after during that healing time and may not need Snipers good intentions (not your fault Sniper)......mates are not always the best 'Counsellors'......but what you can do Sniper is just listen rather than find things to help cause that is the best thing you can do....doesn't mean you have to change either (a plus)....remember he doesn't want answers so listen when he needs that time and just be his mate the other times......he doesn't need diversions................like strip clubs......just conversations
'hek what do I know'
Yeah true but you gotta know the guy. If he's not the kinda guy to wanna have a hug or cry to a counsellor then a really good friend would be better. At least it's someone who knows him and knows what he's like. No things aren't as they were, and it will take time. It just depends on the guy. Sniper did say he was one of his 'best' friends, that could be anyone - the Pizza guy, the Pump jockey at his local BP, the Homeless guy going through his trash....



Just tugging on the good one Sniper

[Colapop]

What if he doesn't fancy Snipers misses.........
It's not like he can struggle too much with one arm.

[Grahameeboy]

Yeah true but you gotta know the guy. If he's not the kinda guy to wanna have a hug or cry to a counsellor then a really good friend would be better. At least it's someone who knows him and knows what he's like. No things aren't as they were, and it will take time. It just depends on the guy. Sniper did say he was one of his 'best' friends, that could be anyone - the Pizza guy, the Pump jockey at his local BP, the Homeless guy going through his trash....



Just tugging on the good one Sniper

I didn't actually mean he should go to a 'Counsellor'............just meant Sniper should just listen.........

[Sniper]

I can struggle and Biff you are more than welcome around to drink my alcohol, play on playstation ect. But I won't share the missus, you can have the keys to my castle of virgins

[Colapop]

Isn't that what good friends do - know when to just shut up and listen?

[Sniper]

just meant Sniper should just listen.........
I do listen mate, hence the reason Im asking for advice

[Colapop]

I can struggle and Biff you are more than welcome around to drink my alcohol, play on playstation ect. But I won't share the missus, you can have the keys to my castle of virgins
Oh yeah 'drink my alcohol' - so I can have my way with you when you've passed out!! Heard that before......

And I aint messing with your missus - I seen the damage she can do.



And I'm scared of the damage I know my missus can do

[SixPackBack]

Knowing you as we do Sniper............the blow job you performed was of no help........perhaps you could swallow and show your friend true solidarity:laugh:

[Cibby]

Tell him he is lucky he didnt waste more time and money on this girl who obviously wasnt for him and now he is simply free to go and seach for the girl of his dreams who will actually respect him and treat him properly.

else he could stalk her until she gives in and returns to him :)

oh and he is welcome to channel all excess money towards auckland to fix my fairings..

[hXc]

you can have the keys to my castle of virgins

Can I purchase 1 or 2 of these said virgins? Do you combine shipping? If I use buy now will you pay shipping?

[Grahameeboy]

I do listen mate, hence the reason Im asking for advice

Sorry sorry....think I have been misunderstood....., I meant listen to your mate when he needs to rant....oh fuck I am changing my name now

'Digging a hole is hard work'

[Sniper]

No worries mate. Sometimes I don't speak so clearly. Must be the Seth Efrican in me. :scratch:

[Sniper]

Knowing you as we do Sniper............the blow job you performed was of no help........perhaps you could swallow and show your friend true solidarity:laugh:
Fucking hell, I thought the deep throat was good enough (PT)

Now, back to the topic at hand.

[Grahameeboy]

No worries mate. Sometimes I don't speak so clearly. Must be the Seth Efrican in me. :scratch:

so with my Seth Lundner accent we are in in BIG trouble!!!

[sels1]

What are you like a fast forwarding time? Time is really the only thing that'll make it better. 2c

Yeah, like all things good and bad, "this too shall pass" Now just keep him distracted in the mean time :drinknsin

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

Ya gotta be patient - listen while he rants and raves, it gets it out of his system - someone else suggested go riding with him or take him riding - good idea - keep him BUSYso he doesn't have too much time to think about his own problems. Otherwise only time heals =- he will probably repeat alot - just say you know what he's going thru, insist on the riding if you have to. You don't have to necessarily give advice, or fix it - just be there.

[skelstar]

Lots of good advice so far but it is the time solution. Give him something to do to distract him. Joining a gym and exercise does wonders for the self-estime. Anything else for him to think about.

[ManDownUnder]

Snipe - you don't... just help him be miserable and he'll come out of it.

You ever noticed that when you're down or really bitchy about something - the LAST thing you want is someone saying "c'mon now - it's not that bad"...

It IS that bad that's why you're down.

Let him know you're there for him, go have a drink and a shoot and a beer and let him know life is going on and it's there waiting when he's ready to join in.

Guys take solace in doing things together... do stuff with him
MDU

[**R1**]

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I find the "bi" section best for depression,

what ever you do dont let him go to the "couples seeking men" section, biff would depress anyone...

[Colapop]

Sorry sorry....think I have been misunderstood....., I meant listen to your mate when he needs to rant....oh fuck I am changing my name now
'Digging a hole is hard work'
Shit you're going backward faster than you go forwards! Your SV come with reverse? Stop huggin' peeps and get a couple o' beers in ya!

[Lou Girardin]

Time heals all.
A stray shag relieves the symptoms.

[froggyfrenchman]

fixed this problem in my mate by strippn down his bike with him and givn it a repaint, then off the firecats, followed by regular drinking sessions. RFixed his depression real good!

[bondagebunny]

Hooker with big tits

[soundbeltfarm]

tell him to suck it in mate.
Ive taken shits that last longer than his relationship.
he'll be right.
time heals all mate.
no magic fix

[Sniper]

Thanks guys. He is actually in the next room consuming quite a bit of alchol, so Im hoping I can get a girl round here soon to comfort him

[soundbeltfarm]

sweet as man.
dont give him brewers droop though man.
that'll make him even more down'.

[SPORK]

Tell him to not be a pushover. Any woman that doesn't stay in the kitchen and cook the food for the men of the house isn't worth his time. Cooking, cleaning, and having babies is all women are made for. Didn't you know?

[Sniper]

Tell him to not be a pushover. Any woman that doesn't stay in the kitchen and cook the food for the men of the house isn't worth his time. Cooking, cleaning, and having babies is all women are made for. Didn't you know?

MissSniper only broke one of my wrists, don't let her hear you say that :moon:

He is passed out at the mo, thanks guys