Today in Court

[Colapop]

I've been away with my sister, supporting her while she's had this court date for today - custody case for her kids.
The senario is this; ('scuse my language following)

Her ex, a complete fuckwit, is a scumbag criminal lowlife shithead. 10-12 years ago he beat her up and put her in hospital for a couple of days, at the time she begged me not to start anything with him coz, a) she'd get it later and b) I'd get locked up for it. Time goes by and he's forgiven and is a 'good' father and all that. Then he does it again, this time he breaks her cheek and fractures her eye socket. No-one tells me what happened. So they break up leaving 2 kids with the mother. I won't bore you with all the details of his offending in between times that got progressively worse, all I will say is by the time she told him to fuck off he was/is well known to the police, including beating an attempted murder rap. All is going well, he comes to visit and then goes back to whatever rock he lives under. Until the night he comes round drugged up and pissed with a shotgun telling her they're getting back together. So she tells him sure no problems, "You go get your gear and I'll wake the kids and tell them the good news". He fucks off and she gets as much shit into bags as she can and disappears (Womens refuge). 3 years later he applies for custody - he doesn't like paying child support.

So that's the story thus far. We had the court appointment this morning and he's whinging about not having access and that he's a loving father and all this bullshit. This guy is a complete and total fucktard. He turns up with his 'new' bitch with a kid. There was a "half-time" break I went out to get some fresh air and I see him across the yard at the back of court having a smoke. When he sees me he starts to shoot me with his thumb and forefinger. I'm thinking "fuck it, lets go." til the thought of my sister's kids living with him makes me stop and think. So I go back inside.

She got custody and he got nothing. No visitation, no access - Nothing.

I'm still left empty - I really wanna kick his arse. I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time? I got kids, a wife, a decent job and things that matter to me. Is that the real reason - I was just being selfish? I sure as fuck hope there's Karma coz he deserves more than his fair share.

I feel better now, just had to get it out. Thanks for reading this load of shit.
Col

[MrMelon]

Sounds like he's already done a pretty good job of fucking himself up without anyone else's help. Still it'd be nice to remove some of these scum from the planet before they can mess anyone else's lives up.

[hXc]

The guy sounds like a complete wanker and he shouldn't be breeding at all. But, I believe you did the right thing by not giving him a go at half time. It may not seem that way at times but you made a good choice.

As you say, karma will bite his arse

[Sniper]

Good on you for not losing your rag. Look where it got him? Point to ponder?

Anyway, one day he is going to die and be surrounded by a handful of people because of the way he treated others. You will have a lot more....

[ManDownUnder]

I went out to get some fresh air and I see him across the yard at the back of court having a smoke. When he sees me he starts to shoot me with his thumb and forefinger. I'm thinking "fuck it, lets go." til the thought of my sister's kids living with him makes me stop and think. So I go back inside.


Awesome move mate - good thinking and you had your heart in the right place. HUGE QDOS for this one...


I'm still left empty - I really wanna kick his arse. I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time? I got kids, a wife, a decent job and things that matter to me. Is that the real reason - I was just being selfish? I sure as fuck hope there's Karma coz he deserves more than his fair share.

I feel better now, just had to get it out. Thanks for reading this load of shit.
Col

Mate - he'll be hurting too but it sounds like he's more than just a hint stuffed up. Make sure she still has the backup/escape plan... sounds like you might want one too.

It's imbalanced - he's got no access to the kids and that's not the way it's supposed to be - sounds like you're simply relating to that. I'm the same (wife kids etc) and to be without any of that would leave me more than hollow...

Just be there for the kids. They need a man in their lives more than ever.... the one they had has set an example they'd be wise to avoid, but it'll be confusing and painful as hell for them too.

God luck to you all is all I can say... good luck

[kickingzebra]

Good on you for looking after your sis Cola - Good family can be hard to come by!! Hope your sis does well, court case might bring up some crap for her in the next little while as well...

[terbang]

When he dies, and it wont be that long, piss on his grave..

[Buster]

Good on you for not taking his bait. He wanted you to stoop down to his level. It sounds like the judge made the right call anyway so you get the last laugh. Venting on here is a good way to cool off bud. By the sounds of things you are ten times the man he is anyway.

[Lias]

Sounds remarkably like my ladies ex.

I'm still waiting for him to show up on the doorstep one day so I can shoot the cunt.

[Colapop]

Thanks guys. Sometimes you just do what you can. He's got no idea where she lives and she's got her life pretty together now. She said thanks and in reality that's all I could have ever wanted.

[Paul in NZ]

The only option he has is to drag you down to his level. It's very easy to lower your standard, it's very hard to bring them back up. You did a good thing not responding.

Paul N

[Lias]

Thanks guys. Sometimes you just do what you can. He's got no idea where she lives and she's got her life pretty together now. She said thanks and in reality that's all I could have ever wanted.
On a side note, dont you hate it when your sisters wont let you thump people for them? My sister still to this day (nigh on 7 years later) wont give me the name of her ex-flatmate who pointed a loaded rifle at her and set his dogs on her because she wouldnt fuck him. She managed to keep the whole saga from me for nearly a month after it happened. I damn near lost the plot when I found out, and I still want to go have a quiet word with the gentleman if she ever tells me who he was.

[RantyDave]

I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time?
All three presumably. Well done for keeping your hair on.

Dave

[Colapop]

I was wild enough when I finally found out. I'm sitting here chuckling to myself coz I know he'd piss his pants if I got to have a go at him proper. There'll be a time and place and it may not be me (dammit!) but he will get it.:ar15:

[ManDownUnder]

There'll be a time and place and it may not be me (dammit!) but he will get it.:ar15:

Yeah - people get what they deserve... good or bad. Don't sweat it - that'll be his job

[Insanity_rules]

Good work resisting following that waste of oxygen into his game Cola! You were the bigger man there mate no doubt!

There is such a thing as Karma, that brain surgeon will get his mate don't you worry. He'll bate the WRONG person one day mark my words.

I had a friend (not quite the right description) who was a mensa candidate like that and he accidentally bated a nastier guy one night and got rather fucked up.

[madboy]

The bigger man won on the day. Like what Paul said, you can stoop to his level, but can he reach up to yours? Don't think so. Making an assumption here, but I suppose our communal taxes funded his legal aid bill? Excellent - just what we pay taxes for.

[Badcat]

col, you did what a good man does - put his family first.
the harder road, i'm sure, but you did the right thing.
i totally understand that "empty" feeling afterwards though.

K

[oldrider]

I'm still left empty - I really wanna kick his arse. I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time? I got kids, a wife, a decent job and things that matter to me. Is that the real reason - I was just being selfish? I sure as fuck hope there's Karma coz he deserves more than his fair share.

I feel better now, just had to get it out. Thanks for reading this load of shit.
Col
Good post Colapop, I have some idea how you feel when faced with an opportunity to square the deal with some bastard that has been fucking with your family.
I came face to face with the bastard that had been molesting my boy, in the corridor of the court house!
You wouldn't believe how much information can go through your head in those few seconds!
I took a deep breath and entered a door on my right and ended up in a bloody broom closest or something and just stood there and shook.
After a while I came out and he was gone, it was a very emotionally draining experience.
When I went back into the court I had to pass all his supporters to get to my seat, so I stamped as hard as could on all their feet.
Small revenge but fuck the bastards.
You did well to stay cool , He will keep, we will get our revenge!
I hope everything goes well for your sister and her kids. Cheers John.

[Hitcher]

You done good today, Col.

I may be an atheist, but I believe in kharma. Someday, someway, the prick will get his. And you can smile enigmatically and nod knowingly.

[Str8 Jacket]

I may be an atheist, but I believe in kharma. Someday, someway, the prick will get his. And you can smile enigmatically and nod knowingly.

Couldn't have said it better myself! You truly are a lovely guy Col. Good on ya! I'll shout you a beer when you can drink again!

[Dafe]

You live in Welly don't ya?

If you wanna take some aggression out, let me know........
I know a few pressies rugby teams that are short of players.
I find rugby gives me my weekly allowance of agressive flow just fine.

Well done for not getting out of control, sometimes it's good to let the aggression out - It's about the time and the place.

[Scorpygirl]

Good on ya Cola. There will be justice you can be sure of that - somewhere, sometime. Now just look after your sister and nieces/nephews. They are the one's that need your support and time at the mo. All the best to you and yours!! :hug:

[WINJA]

colapop and lias should do a contra deal , cola you smash his fucker and lias you smash his fucker , that way both your fuckers have no idea when some random cunt walks up to them on the street and gos "bam". they dont know who to blame they got no leads for the police .
if you jerks use my idea then as payment you have to "paint my garage"

[Edbear]

Well done CP and big ups to your sister for the way she handled a very dangerous situation. Smart girl! Good on Women's Refuge too. I know first hand about this type of situation, 'cept it was my daughter and her first husband. Long story.I even had an offer to "top him", turned it down. Does things to a man when he comes home to find his daughter hiding in his wardrobe... Now, though she has remarried a man I'm proud to call my son-in law. Took her years to learn to trust any man again, though. HArd as it was, you did right.

[team cudby]

been there done that my ex did it to me and my older son for ten yrs he hit me on the 1,1,01 and we move in with new partner and he give us shit so we moved to havelock north we got married and he does not see the 3 kids now because he can not fined me

[scumdog]

Hope the wanker eventualy tangles with somebody meaner than him.

Good on you for the self control - the kahrma payback to loser-boy will be even more nasty because of it.


Sounds like a few losers I've 'met' - sad thing is they're too effing thick to realise what a loser they really are - and to realise the rest of the world saw them as a loser all the time. (except for a few equally 'tarded slack jawed moth breathing benefit bludging oxygen stealing 'mates' who hyuk-hyuk around with them)

[team cudby]

i have got a protection order for me and the kids they are good if ex's are a pain the judge put my ex in side for breaching it lots of times and now me and my son are getting counselling after 5 yrs

[Colapop]

I'm much clamer now than I was yesterday. Here's me whinging about how I feel about things and yet it's not me that had to live through all that shit. She still has to deal with the ongoing aftermath and fear and trust issues etc.

I know in custody disputes it's not always this "easy" or at least easy for the judge to decide what's best. In this case I think the judge had seen or knows of the f*ckwit from other cases. It's done with now and hopefully she can move on and get things back to normal.

If you or someone you know is in a situation that they feel unsafe in or fearful of their partner, get out or help them get out. The only power these animals have is the power of control. Once they don't have control over someone their power is lost and they are shown up to be the sad little individuals they are.

Cheers all
Col

[team cudby]

if you want get your sister to pm me i have been there done that its good to talk to someone who has done it.good for her and the kids to get out now from jenny

[Blairos]

Good on you CP for showing restraint

I firmly believe in the "What goes around, comes around" philosophy - this Jerk will get his come-uppence, might not be today, might not be tomorrow...

[Colapop]

if you want get your sister to pm me i have been there done that its good to talk to someone who has done it.good for her and the kids to get out now from jenny
She's been away from him for 4 years or so now. He waited 3 years before he wanted custody then another year toing and froing with lawyers and courts etc. She's thankful this was the only court appointment she actually had to attend.

[team cudby]

we had to go to court lots of times i was there and he did not come not even to access or custody court from jenny

[jonbuoy]

Damn, keep doing lotto and maybe youll hit the big one and be able to pay a couple of guys to put the fucker in a wheelchair where he belongs sipping his dinner through a straw. No sense in you doing time for it.

[KATWYN]

I'm still left empty - I really wanna kick his arse. I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time? I got kids, a wife, a decent job and things that matter to me. Is that the real reason - I was just being selfish? I sure as fuck hope there's Karma coz he deserves more than his fair share.

I feel better now, just had to get it out. Thanks for reading this load of shit.
Col

Wow. All you did was prove who the bigger man was. I think the ol finger thumb shooting action is immature school yard stuff.

My hubby would say, you did the right thing - and I reakon so too

We truly believe what goes around comes around....just not on our time frames

[DemonWolf]

Good show on the restraint side as many people have already mentioned.