One of my boys wants to get his eyebrow pierced..what to do?

[JimO]

he is 15 i dont mind but his mum says to wait until he is 16 :mad: any thoughts he doesnt want to wait:weep:

[canarlee]

i would say dont antagonise mum.


maybe talk to her and see if she will change her mind?


point out the fact that he might just go and get it done anyway so it would be better to just give permission and go with him, that way you will know it is done properly and in a clean enviroment rather than your boy just saying "fuck you" and getting it done somewhere that is not clean etc.



one question though, what will his school say about an eyebrow peircing?


just my tuppence worth tis all

[BIKEGAL68]

hi i have to say i have been through the lot with 3 out of 4 kids

from a mum point of view ........ would rather they wait but if there going to do it well there not much point in stopping them.............. but if it cause problems between the parents i would say mother has spoken first and really its up to her ............... as i dont know your situation

[deanohit]

Good point on the school thing. No point getting it done if he's gonna have to take it out a few days later. :weep:
Me, I managed to convince my mum to come along to see it was done right. My mums always been pretty cool about my piercings though and she recently pierced my nose for me.:2thumbsup She needs more practice though as shes not too shit hot at it.:Oops:

[Mr. Peanut]

Give him the bash au ;)

[JimO]

i got in first and said its up to mum so im not the bad guy:bash: he is a good kid and wont get it done without permission from us, i will check with the school regarding policy...his twin bro wants a tattoo:wait:

[deanohit]

Hey, at least you'll be able to tell them apart then. =)

[imdying]

Tell him he's not far from being a man, and you'd rather he turned into a real man rather than some faggot fairy that wears jewelery on his face. Men don't have piercings, period.

[canarlee]

a tattoo??? he is 15! NO!!!


i have got quite a few tattoos, the 1st of which i got when i was 14 or 15 and i regretted it. i have now had that one along with a few others i got at about the same age covered by bigger and better tattoos.


why did i regret them and have now (and still am) having them covered? coz i was young and silly and didnt know what i wanted.


the law states 18 yo minimum to get a tattoo, it is there for a reason, personally i think it should be 25 yo to get a tattoo. that way you have (or should have lol) grown up enough to not get a tattoo for fashion reasons or peer pressure.

[canarlee]

and as for peircings? they can allways be removed when you have had enough of them and you dont consider them fashionable anymore!


want any serious advice gimme a shout, i used to pierce people for a living.........

[KoroJ]

Give him the bash au ;)

Yep, yep, yep!!!


Tell him he's not far from being a man, and you'd rather he turned into a real man rather than some faggot fairy that wears jewelery on his face. Men don't have piercings, period.

Yep, yep, yep!!

Or you could get a piercing and a tat' first and they'd have to find some other rebellious thing to do......like ride a motorbike!!

[mynameis]

Remind them first of a few things they have to keep in mind before they make a decision. Give them all the pros and cons of tattoos and piercing and let them make a decision:


He is a 15 year old kid and most likely energetic, playful and into some kind of sport, be it rugby, soccer or motorbikes. Eyebrow piercings don't go well with contact sports or sports of any kind in fact. Rip it once and you have to go through a bit of shit.
If he ever gets into a scuffle he's looking at a ripped eyebrow again. Painful and takes time to heal.
School regulation as mentioned before.
Looking after it well to make sure it's clean to avoid infection, kids can get careless at times.
Tattoos, once you're bored of the design, then you're looking at hundreds possibly thousands to remove it and time taken.
They will need parents consent for tattoos and piercing if they are under the age of 18.And if after that they still decide to get one, what can you do then aye. Let kids be kids and learn from their life experiences.

[tri boy]

Tell him not to be wannabe, and get a Prince Albert through his dick.
Better still, tell him you will pay for it.
Piddling around with a little eyebrow jobbie is for girls.:devil2:
Either way, the look on his face will be priceless.:pinch:

[JimO]

Yep, yep, yep!!!



Yep, yep, yep!!

Or you could get a piercing and a tat' first and they'd have to find some other rebellious thing to do......like ride a motorbike!!

they have a motorbike

[JimO]

Remind them first of a few things they have to keep in mind before they make a decision. Give them all the pros and cons of tattoos and piercing and let them make a decision:


He is a 15 year old kid and most likely energetic, playful and into some kind of sport, be it rugby, soccer or motorbikes. Eyebrow piercings don't go well with contact sports or sports of any kind in fact. Rip it once and you have to go through a bit of shit.
If he ever gets into a scuffle he's looking at a ripped eyebrow again. Painful and takes time to heal.
School regulation as mentioned before.
Looking after it well to make sure it's clean to avoid infection, kids can get careless at times.
Tattoos, once you're bored of the design, then you're looking at hundreds possibly thousands to remove it and time taken.
They will need parents consent for tattoos and piercing if they are under the age of 18.And if after that they still decide to get one, what can you do then aye. Let kids be kids and learn from their life experiences.


they both play school first 11 soccer and first 11 hockey, Otago hockey, Otago volleyball, Otago soccer, club soccer, both are blue belts at karate

[Dilligaf]

i got in first and said its up to mum so im not the bad guy:bash: he is a good kid and wont get it done without permission from us, i will check with the school regarding policy...his twin bro wants a tattoo:wait:

Well I'm intrigued that you allow him, no, actually, you promoted a division between you and his mum....
I would advise that you close ranks otherwise that may come back to bite you on the bum one day..

[inlinefour]

i got in first and said its up to mum so im not the bad guy:bash: he is a good kid and wont get it done without permission from us, i will check with the school regarding policy...his twin bro wants a tattoo:wait:

I promised my Grandfather before he died that I would neither get any peircings nor a tattoo. My ex-wife talked me into getting the ear done and once we split, I spent several years with it removed, hoping it would heal up. As it never did, I put something back in, but it does not look bad (I'm told) or annoy me. I got the tattoo done while I was under an influence of an anti-depressent (prescribed for neurological pain) that made me manic. Once again I'm told it looks good and does not annoy me. Likewise it can be hidden underneath a t-shirt. Now if I was to decide now to do either, I probably would not proceed. It is easy to be wise in hindsight, or as a parent. However me being me and kids being kids, for whatever reason, will want to do this sort of thing(s). In my opinion, there is no point in alienating anyone by giving the big "no". But likewise, I would tend to go with she who must be obeyed and say in a years time. Will give the lad time to think if he really wants it and time to also change his mind (maybe)...

[sunhuntin]

make them both wait till they are at least 16 or older. then, if they still want it, they can get it done [providing school will be ok with it.]

[imdying]

Hmmm, a tattoo is even worse! At least he can take a piercing out when it comes to his senses :/

[JimO]

Well I'm intrigued that you allow him, no, actually, you promoted a division between you and his mum....
I would advise that you close ranks otherwise that may come back to bite you on the bum one day..

how long have you been married?????? i have 27 years under my belt i know how the system works:calm:

[Sketchy_Racer]

Farken hell parents are getting soft these days.

Why the hell does a 'kid' need a fucking piercing??

[JimO]

Farken hell parents are getting soft these days.

Why the hell does a 'kid' need a fucking piercing??

jeez your 17:gob: what would you know about kids ...this is them trying to steal my V8coon http://i187.photobucket.com/albums/x67/jim157/DSCF1451.jpg

[mynameis]

they both play school first 11 soccer and first 11 hockey, Otago hockey, Otago volleyball, Otago soccer, club soccer, both are blue belts at karate

jimjim, piercing on kids with such calibre and potential doesn't suit. Plus he is bound to rip it sooner or later being involved in so many activities. Ask them if they have seen any top soccer or hockey players with one on their brow?

But at the end of the day if he still decides to go with it, let kids be and do the things they want in life :)

[BIGBOSSMAN]

No. Wait until you're 18. Period.

[Skyryder]

There comes a time when on some issues the kids have take some responsibility for themselves. Treat this as a learning curve for him. Give him the OK for one but only one. Thats the agreement that he has to abide to. It's all about his perceptions of looking cool. Don't squash this. Very important.

Skyryder

[Steam]

You are concerned about a piercing?? Storm in a teacup!
Jeez, you are so lucky, many kiwi parents are worrying about P and weed and gangs, not just a piercing.

Count yourself lucky.

[Sketchy_Racer]

jeez your 17:gob: what would you know about kids ...this is them trying to steal my V8coon http://i187.photobucket.com/albums/x67/jim157/DSCF1451.jpg

haha, Probably more than you can remember from being a kid!

The fact that you are asking here shows that your being a bit soft.

As Imdying said, Do you want your kid to become a faggy jewlary wearing poof??

[Steam]

jeez your 17:gob: what would you know about kids ...this is them trying to steal my V8coon http://i187.photobucket.com/albums/x67/jim157/DSCF1451.jpg

Hey I can see Mitre 10 Mega. Ahh, sweet Dunedin.

[JimO]

haha, Probably more than you can remember from being a kid!

The fact that you are asking here shows that your being a bit soft.

As Imdying said, Do you want your kid to become a faggy jewlary wearing poof??

not soft at all, wait until your a parent sonny boy , any way its sorted now

[BAD DAD]

My youngest turned 15 this week and I wouldn't really have a problem with a ear or brow pierce on the grounds that it is easy to live with and conceal or remove if needs must. A tatoo on the other hand, I'd try to talk even my adult sons out of that one. If he needs an expanation then he definately shouldn't get one. ( Disclaimer: I have no room to talk, but that won't stop me. )

[canarlee]

any way its sorted now

and the result is?

[JimO]

he is going to wait:niceone:

[canarlee]

nice one!.

[bomma]

they both play school first 11 soccer and first 11 hockey, Otago hockey, Otago volleyball, Otago soccer, club soccer, both are blue belts at karate

give em the bash now before he gets any bigger/better at self-defence

remember: he may know karate but you know karazy

p.s. congrats on the outcome! ur kid obviously has a good head on his shoulders :niceone:

p.p.s. im a "yung'un" too and you really shudnt discard the advice we give you....we prolly know whats going through your kids head better than you coz we have been there more recently :yes:

[mstriumph]

Farken hell parents are getting soft these days.

Why the hell does a 'kid' need a fucking piercing??
same reason they 'need' mobile phones and designer jeans ...........

[sunhuntin]

same reason they 'need' mobile phones and designer jeans ...........

fark that shite! i grew up perfectly normal with no cell phone and second hand op shop clothes. wont kill em to miss out.

however... leaving the ipod behind anywhere.... :baby:

[Chickadee]

Glad they decided to wait.

Stick with your Mrs on the 16 thing for the piercing, at least with piercings they can be removed.

Tat's should definitely wait for laaaate teens or twenties. They can get airbrush tats that wash off in the interim if they want one soooo bad.

I got my tattoo as a going away gift from some galfriends when I was 21, better to get a tattoo at the right time & for the right reason.

[deanohit]

Farken hell parents are getting soft these days.
Why the hell does a 'kid' need a fucking piercing??

Better not see my face then, I got 8 around my ears and face. And ya know what, my mum did 4 of them.:2thumbsup

[Scouse]

he is 15 i dont mind but his mum says to wait until he is 16 :mad: any thoughts he doesnt want to wait:weep:Just say yes its the easyest way in the long run cos he will end up getting it done anyways such a trivial thang any ways its not as though it will end the world if he gets it done now is it

[Scouse]

I got my tattoo as a going away gift from some galfriends when I was 21, better to get a tattoo at the right time & for the right reason.Oooh er where and what is it?

[deanohit]

Just say yes its the easyest way in the long run cos he will end up getting it done anyways such a trivial thang any ways its not as though it will end the world if he gets it done now is it

Do that though and it could be the first crack in the dam of discipline. I don't think it's a big deal to have to wait something like a year.

[Scouse]

Do that though and it could be the first crack in the dam of discipline.Discipline schmisapline.

[Winter]

I'm 20 now. 5 years ago I was living under my fathers roof and wanted my eyebrow peirced.

He plainly told me that If had it peirced I would no longer be welcome in his house.

5 years on, now living under my own roof, and I still have not had it done.

I think I was more afraid of loosing my fathers respect than loosing my place in his home.

[mstriumph]

Just say yes its the easyest way in the long run cos he will end up getting it done anyways such a trivial thang any ways its not as though it will end the world if he gets it done now is it

1 from the discussion here it isn't generally regarded as trivial

2 'just say yes'?? sheesh!! there are pitfalls in doing what's easiest for a quiet life - i'd say jimjim's aware of that otherwise he wouldn'ta posted this thread?

[oldrider]

Teenagers are like crossing raging torrents, if you resist the current, you will eventually tire and loose the battle, even drown!

Swim with the current and use it to best effect and you are most likely to cross safely.

Albeit a lot further down stream from where you started or wanted to be but at least you will accomplish what you intended.

In other words, go with the flow and try to influence the outcome closer to what you want it to be.

You have no real authority, only respect, one false move and you will loose that too! :doh: Good luck, John.

[fLaThEaD FreD]

he is 15 i dont mind but his mum says to wait until he is 16 :mad: any thoughts he doesnt want to wait:weep:

To save all the heartache tell him to make his own mind up and pay for it himself. Mine did then fond the hassle of employers such as MCD,Foodtown<countdown etc and it wasent worth putting it in....taking it out....putting it in....tak...... in a short time he realised himself he had wasted his money and just let it close up.........peircings heal so what the hell.:whocares:

[fLaThEaD FreD]

he is 15 i dont mind but his mum says to wait until he is 16 :mad: any thoughts he doesnt want to wait:weep:

To save all the heartache tell him to make his own mind up and pay for it himself. Mine did then found the hassle of employers such as MCD,Foodtown,countdown etc and it wasent worth putting it in....taking it out....putting it in....tak...... in a short time he realised himself he had wasted his money and just let it close up.........peircings heal so what the hell....:whocares: