My girlfriend is getting married

[EJK]

Done :done:

[justsomeguy]

What are you thinking?

Well you're not.

It happens mate for someone to win another person has to lose.

You WILL get over it.

In the mean time find some friends to go hang out with, go to the gym, go ride your bike. GO DO SOMETHING!!!.

DO NOT SIT AT HOME ALONE LOOKING AT PICTURES OF HER, LISTENING TO SAD LOVE SONGS AND THINKING.

Do not think, go do something!! Keeping busy mentally and physically really helped me.

Mate, whatever happens, just does ok. don't over think it.

This may be your fault or not, or it may be hers. But in the end it has happened.

You will find someone else and life will go on.

Right now life will be shit for a while - so prepare yourself for a bit of tears....

Do not get too drunk and please do not do anything stupid.

Bloody women huh, they sure know how to mess a guy up.......

[Big Dog]

Chin up young man.
You have nothing to lose until you risk something.
As much as it may hurt at times just know it can't stay bad forever.
You never know this may be the best thing that has ever happened to you.

Go. Have an adventure.
Feel your freedom.
Don't listen to those who say they know what is best for you.
Just don't burn any bridges and remember to come home when you have had your adventure.

[mstriumph]

this is sad - things happen - worse when we don't see them coming

take some time

chin up :grouphug:

[EJK]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

[klyong82]

Hey bro, sorry to hear about that. Do take the time you need to heal up. Maybe ride your bike and if you need friends then you know who to call bro....

[mstriumph]

you are NOT pathetic ............. well, only about the lying - THAT's a bit naff

i have had menfriends for ages and never felt there could be anything more than friendship there no matter how good they've been to me

but when i met the fella, it was like being hit by lightning .....

no - have no IDEA why it happens .... only that it does
---------------------------------------------

between you and her, it didn't happen ...... between her and him it did

YOUR TURN IS STILL TO COME - chin up and keep looking

lecture over :done:

[Big Dog]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

Does not make the pain any less.

Trust me.

[justsomeguy]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

MsTriumph summed it up perfectly in her post.

"between you and her, it didn't happen ...... between her and him it did

YOUR TURN IS STILL TO COME - chin up and keep looking"

Bud, just think of it like an injury, it's gonna hurt like hell for a while and then with time it will heal and you'll just end up stronger for it.

Best of luck on your adventures, keep us posted:niceone:

[Animal]

Take a deep breath. Be patient. The sun will shine again.

[u4ea]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year.

I feel pathetic.

Sounds to me like you a weeeeeeeeeeeee tad obsessed with this poor lass.Maybe she didn't tell you about the other man as she knew how you would react?You dont get my sympathy at all..it is a public forum after all.Pathetic situation...yes...get a life

Love from Agony Aunt

[Slicksta]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

Mate you not pathetic at all. Its a very tough thing to handle and something i don't do very well at. I agree go for a ride long ride take your mind off things.. keep yourself occupied you will heal in time... Keep on keeping on EJ

[Headbanger]

My wife married her stalker........:whistle::clap:

[Tank]

Its not easy - never is. But sounds like you were a friend waiting for something that was never going to happen, happen.

Hate to say it EJ - go out, get laid (preferably a few times), party up with friends and move on.

C

[Coyote]

Oh dear

http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Friend_Zone

[oldrider]

I just want to say... Whats ringing in my head is..... "All I've done this year, All that I've gave has done...... nothing... How come? What have I done wrong?"

Short answer, you just didn't light her fire! :love:

There will be another.

look around and learn how to play with matches! :bleh: John.

[babyblade250rr]

OMG! E.J I'm sad and alittle confused about your thread, i had no idea that you fancied sum lass? gosh you really kept that to yourself!, you should have told me i could have advised you to some extent! (I'm good at advising others just not myself)

Anyhow my friend if you need someone to talk to you have my celly number just give me a txt and we can meet up, I completely understand where your comming from a similar circumstance happend to me when i was your age (Not that i'm that much older than you) but yeah i know whats going through your head.

And the best advice has already been given by someone else move on as quickly as possible, the more you think about it the worse it becomes fill you day with activities especially with things you love doing it will take your mind off it.

And i know this is something you probably don't want to hear however i have to say it, No matter how much time goes by and no matter how much you think you are over it there will always be days that will trigger this memory and it will come and go!.

But hey thats what makes us human,

Chin up my young friend it ALWAYS works out in the end

[babyblade250rr]

P.S the best part is, If this ever happens again it's not going to feel half as bad as the very first time! that i can garentee.:yes:

[Macktheknife]

EJ, sorry to hear of this mate, but this is not the end of the world you know? You got hurt, it happens.
You will meet other women, you will win some and lose some, and then you will find someone special who really rings your bell and you hers. Until that happens, think of it as practice, learning and improving your skills as a life-mate. Right now, you need more practice!
Go and have a good time, and enjoy the adventure that is life, and take good care of yourself.

[Blue Velvet]

OK I lied abit... I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her.

Did you ever ask her out, so that she realised it was a date?

Did you actually tell her how you felt?

If you can answer those objectively it might help you next time.

$0.02

[Crisis management]

My wife married her stalker........:whistle::clap:

Man, you must have been pissed off........


EJ. Hang in there, relationships are like that, sometimes they hurt. But, to quote someone else, "it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

[ManDownUnder]

EJ - men friends + beer + something to do...

Don't just walk away from it, but work through it. You'll get there man... you'll get there. With respect there are a couple of people on here who are right in the middle of similar pain at the moment, and while I trust their opinions on things - their comments are a tad coloured right now.

Time does heal. It can take a lot of time... but it does heal.

[Curious_AJ]

well, I know this is cheesy but, it's like low-siding your bike when you're first learning to ride... you gotta just get back on it and ride again.

you will take time to heal, but as everyone has said, just do things to get your mind off it. guy friends and activities. and go on your adventure, thats a good way to get it off your chest, go do something exciting!

my heart is with you EJ. take it easy.

[Squiggles]

EJ - men friends + beer + something to do...

Come help me fix my gn's, the two bastards keep ganging up on me. You've got me cell

[jrandom]

:crybaby:

Not to put too fine a point on it, mate, it sounds like you sat around pining for this bird and didn't do anything about it!

Next time, be nice, be upfront about what you're keen on, and if she doesn't reciprocate, don't waste time on the matter. There's always another one somewhere.

It's a pity that it'll probably take you another ten years to fully realise the truth of my words, but I suppose that's just the way life goes.

In the meantime, may I remind you that surcease can be rented (www.newzealandgirls.co.nz) at very reasonable hourly rates.

:niceone:

[Tank]

In the meantime, may I remind you that surcease can be rented (www.newzealandgirls.co.nz) at very reasonable hourly rates.



OMG ......Mom?????.....:crybaby::crybaby:

[BOGAR]

Mate, I declared my undying love to my ex and she turned me down. The worst thing I do is keep thinking about her. Try and get a few good friends around and go for a blat, do something to try and get your mind off the event. As they say it will hurt and it will get better, but it won’t be a quick fix. Just keep your chin up and looking into the horizon.

[gijoe1313]

:slap: :thud: Ej, Ej, Ej, just ride your bike ... all good mate, just keep on going on with going on and ride your own ride .. er life!

I guess you get to live in interesting times and do all those other stuffs! I told you we should have just gone asian dolly bird watching down Queen street! :o :msn-wink:

You know where I live, pootle on down and we can ride some long, windy, roads together ... singing songs like "home on the range" "got on board a 747" or "country roads take me home" :scooter:

All the best, drop me a PM or a call or a visit anytimes eh?

[007XX]

EJ, I am so very sorry...I am not really a "mushy feelings" type of girl, but I can definitely tell you're in pain.

Time heals all wounds, even though it may not seem like it ever will right now...

Just take your time, and do it one day at the time.

[toebug]

Take up drinking mate!!! Nothing like a mean hangover to clear your head!!

[kevfromcoro]

Take up drinking mate!!! Nothing like a mean hangover to clear your head!!

That sure works
I tryed it over 20 yrs ago..
But forgot to stop

[fireball]

EJ my little buddy what have you been doing?
sounds like to me you were to soft on your approach with this girl and you fell straight into the "best friend" catagory.
best friends dont get laid mate they get tears on the shoulder and phone calls at night that is it.

next time make your intentions known early at least you cant go wrong there
plus you are young plenty of fish bits in the sea!

[TOTO]

EJ I know how you feel exactly my friend. I'm afraid there is no quick medication for that - only time. first 3 days are critical (were for me) if you make it trough that you are going to be ok. And as some of the people said before, you will find a new girl and you will wonder how come you haven't met her earlier. So take your time My Friend. And if you feel like a spontanius ride - flick me a txt.

[The Pastor]

I met a devil woman.
She took my heart away.
She said I had it coming to me.
but I wanted it that way.
I think that any lovin's good lovin.
So I took what I could get.
She looked at me with her big brown eyes and said.
you ain't seen nothing yet....b.b.b.baby you just aint seen n.nothin yet
here's somethin your just never gonna forget,
b.b.b.b. baby you just aint seen n.n. nothing yet
And now I'm feeling better.
Cause I found out for sure.
She took me to her doctor.
And he told me I was cured.
He said that any love is good love
so i took what i could get,
She looked at me with her big brown eyes and said
you ain't seen nothing yet....b.b.b.baby you just ain't seen n.n.nothin yet
here's something
here's something your never gonna forget baby,
you know
you know
you know you just ain't seen n.n. nothin yet
any lovin is good lovin
so i took what i could get,
she looked at my with her big brown eyes and said
you aint seen nothin yet
baby you just aint seen n.n. othing yet
here's somethin
here's somethin
here's somethin your never gonna forget baby
baby baby baby you just aint seen nothing yet
you aint seen nothing yet (repeat until fade)

[Coyote]

Oh dear

http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Friend_Zone

sounds like to me you were to soft on your approach with this girl and you fell straight into the "best friend" catagory.
best friends dont get laid mate they get tears on the shoulder and phone calls at night that is it.
And there you have it

[jonbuoy]

Make yourself a nice big steaming mug of HTFU and start hitting the gym, bump those testosterone levels and steer clear of booze. :) my 10c

[Mikkel]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

Lied as in - A girl I fancy is getting married? Best advice: turn that statement into "A girl I fancied is getting married"!

Adventure sounds about right... make it carnal!

But seriously, if they don't put out on the first date it's a bad sign.

Don't buy them anything more expensive than a dinner. If you see a return on your investment, good (and by return I didn't imply sex). Just don't make the mistake of showering them with expensive gifts - money won't buy you love.

But yeah, been there, done that, cried myself to sleep - then I got pissed off. At her for fucking around with my feelings and at myself for being a naive dimwit and letting her.


Make yourself a nice big steaming mug of HTFU and start hitting the gym, bump those testosterone levels and steer clear of booze. :) my 10c

Hmmm, HTFU - like cheap beer - is a drink best enjoyed cold in my experience. Tea and hot chocolate are for poofs!

[jonbuoy]

Hmmm, HTFU - like cheap beer - is a drink best enjoyed cold in my experience. Tea and hot chocolate are for poofs!

Colonial savages :laugh:

[Ragingrob]

With another guy...

I don't know what I'm thinking right now.

I don't know.... I don't know what to say....

This is not Bridget Jones Diary nor Love Actually... WTF... I can hardly breathe....

What am I typing? I don't know... I need a vacation...

What I know is, They are going to Korea sometime soon to get marr FUCAKe3alnadfnl!

I'm leaving this town when my pay comes in this week.... I'll travel where I can go... anywhere no where.... Just to find even a small scent of freedom. All I need is just a bit! A fresh air!

Don't worry, I'm not suicidal... I just need a fresh air...

WTF am I saying right now? My stomach hurts, headache and all


I'll be back guys, don't worry. I'll come back when I'm ready.
I just need some time to think...

I am shocked.

This life is not my movie... not everyone can be the main character of a movie... I mean someones gotta die in a movie like Saving Private Ryan! Everyone cannot be a hero!

As soon as I get my pay this week, I'll be traveling anywhere... Might go North where I can see two Oceans meet... Far north... till I can see a big Ocean...

Don't worry my friends, I won't die. I am not suicidal you know.
I will come back, I promise... I just need some time to think and breathe!

I won't die!

I just want to say... Whats ringing in my head is..... "All I've done this year, All that I've gave has done...... nothing... How come? What have I done wrong?"

What am I thinking!?!?!


Shit dude that's fucking rude as! Take it easy and be careful to not let emotions out when riding... Remember all your mates are here for ya and if you need some company anytime riding or whatever just let any of us know! Hope you're ok (I know it doesn't help and that you're not) but yeah, everything will work out I'm sure.

:mad:

[Mikkel]

Colonial savages :laugh:

Nah mate, I'm from the old world... But I guess there's still some viking blood in there.

[Tank]

best friends dont get laid mate they get tears on the shoulder and phone calls at night that is it.

Before EJ gets all excited - that call in the night aint gonna be a booty call.

[Pex Adams]

Before EJ gets all excited - that call in the night aint gonna be a booty call.

I bet thats all he's been thinking about for a over a year now too...

[fireball]

women are over rated, over priced and most of all, over the top about everything
you are much better off without them EJ......

[DMNTD]

women are over rated, over priced and most of all, over the top about everything
you are much better off without them EJ......

I sense a cunning plan :niceone:

[Maha]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

So in a nutshell...
You really liked/loved a girl for about a year?
She did not feel the same way about you?
She is now getting married and you are shocked?
You lied about the relationship to us to get the 'oh you poor thing' comments?
You wasted a bit of time and money on her? (thats what friends do EJ)
'She was a friend!! And thats where it starts and stops sorry EJ'

You wont be the first or the last to feel smacked around the head for a few weeks....heaps more Squid in the boat mate....cast your net!

[Finn]

There's an easy solution...

But seriously dude, it sounds like it was a pipe dream anyway. Get over it.

[GSVR]

There's an easy solution...

Of course, don't take me seriously.


Looks fucking complicated to me can you PM what I'm meant to do with all this shit?

[fireball]

I sense a cunning plan :niceone:

no plan honest, i only need one woman and i got her and i cant play match maker either thats too weird you will all end up with lesbians :laugh:

[Maha]

no plan honest, i only need one woman and i got her and i cant play match maker either thats too weird you will all end up with lesbians :laugh:


Been there done that!....NEXT!......:yawn:

[EJK]

No, she is/was my best friend!

Just I don't know! the guy came to NZ about 2 month ago and now BOOM!

I took her to many places I liked (Huia, Mt Eden etc etc)


Fuck it, I'm out of here

[Magua]

Don't be a stranger to kb, Ej. Take care out there.

[EJK]

Yes it's my fault. It was a pipe dream. I believed it. I did it. Its me

[jrandom]

EJ badly needs to learn about the Ladder Theory (http://www.laddertheory.com/).

:yes:

[Mom]

No, she is/was my best friend!

Just I don't know! the guy came to NZ about 2 month ago and now BOOM!

I took her to many places I liked (Huia, Mt Eden etc etc)


Fuck it, I'm out of here

Hey sweets, lots of good advice in here. Hearts are fragile things, and they hurt big time, BUT!!!!!

You need to learn some heart survival skills, jrandom recommends the Ladder, have a look at it because I tend to agree with him.

[Headbanger]

Man, you must have been pissed off........


:shit:

Was referring to me.....:Punk:

[jonbuoy]

EJ badly needs to learn about the Ladder Theory (http://www.laddertheory.com/).

:yes:

Interesting but totally cynical and untrue IMHO, its confidence/charm/power that should fill up the 50% not money and power. Donald Trump is very confident, smart and powerful - thats how he got to be rich. Gold diggers aside I'll bet a lot of women would find him attractive if they met him face to face.

[Sollyboy]

OK I lied abit...

She is not my girlfriend, but a girl I very very very very loved for a whole year. I gave her many things. I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her. what else... oh, She did not had a boyfriend a month ago, now she is like BOOM! I'm getting married! WTF?!

I feel pathetic. I need time to think. And yes, am not listning to sad songs, looking at her picture etc etc and I don't drink.

I will have an adventure, take time and come back home

Maybe she saw your weaner and decided a guy whos hung like a sparrow is not for her , who knows , woman are strange creatures

[jrandom]

Interesting but totally cynical and untrue IMHO, its confidence/charm/power that should fill up the 50% not money and power.

Show me a confident, charming, powerful man who doesn't have money!

:confused:

[quallman1234]

Oh dear

http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Friend_Zone

Kaaaa *bling*

[Steam]

Maybe she saw your weaner and decided a guy whos hung like a sparrow is not for her ,
And if you said that to someone in real life, you'd get a big fat punch in the face.

[DMNTD]

Show me a confident, charming, powerful man who doesn't have money!

HELLO!!
Oh hold on...define powerful

[jrandom]

Maybe she saw your weaner...

It's spelled 'weiner', and the use of the word as a euphemism for a penis stems from the Wiener Würstchen, or Viennese sausage.

I guess dumb cunts like you probably do learn something every day, eh?

:niceone:

[jrandom]

And if you said that to someone in real life, you'd get a big fat punch in the face.

Maybe he's pining for one?

:eek:

I hereby volunteer to administer it.

[westie]

Yes it's my fault. It was a pipe dream. I believed it. I did it. Its me

Pipe dreams are the best ones. Chasing them is tough but rewarding if they work out

Its you? WRONG!!!!

Its her. She cant see a genuine guy who is honest etc.
Your life will get better.

In time who knows. Her relationship might turn to shit.

Stay friends if you can bare it. You may be her knight in shining armour one day.

Pm me if you ever need someone to go for a ride with or talk.

[jrandom]

HELLO!!
Oh hold on...define powerful

You and me both, brother.

:crybaby:

[jrandom]

Its her. She cant see a genuine guy who is honest etc.

She'll be right in ten years time. Of course, by then, EJ will most probably have the necessary toolkit to attract as much tender young pussy as he wants, and will take a distinct pleasure in scorning her slightly saggy arse.

Take that, O fickle woman who grew wise too late!

:pinch:


Your life will get better.

Nothing wrong with EJ's life right now!

Happiness is all in the mind.

[Colapop]

I don't want to be cynical but a couple of things haven't been answered - for me anyway.
Did you two actually date? As in you asked her out on a date and she said yes. A proper date, not "Lets go out for coffee..."
Did you two kiss in a way that could only be described as intimate? I'm not saying did you slip her the tongue but... well, ok I am.
Did you two go to a function as a couple? Where other people recognised you as a couple.
Did she, at any point, refer to you as her boyfriend? Honeybunch, Sweetheart or another specially reserved term of endearment would do here.
Did you have sex with her? Pretty clear, really.

I know you're hurting but what I'm trying to get at is the reality of the situation. I get the feeling that these questions, although not pre-requisites, need to be answered truthfully by you. Don't abuse yourself if you got it wrong - we make mistakes. We read things the wrong way. Just as I'd have expected that you be straight up and honest with her about your feelings, I'd expect that you give yourself the same courtesy. Reality bites but it does give you a decent perspective.

[Colapop]

HELLO!!
Oh hold on...define powerful
He's talking about me! AND I'm single...

[jrandom]

He's talking about me!

Nope. I'm afraid the 'charming' part isn't optional, dude.

[Colapop]

Excuse me Mr Acerbic?

[EJK]

I don't want to be cynical but a couple of things haven't been answered - for me anyway.
Did you two actually date? As in you asked her out on a date and she said yes. A proper date, not "Lets go out for coffee..." Yes, many times
Did you two kiss in a way that could only be described as intimate? I'm not saying did you slip her the tongue but... well, ok I am. cant answer that
Did you two go to a function as a couple? Where other people recognised you as a couple.Yes
Did she, at any point, refer to you as her boyfriend? Honeybunch, Sweetheart or another specially reserved term of endearment would do here.Yes
Did you have sex with her? Pretty clear, really.Cant answer that

yes, some yes. couple can't answer

[GSVR]

Where are Dr Phil and Dr Ruth when you actually need them:angry:

Dr Pop thinks a hugs the answer to everything

[jrandom]

Excuse me Mr Acerbic?

I implied that you are not charming.

:)

[EJK]

I just really need to harden up.

Just one more day of work and I'm out of here.

[Colapop]

I apologise for the personal questions but there was not enough info, I felt, to give the correct advice. So you're saying that she was definitely your g/f? If that was the case then she's the one needing her head read and I can't see this 'marriage' working out. Being cynical once again I could ask if she was/is so gutless that she fabricated this marriage to dump you or remove you from the picture? Another question... You say this guy has been here for two months, has she been seeing him all that time? Or seeing both of you or what?

On face value, as your g/f, to do that is shit. You don't deserve that sort of treatment. Mourn the loss of a good friend (as you knew her to be) but do regret the partner that she never became. You're worth more than that. Move on. Take time to heal but move on.

[Zoolander]

Ouch.... broken hearts suck and I feel for you.... but gotta be honest here, so please don't take this personally.... you need to man up! You should've told her how you felt, I bet all along you were thinking "man, anyday now shes going to tell me how much she loves me, we're going to go back to mine and fuck like rabbits, buy a house, have kids, live happily ever after, blah blah", while she was thinking "its so great to meet a nice guy who listens to me, buys me things, and most of all doesn't want to get into my pants!!" Whoops - instant BFF, no chance of a relationship.

Next time, tell the girl how you feel, yea its hard to do but she'll appreciate your honesty and bravery, hey it might not work but at least it's out in the open and if she's a worthwhile person she should still want to be mates. And you're free to move on, not drive yourself nuts wondering if it will ever happen.

Dude, its happened to me before and it bites, but shake yourself off and get back out there. Just don't start hating the other guy cause its not his fault, and it'll just make it worse for yourself.

Lots of lovely ladies out there, but you wont get to know them if you're stuck at home feeling sorry for yourself!!

Hope this helps!

[Colapop]

I implied that you are not charming.
:)
And I implied that you are not in a position to judge. :girlfight:

[Maha]

I just really need to harden up.

Just one more day of work and I'm out of here.

Yip!..being soft just dont work sometimes.
Not saying you are soft, but for the love of all things 'bloke'....Recognise the fact that dream girl is now someone else's to deal with and it was never going to be anything.
Get onya bike and ride!...thats what you really love right?

[DMNTD]

Yip!..being soft just dont work sometimes....

Take the little blue pill brother! :yes:

[GSVR]

yes, some yes. couple can't answer

On reflection even when a longterm relationship breaks up when you look back at it you can see the signs that you didn't pick up on. You may have been to busy with your job or whatever.

Forgot what the figure is for marraige breakups but its not good.

You can let it get you down or use it as a time to set new goals. The best friends are the ones that are around thru the bad as well as the good times. Beware of one getting into one sided relationships as they seldom last.

[Nagash]

Okay, trying not to be offensive but I swear this is an asian thing..

Have 3 other asian mates who have experianced near exactly the same thibg. One guys had it happen to him with 3 girls! (One of the girls ended up dating me! Errk)

I reckon you just let it blind side you, emphasis on 'let it'. Unfortunately I haven't seen something quite as big as the girl getting married but you appear to be unfortunate on that part. Gotta move on under the realisation.. it's just a girl and you were fooling yourself from the start.

Get angry (avoid riding) then move on.

[Maha]

Take the little blue pill brother! :yes:


Have been for a while now....read the instructions on the bottle and yes, should have had my glasses on....however, they do make good ear plugs.

[DMNTD]

Have been for a while now....read the instructions on the bottle and yes, should have had my glasses on....however, they do make good ear plugs.

Didn't realise that you were hard of hearing mate!

[Coyote]

-Did she, at any point, refer to you as her boyfriend? Honeybunch, Sweetheart or another specially reserved term of endearment would do here.

-Did you have sex with her? Pretty clear, really.

-A lot of girls that play guys along tend to use such words to be cute. Doesn't make it any clearer whether she likes you in a boyfriend/girlfriend kinda way or just as a friend.

-Nor does that clarify anything. It does if it's a nicer women of course, but the playa types aren't so nice (maybe nice to look at...) and could be screwing several guys in any space of time (if ya know whaddi mean).

[Colapop]

No those particular things don't clarify anything but the gist of what I was getting is there. Actual girlfriend/boyfriend status confirmation...

[Coyote]

I just really need to harden up.

To some degree, just don't harden the fuck up :p

Get some polish and spend some quality time with the bike

[jonbuoy]

I just really need to harden up.

Just one more day of work and I'm out of here.

Don't beat yourself up matey be safe in the knowledge that EVERYONE has made a complete arse of themselves when it comes to this at some stage or other. Even poor old Owen Wilson. Don't get cynical and let it stop you being a decent bloke. Just remember she's not your girlfriend until she's telling you she loves you and your doing the wild thing, your just friends till then. And FFS don't tell her any of this if you haven't done so already.

[EJK]

Let me tell you guys how I feel right now.

I am so happy, almost feel like I'm flying high (no guys, no drugs were involved lol!)

After my last post, I took a ride. Just Coatesville + Riverhead road from Albany to City. Then went to the Mt Eden Summit where I like to be.

I had many thoughts. I remember some words from Imdying, saying "Running away from your problem never helps".

Yes, it does not help. But then how can I face it? Damn I was scared... How can I face it?

But then (on top of Mt Eden), I sat down on the highest place and thought "Yeah, I'm too young! At age of 18, I'm too young!"

Here is a list of my thoughts:

"I guess I'm far too young to understand things"

"MY LIFE IS GRAND! MY LIFE IS TALL!!!"

"I've already lost something (someone) valuable in my life, I'm not afriad to lose more!"

"Plenty of fish in the ocean!"

"6 billion and I'm feeling screwed by one girl in this world!" (Yes, I do watch many movies)

"Heh! I gotta buy the Triumph ST1050 before I die!! Can't die now!!" (Yes, I thought of death)



Hmmmm what am I missing now?
Oh thats right!! A big ride!! :D:D:D:D:D:D

I'm leaving to Cape Reinga on Thursday morning (prob dawn). Who wants to convoy me out of Auckland?? lol

I really want a getaway!! :D:D

P.S. This thread is feeling pathetic now lol Someone delete this thread please :lol:

[Str8 Jacket]

Good onya mate. 18 really *is* young! You have so much more life to live. Ride as much as you can now and love it!!!

[Colapop]

Rubber ball syndrome huh? First you go down and hit the bottom - hard. Then you bounce and get real high (no drugs). But there will be more times of up and down before you get the equilibrium back. Just chill man, enjoy your ride and get back to normal. You're not married, you don't have kids a mortgage or a dog. You have your health a bike and the open road.. so... go.

[EJK]

Rubber ball syndrome huh? First you go down and hit the bottom - hard. Then you bounce and get real high (no drugs). But there will be more times of up and down before you get the equilibrium back. Just chill man, enjoy your ride and get back to normal. You're not married, you don't have kids a mortgage or a dog. You have your health a bike and the open road.. so... go.

Rofl! you rock bro. Thanks man I owe you one :)

[Colapop]

What?? I done nuffing! Just that I'm old enough to have done that o myself too many times!!

[TOTO]

Maybe she saw your weaner and decided a guy whos hung like a sparrow is not for her , who knows , woman are strange creatures

You must have alot of friends.

[gijoe1313]

Keep on trucking! Thats the spirit! Er.. I meant keep on riding! :o

[Patch]

Bikes are alot more predictable and less expensive than a woman. An besides it never answers back!


Ever thought its not her either - arranged marriages still happen.


EJ - I hear there are some dirty thirty somethings looking for some loving by a young man, you never know.
A friend of mine was given this piece of advice "At your age son, use the 3 F theory with these littl' bi'arches in life
Find 'em
:blip: 'em
Flick 'em

[jonbuoy]

Bikes are alot more predictable and less expensive than a woman. An besides it never answers back!


Ever thought its not her either - arranged marriages still happen.


EJ - I hear there are some dirty thirty somethings looking for some loving by a young man, you never know.
A friend of mine was given this piece of advice "At your age son, use the 3 F theory with these littl' bi'arches in life
Find 'em
:blip: 'em
Flick 'em

What do you think turns women into "little bitches"??

[SpeedyGirl]

He's talking about me! AND I'm single...

Oh God, Look out all Wellington girls!!! Pop is on the prowl! :devil2:

[jim.cox]

I'm leaving to Cape Reinga on Thursday morning (prob dawn).
I really want a getaway!! :D:D



P.S. This thread is feeling pathetic now lol Someone delete this thread please :lol:

You know, those are the first sensible things you've said on this topic, IMHO

[Joni]

Oh God, Look out all Wellington girls!!! Pop is on the prowl! :devil2: *shudder*

:bleh: