Have you ever cheated on a partner? [Archive]

Boob Johnson

17th June 2008, 22:01

In a continuation from the adultry thread I thought a poll on the matter would be interesting. Now be honest, no one will see who votes for what, just an interesting exercise I guess. This is aimed at everyone that has entered into a relationship, not neccessarely marriage. Im talking from the first girlfriend to the current date.

mowgli

17th June 2008, 22:03

Perhaps you'll need to define 'cheated'

Boob Johnson

17th June 2008, 22:04

Perhaps you'll need to define 'cheated'
If you need to ask then you already know the answer

TOTO

17th June 2008, 22:05

Perhaps you'll need to define 'cheated'

Well , you know , when you played Monopoly , she wasnt looking and you switched the dice.

Hitcher

17th June 2008, 22:06

Hasn't this been done before?

Boob Johnson

17th June 2008, 22:07

Well , you know , when you played Monopoly , she wasnt looking and you switched the dice.
Haven't played the "Adultry" version of monopoly sorry so couldn't possibly comment

mowgli

17th June 2008, 22:07

Well , you know , when you played Monopoly , she wasnt looking and you switched the dice.

She saw that!!!! And told you!!!!

Skunk

17th June 2008, 22:16

Can't you make this a 'visible answers' poll :lol:

buellbabe

18th June 2008, 07:14

If you need to ask then you already know the answer

EXACTLY!!!! There are no grey areas, cheating is cheating.

There was one occasion years back when I was out on a girly night and met a bloke. Instant attraction bordering on insane lust.
But I was a good girl and never acted on it however the next day I split with my partner cos I reasoned that if I could be that attracted to someone else then what the hell was I doing in my current relationship???

FYI...a month later I ran into the other bloke again at the same pub and we went out for a year until I headed off overseas...

scracha

18th June 2008, 13:00

007XX

18th June 2008, 13:08

Fookin hell you's are all good boys and girls. I don't believe the results....especially with all the slutty kiwi lassies and the drinking culture over here.

How'bout a dirty french expatriate? Would that vote count?

nodrog

18th June 2008, 13:17

Fookin hell you's are all good boys and girls. I don't believe the results....especially with all the slutty kiwi lassies and the drinking culture over here.

"I've never had a partner" should have been an option.

considering half the members on here struggle to actually put their keyboards away, and socialise in "real space", i think the results are quite accurate. i mean you actually have had to have sex before you can cheat.

"i've never had a life" would be a better option

Kittyhawk

18th June 2008, 13:21

I think the definition of cheating has changed over time along with society and technology.

You could be flurting with someone at a party in person which is socially acceptable but if that was online in a chat room still classified as a social atmosphere your other half may define that as cheating.

Texting, and computers are the secret gateway to it. There are lots of reasons why it happens that forbidden lust, thrill, not getting the physicial contact so look elsewhere. And if one writes about fanticies and shares with a stranger on the other side of the world is that cheating?

The mind cheats and there is physicial cheating. We fantisise about that hot movie star or physicially meet that stranger at the coffee shop.

Yes Ive been cheated on and had my heart ripped out...worked through it but there is only so any times one person can take it. It really is too easy cheat and have it purely untraceable....makes me ponder will the ice begin to melt with relationships as society progresses in time, will there be no such thing as marriage and everyone will be one big orgy?

Trudes

18th June 2008, 13:26

Oww, orgy, did someone say orgy?.....:shutup::innocent:

Kittyhawk

18th June 2008, 13:28

Oww, orgy, did someone say orgy?.....:shutup::innocent:

Does group riding count?

ManDownUnder

18th June 2008, 13:41

ooo good poll.

Some figures for you (source (http://www.chestnuthillinstitute.com/blog/60#more-60)).

An estimated 47% of married men do at some point.
An estimated 35% of married women do at some point.
Of course these vary depending on the survey...

Mrs Busa Pete

18th June 2008, 14:20

Oww, orgy, did someone say orgy?.....:shutup::innocent:

Why are you going to bring pamila along:whistle:

Dakara

18th June 2008, 14:31

Hrmm my one and only "cheat" happened a few years ago, but I don't know if it really qualifies....

Long story short, several years ago the night before I planned to break up with my gf, I ended up cheating on her with my ex, while at the very same time she was cheating on me with some random dude at a party (validating all my previous suspicions, hence me wanting to breakup)... best part was next day I found out and she didn't so took the moral high ground while dumping her :done:

Sanx

18th June 2008, 17:24

Does playing kiss-chase with your long-term girlfriend's (well, since that morning's play-time) best friend count? Girlfriend saw and ran off in tears to tell teacher... And then best friend refused to talk to me for the what was left of lunchtime.

It was a traumatic experience...

skidMark

18th June 2008, 17:29

Can't vote, too many infractions.

Couldnt care less if people could see what i say

Yes i have, yes i broke her heart, yes i regret it and will never do it again.

Life lessons learned.

skidMark

18th June 2008, 17:30

portokiwi

18th June 2008, 17:31

No I havent, Why would I, she is to good to me.
:2guns: Would kill me if I did.

Str8 Jacket

18th June 2008, 18:02

Fuck no, never cheated!! Anyway.... Im lucky enough to have the guy im with now, I wouldnt wanna f*ck that up!!!!

enigma51

18th June 2008, 18:04

Can't vote, too many infractions.

Couldnt care less if people could see what i say

Yes i have, yes i broke her heart, yes i regret it and will never do it again.

Life lessons learned.

So you can only use your left hand since?

flame

18th June 2008, 18:06

Nup. You gotta split first. Otherwise your just cheating ones self.

skidMark

18th June 2008, 18:57

So you can only use your left hand since?

I'm left handed.

SM

enigma51

18th June 2008, 19:00

I'm left handed.

SM

So your right hand left you :2guns:

Max Headroom

19th June 2008, 11:16

....makes me ponder will the ice begin to melt with relationships as society progresses in time, will there be no such thing as marriage and everyone will be one big orgy?

If that happens, it won't be a good thing.

Historically it is one of the primary indicators of an empire/society/culture in a freefall meltdown.

jrandom

19th June 2008, 11:39

Nup. You gotta split first.

I've wondered about this in the past; is there some sort of reverse statute of limitations in effect, there?

Like, does a quick nasty phone call to the current boring missus as you stand there in your undies about to shag the woman of your dreams count as 'not cheating'?

Or do you have to have that conversation a minimum of n hours beforehand?

n days beforehand?

n months?

Personally, while there is certainly a line that gets crossed when people engage in sexual activity, I'd say that the development of a relationship outside of a committed partnership is the point where it all goes crook.

The honourable bloke or blokette winds things up tidily before other connections are formed - dating other people on the side and then breaking up just in time to consummate the new relationship is pretty chickenshit behaviour.

Still, nobody's perfect, and it beats the hell out of running an affair behind one's partner's back.

:yes:

Shaun

19th June 2008, 11:43

Me and my partner have been cheating on each other for last 12 months, ME pretending to be ME still and Fiona pretending that the man beside her was ME still

we meet in the middle now though:bleh:

jrandom

19th June 2008, 11:45

Me and my partner have been cheating on each other for last 12 months, ME pretending to be ME still and Fiona pretending that the man beside her was ME still

Oi, who let you back in 'ere?

:hug:

Shaun

19th June 2008, 11:47

Oi, who let you back in 'ere?

:hug:

I removed my faulse teeth mate

Kittyhawk

19th June 2008, 14:24

If that happens, it won't be a good thing.

Historically it is one of the primary indicators of an empire/society/culture in a freefall meltdown.

www.nzdating.co.nz (http://www.nzdating.co.nz) - its where its all starting lol

I removed my faulse teeth mate

old fart huh? :rofl:

enigma51

19th June 2008, 16:54

I removed my faulse teeth mate

You getting jrandom excited !

jrandom

19th June 2008, 17:00

You getting jrandom excited !

I put on my robe and wizard hat.

007XX

19th June 2008, 17:03

I put on my robe and wizard hat.

yeah, but hands off the wand, buddy...

jrandom

19th June 2008, 17:04

yeah, but hands off the wand, buddy...

bash.org (http://bash.org/?104383) is your friend (http://bash.org/?111338).

007XX

19th June 2008, 17:12

bash.org (http://bash.org/?104383) is your friend (http://bash.org/?111338).

ROFL...oh that is most brilliant, thank you!

"mighty f*ck of the beyondness" is now a personal favourite...

Hitcher

19th June 2008, 17:28

bash.org (http://bash.org/?104383) is your friend (http://bash.org/?111338).

Marvellous! Who thinks this stuff up?

Mikkel

19th June 2008, 18:03

Marvellous! Who thinks this stuff up?

Really really weird people, let me assure you :yes:

Just a thought - is it cheating banging your mistress without feeling neither guilt nor remorse, while your partner remains unaware of this fact?

And conversely - is it cheating if you feel really guilty masturbating to porn, while your partner remains unaware of this fact?

Is it cheating getting a hard-on watching another mans wife, while your partner remains unaware of this fact?

Is it cheating, fucking your partner with your eyes closed, thinking about the hot girl at the check-out at Pak'n'Save?

What do you think?

Hitcher

19th June 2008, 19:56

What do you think?

It's all enough to do one's head in...

http://www.stuff.co.nz/thepress/4588678a6530.html

Edbear

19th June 2008, 20:20

Really really weird people, let me assure you :yes:

Just a thought - is it cheating banging your mistress without feeling neither guilt nor remorse, while your partner remains unaware of this fact?

And conversely - is it cheating if you feel really guilty masturbating to porn, while your partner remains unaware of this fact?

Is it cheating getting a hard-on watching another mans wife, while your partner remains unaware of this fact?

Is it cheating, fucking your partner with your eyes closed, thinking about the hot girl at the check-out at Pak'n'Save?

What do you think?

Yup!

It's all enough to do one's head in...

http://www.stuff.co.nz/thepress/4588678a6530.html

Don't you just love the English language...

Number One

19th June 2008, 20:37

Oww, orgy, did someone say orgy?.....:shutup::innocent:
MMMM you and me - my place now! I've been on the Ricadonna and hubby is out......come up and see my etchings honey :love:

Number One

19th June 2008, 20:40

Oh yeah and FTR to be ON topic - I've NEVER cheated and wouldn't hang around to be cheated on twice no matter what the circumstances of the relationship.

For me that is a total deal breaker...flirting ok but kissing, rooting and choosing to spend time with someone (of the opposite sex) outside of the relationship at the expense of spending time with your love to me is all cheating.

I have more respect for myself and my lover than that.

Str8 Jacket

19th June 2008, 20:40

MMMM you and me - my place now! I've been on the Ricadonna and hubby is out......come up and see my etchings honey :love:

Damn it. Malcolms gonna be home late tonight... :devil2:

skidMark

19th June 2008, 20:43

So your right hand left you :2guns:

It's still there, usually attending to your sister though.

Number One

19th June 2008, 20:50

Damn it. Malcolms gonna be home late tonight... :devil2:
mmmm THREESOME! What fun can we have with that cast of yours? :devil2:

Trudes

19th June 2008, 21:03

Oh my.......:yeah:

Number One

19th June 2008, 21:12

I'm sure it wouldn't be cheating if us three got together - infact speaking for Craig I'm sure he wouldn't mind so long as he could watch....

OMG I am sooo depraved...sorry girls I bin drinking *hick*

Mikkel

19th June 2008, 21:15

For me that is a total deal breaker...flirting ok but kissing, rooting and choosing to spend time with someone (of the opposite sex) outside of the relationship at the expense of spending time with your love to me is all cheating.

Just out of curiosity - what if it wasn't at the expense of time shared with your partner? Would that make it kosher?

Number One

19th June 2008, 21:24

Just out of curiosity - what if it wasn't at the expense of time shared with your partner? Would that make it kosher?
So he'd be choosing to spend time with another woman?

Not at the expense of time with me....mmm how'd that happen? We don't get a heap of time together anyway - so any time with another woman probably would be at the expense of time spent with me. Though I get your point you also know what I'm saying don't ya?

Trudes

19th June 2008, 21:34

So he'd be choosing to spend time with another woman?

Not at the expense of time with me....mmm how'd that happen? We don't get a heap of time together anyway - so any time with another woman probably would be at the expense of time spent with me. Though I get your point you also know what I'm saying don't ya?

Oh shit! I better make sure you're busy before I ask Sully to help me with my bucket then eh?!
Maybe I'll send my hubby around to help you as a swap!

Hitcher

19th June 2008, 21:48

I kissed a girl and I liked it
The taste of her cherry chapstick
I kissed a girl just to try it
I hope my boyfriend don't mind it
It felt so wrong
It felt so right
Don't mean I'm in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I liked it
I liked it

98tls

19th June 2008, 21:51

..........http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSHGT9bATdc

Number One

19th June 2008, 22:30

Oh shit! I better make sure you're busy before I ask Sully to help me with my bucket then eh?!
Maybe I'll send my hubby around to help you as a swap!
:lol: I'd prolly break the poor man!

BTW got me leave pass - Daddy is happy to hold the fort for a while...:love:

Sanx

20th June 2008, 01:10

:lol:
Is it cheating, fucking your partner with your eyes closed, thinking about the hot girl at the check-out at Pak'n'Save?

That's not cheating, it's pure fantasy. Everyone knows there's never been a hot girl at Pak'n'Save ever.

It's all enough to do one's head in...

http://www.stuff.co.nz/thepress/4588678a6530.html

From the above-referenced article:

"Men engaged in excessive use of pornography, extra-marital relationships and with compulsive sexual appetites and fetishes will be treated in groups of 12."

Groups of 12? They'd enjoy that! :lol:

Mikkel

20th June 2008, 01:32

Not at the expense of time with me....mmm how'd that happen? We don't get a heap of time together anyway - so any time with another woman probably would be at the expense of time spent with me. Though I get your point you also know what I'm saying don't ya?

I know what you are saying. What I was asking is whether you would be cool with your partner having something on the side - no matter whether it took time, affection and consideration towards you away or not.
Most people wouldn't be cool with it - and I don't think I would either.

That's not cheating, it's pure fantasy. Everyone knows there's never been a hot girl at Pak'n'Save ever.

Nor does it matter whether you close your eyes or not if you always have the lights off during sex anyway ;)

Trudes

20th June 2008, 06:59

:lol: I'd prolly break the poor man!

BTW got me leave pass - Daddy is happy to hold the fort for a while...:love:

haha, break Nige? Believe me, he's hardier than he looks (I should know!! :lol:)
Anyway, awesome, good man!:wari:

ManDownUnder

20th June 2008, 07:02

haha, break Nige? Believe me, he's hardier than he looks (I should know!! :lol:)
Anyway, awesome, good man!:wari:

(pssst - you're talking about 'him' right... not me...? You agreed - in public and all that...)

Trudes

20th June 2008, 07:04

(pssst - you're talking about 'him' right... not me...? You agreed - in public and all that...)

(yeah, it's ok I'm talking about the one I live with..... we both know you're a marshmallow, and I don't think anyone suspects a thing. xoxo)

ManDownUnder

20th June 2008, 07:06

.... we both know you're a marshmallow...

... it's ok - the viagra showed up!

Trudes

20th June 2008, 07:07

... it's ok - the viagra showed up!

(thank god) oh, I mean, wicked!!

ManDownUnder

20th June 2008, 07:16

(thank god) oh, I mean, wicked!!
Bloody annoying actually - I go all dizzy every time I stand up

Number One

20th June 2008, 08:21

I know what you are saying. What I was asking is whether you would be cool with your partner having something on the side - no matter whether it took time, affection and consideration towards you away or not.
Most people wouldn't be cool with it - and I don't think I would either.

Nor does it matter whether you close your eyes or not if you always have the lights off during sex anyway ;)
Something on the side? Umm...thought I'd been pretty clear about that - NO I would not be cool with it.