Where does your strength come from?

[Conquiztador]

At times life throws crap at you. Piles of it. But you just keep on going. And it is not as a result of you being stupid and not knowing when to quit. No, it is because you have that something that says: " Fuck you all, I will sort this". And you always do.

Where does your umph come from? If I could bottle it I would become millionare overnight...

Mine, it comes from somewhere inside. There is a "Never give up" thingy going on that does not allow me to say "fuck it, thats it, all I can do". It keeps me going. Where I come from there is a saying: " Lapi harmaan kiven" Translates to " Through grey rock"

Never give up never surrender.

[Spuds1234]

My strenght comes from my muscles.

But seriously I know exactly where your coming from.

Its weird though, the really hard stuff that I have to go though, I just get on with and get the job done etc, and look back at it and go "WOW!! fuck I did all that??!!!" and some easy things I pike out on at the first sign of trouble. I dont understand myself sometimes.

[xwhatsit]

DRUGS <tenchars>

[Conquiztador]

DRUGS <tenchars>

I get the impression you are being funny threre xerxesdaphat. But I have been there. Speed kept me going in another lifetime. And I have to be honest, if I had not had speed it would all have turned to crap.

[portokiwi]

Porn lots of porn.....:rolleyes: No realy mate the best advise i could give is talking it through.
There is allways someone you can talk to. i have in the past tryed to shrug it off. But that only built more up. My partner and I try to talk everything through. we might not agree but talking realy does help.
Remember this wise old new zealand saying (i use what ever country I am in)..... If you think you are in a bad spot look around you..... watch the news.... read the paper..... There is more people much worse of no matter what life throws at you tommorow is another day.
Be greatful for what you have.
SEX gets rid of a lot frustration.
If you dont have a partner have a toss lol.
it works.:rolleyes:

[Trouser]

Marmite. Not that vegemite crap but Marmite.

And Signature Range peanut butter. Chinese heavy metals for the win.

If I don't get a combination of those two essential vitamins in the morning I break down.

[James Deuce]

1. Don't listen to portokiwi's platitudes about "other people being worse off". That only makes you feel good if you're not already in a hole. That's just a typical, "Don't bother me if everything's not perfect" line that Kiwis are so good at putting out to desperate people.

2. Having the nouse to know who will help and who will pat you on the head and tell you to HTFU. You only know a couple of people who will do that, and they probably aren't family.

3. Not posting on KB about what a useless blithering sack of goat shit I am. That just gets you a kicking, loses you ePenis respect points and "cool" people will taunt you with it on KB rides.

4. All things pass. See? Aren't platitudes annoying?

[McJim]

I always work with the idea that if there's no way through there's probably a way round.

[portokiwi]

1. Don't listen to portokiwi's platitudes about "other people being worse off". That only makes you feel good if you're not already in a hole. That's just a typical, "Don't bother me if everything's not perfect" line that Kiwis are so good at putting out to desperate people.

2. Having the nouse to know who will help and who will pat you on the head and tell you to HTFU. You only know a couple of people who will do that, and they probably aren't family.

3. Not posting on KB about what a useless blithering sack of goat shit I am. That just gets you a kicking, loses you ePenis respect points and "cool" people will taunt you with it on KB rides.

4. All things pass. See? Aren't platitudes annoying?
Ohhh that hurt.... Now I am going to have to find someone who cares:2guns:

[James Deuce]

I'm sure you're harder than THAT. :)

[portokiwi]

Lowerhutt.... Nees hardwhere that was my very first job and where I got my very first bike from lower hutt. Shit that was a flash back. lol.

[Trudes]

The knowledge that in the end you ultimately have to answer to yourself, you have to do shit for yourself cause there's a good chance nobody else will (being anal helps there, if you want a job done properly, do it yourself attitude), and when you die it is you you have to thank for how your life has been, no one else, so you may as well make the best of it.:confused:

[McJim]

It's amazing the surge of strength you get when you bike your own willie

As told in Ivan The Terrible - the day the circus came to Glasgow.

[Motu]

I'm a wimp - I give up a lot.Like riding a motorcycle,the straight and easy path is not often the best way to get to your destination.I will often give up when I meet resistance and back off....take a fresh look at the obstacle and find an easier way around.I'm definitely not the banging my head against a brick wall type - know when to quit and maximise your loss.

I said ''Fuck it,that's all I can do'' last year - best decision of my life.

[98tls]

When life throws a bit of strife at me i generally just remind myself that compared to many many others in this world i have it so very easy.Very easy to forget how hard life is for some.

[Nagash]

Err, usually when life really throws shit at me I have one night where i'll drink like an absolute cunt, take a look at myself and how fucking pathetic you lookwhen you're drunk, and then I just feel I have to make a change to get out of this situation, and the next day (maybe the one after that if I can hardly walk) I start making action to get myself out of the hole i'm in.

It's worked everytime so far.. Worked last night beautifully actually.

[Steam]

I don't have much resilience, so I take Prozac. Works for me.

[Big Dave]

>>Where does your umph come from?<<

Tri umph.

[Joni]

My father. :love:

Since his passing I have changed sooo much… when he was alive if it got tough for me he would be right at my side… now that he has passed away its something deep in me, that I need to hold my head up high and make him proud. So even in death he carries me through.

[Oakie]

Mine doesn't come from anywhere. It's just there and it is awesome. There's no great motivation I use ... it's just a case of the emotions slipping into the background for a time (which happens automatically) and getting down and doing what needs to be done regardless of how bad or unpleasant the situation. I guess part of it is also just accepting responsibility for being the one to fix things be it at home, at work or even in totally random situations like at a road accident.

[scumdog]

I always work with the idea that if there's no way through there's probably a way round.

(1)Wot 'e sed - be creative..

(2)And a good partner and a bit of booze gets me throught the rough spots:msn-wink:

(And KB makes me realise I'm not the ultimate sorry-arsed loser I some times think I am when my plans have gone a tad pear-shaped........at which point (2) above comes into play)

[alanzs]

One of my favourite quotes in life, from the Iron Butt competition: "Never say die." Keep on, no matter what...

[firefighter]

Honestly, what the fu*k choice do ya have! For me it's gotta be the boys (no gay connotations needed thanks!) no matter what mood your in the boys on shift always seem to get ya in a good jovial mood.plus a good masty never goes amis.

[thehollowmen]

Antipsychotics and the hope that one day I might be healthy again.

[Headbanger]

The chip on my shoulder.

[CookMySock]

"Fuck you all, I will sort this". And you always do. [...] Where does your umph come from?You have answered your own question.

It's from correctly channeled anger. Misdirected anger results in someone else being held accountable for our failure, and then the idea of how we are victimised sets in, then we imobilize, then all we can see is "how it is everyone elses fault."

Correctly channeled anger says "thats the last fucken time that will happen" and then we change - not until.

And we try to change things about ourselves that we can actually change, not other people.

So get angry! Don't get even - it's not anyones fault but our own. Get ONTO IT.


DB

[Headbanger]

http://www.destinychurch.org.nz/images/Rotator/r7-autobio.jpg

[Number One]

:puke: I farken can't stand that guy

Where does my strength come from? Deep within and it is hard to grasp when I'm tired or being pulled in too many directions. But at the end of the day having a kid seems to do a lot for it, I used to be pretty apathetic and enjoyed being a slack arse (though I always had goals and a bit of a plan) now I catch my self regularly saying - well if you don't do it now you'll just have to do it later. Sometimes I want to climb under a quiet rock and sleep or just be totally and completely selfish switching off to all else except my own mind. Then I go for a ride :yes: ahhhhhhhhhh

[Headbanger]

:puke: I farken can't stand that guy



Thats no guy, Thats a Bishop.

[Number One]

Bishop my arse more like raving lunatic spouting bullshit. Infact he reminds me somewhat of the guys that starred with Pam Corkery the other night. Suitably vague and apparently 'altruistic'.

[jrandom]

Strength?

:confused:

I've never quite known what people mean by that in this context.

Personally, when faced with a decision, I just try to do whatever's more moral / less stupid / potentially profitable.

I suppose it helps not to agonise over decisions that aren't options, and be content to work with what life throws at you day to day.

I dunno about this 'be thankful for what you have' bullshit. What I have is what I have, and probably entirely the result of my own calls, for better or worse. If I didn't want more than what I have, I'd be abnormal, and should probably go get some testosterone replacement therapy.

But it's amazing how savouring life's simple pleasures can remind one that each moment we live and breathe is priceless.

[alanzs]

:puke: I farken can't stand that guy

+1
If they care so much, is the book free? Probably not. Do they want you to tithe 10% of your money? Probably yes.

Religion=slick packaging to get money from sheep.

Imagine if all the churches sold everything they had and bought food for the starving. Imagine that!

What do you want to be in life, a sheep, a sheep dog or a wolf?

Carry on.... :done:

[Headbanger]

Bishop my arse more like raving lunatic spouting bullshit. Infact he reminds me somewhat of the guys that starred with Pam Corkery the other night. Suitably vague and apparently 'altruistic'.

No, I said a Bishop, Not a Pope.......

[Macstar]

Never give up never surrender.

A classic line out of Rambo.

[glice]

I think mine comes from having a bit of short man syndrome. And who likes failing? Thats how giving up feels to me.

[Virago]

http://thephoenix.com/SoxBlog/content/binary/never_ever_give_up.JPG

[martybabe]

That's a daft but brilliant picture. It captures perfectly the only kind of strength I can guarantee to summon up, physically, no matter what the odds , I refuse to give up. A kind of cool hand Luke boxing match sty-lie. You can run me down and kill me but I'll still get up and bloody your nose. :bash:

Alas, emotional strength departed this fella many years ago and it don't look like it's coming back anytime soon.

If anyone does know how to revive a broken heart and mind , I'd love to hear it. :yes:

[98tls]

That's a daft but brilliant picture. It captures perfectly the only kind of strength I can guarantee to summon up, physically, no matter what the odds , I refuse to give up. A kind of cool hand Luke boxing match sty-lie. You can run me down and kill me but I'll still get up and bloody your nose. :bash:

Alas, emotional strength departed this fella many years ago and it don't look like it's coming back anytime soon.

If anyone does know how to revive a broken heart and mind , I'd love to hear it. :yes: Spend 1/2 an hour in ward 27 at CH-CH hospital.May help.

[FROSTY]

Plain and simple I refuse to loose.
If I want something I get it--No other option is available

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

Some people go thru more shit in life than others - that is my experience. Whether we want the shit or not we get - how you react and deal with it is the test. I wouldn't know what an easy life is. And it hasn't been a case of "all my problems are of my own making" - some have been yes - I take full responsibility for them. I gave up asking why many many years ago. Sometimes we will never know the reason, sometimes I have felt the lesson has just been one of utter cruelty. I do not wallow in self pity - and you know when you are in a pity party - I have never settled for mediocrity so yes I will get shit in life - I just wish there was some balance occasionally. A friend recently said to me "over the years I have seen you go thru hell and back many times over and you always bounce back" = why - god knows cos at times I haven't wanted to. How = inner strength = it doesn't come from outside = it comes from within = looking at yourself, changing your attitudes, beliefs, behaviour. I can only trust myself - those that have partners they trust, can talk to, who support them in every which way =- hell I don't know what that is like = never experienced it. In fact the ones that professed to love me and would "say" so - but no action ever took place were the ones that either wished me dead or wanted to kill me = the latter was a ex husband = just because I left him - they (2 of them) and my father shitted on me the most. These tests make you stronger - well hell I don't want to be any stronger - people are intimidated by it. I could write a book on the subject.

[BIHB@0610]

If anyone does know how to revive a broken heart and mind , I'd love to hear it. :yes:


Awww that sounds awful Martybabe! Think of it this way - if what happened has made you feel so bad, it must have been a pretty awful experience. But you've faced it, and come through, still functioning. If it happens again, you'll cope again, probably better than before. So love like you've never been hurt! :hug:

[Laava]

It's the hard stuff that makes you fully appreciate the good stuff.

[Conquiztador]

I'm a wimp - I give up a lot.Like riding a motorcycle,the straight and easy path is not often the best way to get to your destination.I will often give up when I meet resistance and back off....take a fresh look at the obstacle and find an easier way around.I'm definitely not the banging my head against a brick wall type - know when to quit and maximise your loss.

I said ''Fuck it,that's all I can do'' last year - best decision of my life.

That is also a sign of strength. To be able to give up when it is going nowhere. many times it is so much easier to hold on to something and carry on instead of facing the unknown. Ending a bad relationship would be something that would fit this. When I, after 16 years, gave up in the end I felt like a failure. But it was the best thing. And to do so I needed heaps of strenght. It was really scary actually. But from somewhere inside I got the umph to do it.

[Maki]

My strength comes from 98 octane.

[hellkat]

I dunno.
Its just in there somehow.

I seem to have 'stone-faced' heroes or icons that inspire me: Clint Eastwood types, strong-silent, who don't let the world see what is really bugging 'em - but get on and deal with it, kind of thing.

Plus, the occasional joint helps :2thumbsup - not all the time, just at times of extreeeeeeeeeeeeme stress to smiley me up a bit, cos I am normally a smiley type, and people around me know: if Jen's lost her smileyness, everything can all very quickly go a bit Pete Tong.:devil2:

[inlinefour]

It comes from not having the option to give up. Although Im looking to the day that the lights go out for good and I can get back onto a motorcycle again. :niceone: