Two-up or solo?

[rosie631]

How do people with partners who don't have their own bikes handle this? My partner has lost his license so when we go out on he has to go on the back of my bike. Whenever I take the bike out I ask him if he wants to come cos feel a bit mean going off on my own. But sometimes it would be nice just to ride solo. Not cos I don't want him around but just becos the ride is different. Should I just harden up and tell him I want to ride solo sometimes??

[cowboyz]

he lost his licence. I would be buggering off without him.

[Gman71]

Harden up. go ride.

And tell him to have dinner ready for you when you get back.:laugh:

[oldguy]

He lost his licence tuff, part of his punishment is watching you ride off with out him.

[Gubb]

Ride with him on one weekend, and leave him behind the next. He's supposed to be learning a lesson.

[Starky307]

I'm with the others that have already posted, make him learn his lesson, go ride and enjoy your freedom.
Maybe suggest that he sit in the garage and face the corner untill you get back and he can think about why he is in the position he is in now.

[Trudes]

If he wants to ride with you then when you get home he gets to clean your bike and oil the chain. :)

[rosie631]

Harden up. go ride.

And tell him to have dinner ready for you when you get back.:laugh:

LMAO. sounds good.

[kasper]

If he wants to ride with you then when you get home he gets to clean your bike and oil the chain. :)

Yep I agree it is a punishment, and if he wishes to have some pillion time he should earn it by doing chores he would not normally do. Getting to ride whilst being off is a reward.



-- kasper

[Mystic13]

How do people with partners who don't have their own bikes handle this? My partner has lost his license so when we go out on he has to go on the back of my bike. Whenever I take the bike out I ask him if he wants to come cos feel a bit mean going off on my own. But sometimes it would be nice just to ride solo. Not cos I don't want him around but just becos the ride is different. Should I just harden up and tell him I want to ride solo sometimes??

There comes a point in every relationship where you have to have "me" time.

Ask him to "phone a friend" if he wants to come along. This really isn't about him but about you. If the situation was reversed what would he do?

I have no hesitation in letting my partner know I want me on the bike time. I think it's important in a relationship to be able to do that.

I'm sure there are heaps of things he cn do around the house.

[Usarka]

If you want to ride solo you need to dress up in a skimpy princess Leia outfit......

[rosie631]

There comes a point in every relationship where you have to have "me" time.

Ask him to "phone a friend" if he wants to come along. This really isn't about him but about you. If the situation was reversed what would he do?

I have no hesitation in letting my partner know I want me on the bike time. I think it's important in a relationship to be able to do that.

I'm sure there are heaps of things he cn do around the house.

U r right. He would probably go on his own.

[madbikeboy]

Depends what he lost his licence for. If it was DIC, then I'd tell him to walk. If it was for speeding, I'd take him for the occasional ride.

But, here's the thing. Me time is about me getting my sanity so I can interact. Riding a bike is a personal thing, it's the ultimate personal time.

I don't think you're going to have to tell him to stay at home, once he reads what you've posted, he'll get the huff anyhow... :done:

[CookMySock]

If I were you, I would tell him how you are feeling since he lost his license, and how it is impacting you, as this is a real consequence for you..

Not meaning to judge him, but maybe this will add another reason for him to think first in the future.

Steve

[Swoop]

My partner has lost his license...
Has he checked down the back of the couch? All sorts of stuff gets lost down there.:whistle:

[Burtha]

I think you've got to have some ride time for yourself. Am sure he will understand, and if its been a while now, he's probably anticipating that it will be coming to this situation soon anyway.

Have a wee friendly chat but if he happens get the shytes, tell he can pull his head in (I'd probably never pillion him thereafter if it were me cos I get mean sometimes) and tell him think about why he lost his license in the first place.

Then you can always kiss and makeup :D

[rosie631]

If I were you, I would tell him how you are feeling since he lost his license, and how it is impacting you, as this is a real consequence for you..

Not meaning to judge him, but maybe this will add another reason for him to think first in the future.

Steve

That sounds like good advice. Thanks :)

[Lula]

Should I just harden up and tell him I want to ride solo sometimes??

Definately :yes:

[DingoZ]

Aye, I'm lucky really. My partner doesn't want to come along every single time I take the bike out. I can bugger off solo, she comes along when she feels like it.

Gotta have the ME time......

[Candle]

if you don't want him out come with you int he back just scare the hell outa him when hes on the back. That's what i did to my misis and now she only comes if i promise to behave

[Subike]

But, here's the thing. Me time is about me getting my sanity so I can interact. Riding a bike is a personal thing, it's the ultimate personal time. :


your on the money there, next best thing to being alone on a bike is a round of golf on xmass day

[rosie631]

Have been bitten in the arse by karma. Whingin on here about not enough solo riding time. Now my partner just dumped my arse. Can ride solo til the cows come home. Oh well, such is life. Feel free to laugh. I can see the irony.

[Blackshear]

Awww....
Best get out there and set yourself to trawl!
Go go go go!

[FJRider]

Solo riding isn't all its cracked up to be either... but at least you get to choose where you go/stop...

[my-bonaventure]

Have been bitten in the arse by karma. Whingin on here about not enough solo riding time. Now my partner just dumped my arse. Can ride solo til the cows come home. Oh well, such is life. Feel free to laugh. I can see the irony.


:violin: silly man ............ :scooter: ride on chicky ............. my man doesn't have a bike n he knows that my bike is ME time ....... had a great ride (by myself :-) ) today from Nelson to Havelock return ......... best relaxation and stress relief about is solo riding :rockon:

[Storm]

Sorry to hear that.
Well, thats his loss eh? Just enjoy riding the bike, there'll be plenty more blokes out there who will understand a bit better.


Oh, and one for the diehards-Partners come and go, but bikes are forever

[FJRider]

If you want to ride solo you need to dress up in a skimpy princess Leia outfit......

Is that before or AFTER the ride... ??? :innocent:

Is the skimpy outfit worn under/over or instead of, your riding gear... ???

[Tigadae]

id be catch you up baby... i pulled some chops out of the freezer you know where the potatoe peeler is...ill be back around 6 ... gee your a good cook..um you want me to get you any thing at the shop on my way home tonight sweatie ...

[Ecclesnz]

I hope the numpty gets to learn what he's missed out on.

Hope you can go for a good long ride and feel better soon.