Two-up or solo?

**rosie631** · 30th March 2009, 19:04

How do people with partners who don't have their own bikes handle this? My partner has lost his license so when we go out on he has to go on the back of my bike. Whenever I take the bike out I ask him if he wants to come cos feel a bit mean going off on my own. But sometimes it would be nice just to ride solo. Not cos I don't want him around but just becos the ride is different. Should I just harden up and tell him I want to ride solo sometimes??

**cowboyz** · 30th March 2009, 19:06

he lost his licence. I would be buggering off without him.

**Gman71** · 30th March 2009, 19:17

Harden up. go ride.

And tell him to have dinner ready for you when you get back.

**oldguy** · 30th March 2009, 19:17

He lost his licence tuff, part of his punishment is watching you ride off with out him.

**Gubb** · 30th March 2009, 19:18

Ride with him on one weekend, and leave him behind the next. He's supposed to be learning a lesson.

**Starky307** · 30th March 2009, 19:21

I'm with the others that have already posted, make him learn his lesson, go ride and enjoy your freedom.
Maybe suggest that he sit in the garage and face the corner untill you get back and he can think about why he is in the position he is in now.

**Trudes** · 30th March 2009, 19:24

If he wants to ride with you then when you get home he gets to clean your bike and oil the chain.

**rosie631** · 30th March 2009, 19:33

Originally Posted by Gman71

Harden up. go ride.

And tell him to have dinner ready for you when you get back.

LMAO. sounds good.

**kasper** · 30th March 2009, 20:55

Originally Posted by Trudes

If he wants to ride with you then when you get home he gets to clean your bike and oil the chain.

Yep I agree it is a punishment, and if he wishes to have some pillion time he should earn it by doing chores he would not normally do. Getting to ride whilst being off is a reward.

-- kasper

**Mystic13** · 31st March 2009, 07:46

Originally Posted by rosie631

How do people with partners who don't have their own bikes handle this? My partner has lost his license so when we go out on he has to go on the back of my bike. Whenever I take the bike out I ask him if he wants to come cos feel a bit mean going off on my own. But sometimes it would be nice just to ride solo. Not cos I don't want him around but just becos the ride is different. Should I just harden up and tell him I want to ride solo sometimes??

There comes a point in every relationship where you have to have "me" time.

Ask him to "phone a friend" if he wants to come along. This really isn't about him but about you. If the situation was reversed what would he do?

I have no hesitation in letting my partner know I want me on the bike time. I think it's important in a relationship to be able to do that.

I'm sure there are heaps of things he cn do around the house.

**Usarka** · 31st March 2009, 07:52

If you want to ride solo you need to dress up in a skimpy princess Leia outfit......

**rosie631** · 31st March 2009, 08:12

Originally Posted by Mystic13

There comes a point in every relationship where you have to have "me" time.

Ask him to "phone a friend" if he wants to come along. This really isn't about him but about you. If the situation was reversed what would he do?

I have no hesitation in letting my partner know I want me on the bike time. I think it's important in a relationship to be able to do that.

I'm sure there are heaps of things he cn do around the house.

U r right. He would probably go on his own.

**madbikeboy** · 31st March 2009, 08:20

Depends what he lost his licence for. If it was DIC, then I'd tell him to walk. If it was for speeding, I'd take him for the occasional ride.

But, here's the thing. Me time is about me getting my sanity so I can interact. Riding a bike is a personal thing, it's the ultimate personal time.

I don't think you're going to have to tell him to stay at home, once he reads what you've posted, he'll get the huff anyhow...

**CookMySock** · 31st March 2009, 08:31

If I were you, I would tell him how you are feeling since he lost his license, and how it is impacting you, as this is a real consequence for you..

Not meaning to judge him, but maybe this will add another reason for him to think first in the future.

Steve