How do I get the Mrs out riding?

**Nasty** · 3rd June 2009, 17:13

Originally Posted by Bend-it

This is what I need!

http://www.howcast.com/videos/185186...cycle-Part-001

Hmm would have thought this more appropriate

http://www.ipmc.cnrs.fr/~duprat/neur...ges/brain2.jpg

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 17:17

Originally Posted by Nasty

Hmm would have thought this more appropriate

http://www.ipmc.cnrs.fr/~duprat/neur...ges/brain2.jpg

nahh, who needs that?!?! Way over-rated...

**ManDownUnder** · 3rd June 2009, 17:25

Originally Posted by Bend-it

Yes, I think you've summarised my problem nicely...

BUT don't give me problems, give me solutions, woman!

My summary...
Have her meet the people, not the bikes. Get along to some KB things... some fun events, meet the reality of who rides.

Wait till baby is a shit load older. She's going to be tired man... very very very tired. Don't just give that some respect... give it ALL your respect. I honestly doubt you could overestimate how tired she will be over the next little while.

You want to get her into biking? Put her needs first over the next few years. Ahead of biking... and yes - YEARS. Don't give it up, but ask before bailing on a 4 hour excursion... especially if it's been a bad night last night, or the little one's sick or... she's just tired.

Last - grossly generalising, but be aware there's a general change that happens, especially to women, that they become a lot more risk averse when children arrive. It's part of the nurturing response... there's no way they'll put themsleves at risk.

Just the way it all works. Your can lead a horse to water... not that your wife is a horse...

**Bend-it** · 4th June 2009, 15:50

Sigh... all you people making too much sense... I need madness!!

Madness, I tell you!

**Danae** · 4th June 2009, 16:01

Take her for a really fast ride around some insane twisties.

**Bend-it** · 4th June 2009, 16:09

Originally Posted by Danae

Take her for a really fast ride around some insane twisties.

With the baby strapped on the tank like a tank bag!

*somebody call CYFS!!*

**Genestho** · 4th June 2009, 16:11

Originally Posted by Bend-it

been on the back of my bikes several times, maybe 10 times in the past 5 years, but I've always felt like she comes on the bike just because I'd like her to...

P.S. Ohhh, and we have a (as of 3 June 2009) 9-day old baby girl... Yayyy!!

Er, those two statements right there, are fairly indicative of your required answer. Flag it, and leave her be will you?

For the next however long she'll be breastfeeding around the clock...it takes a year for the body to go back to normal, and depending on bub, who knows how long before a full nights sleep comes back again.

OH! Congrats on the little dude (or dudette)!!!

**Danae** · 4th June 2009, 16:15

Originally Posted by Bend-it

With the baby strapped on the tank like a tank bag!

*somebody call CYFS!!*

Would bling you if I could!

**Bend-it** · 4th June 2009, 16:24

**Stirts** · 4th June 2009, 16:32

Originally Posted by Bend-it

Bet you got some dirty looks from the nurses doing that to bubs!

**Danae** · 4th June 2009, 16:33

See, bub will be perfectly fine!

**crazyhorse** · 4th June 2009, 16:41

Originally Posted by Bend-it

The Mrs is a risk-averse, play it safe, almost obsessively so kinda person, and I'm the opposite... She has her own gear and all, and been on the back of my bikes several times, maybe 10 times in the past 5 years, but I've always felt like she comes on the bike just because I'd like her to...

She's ridden a 50cc automatic scooter I had several lives ago, up and down our street, never exceeding 30kph, and thought that was fun but scary.

So ladies... How do I get her into riding? Just buy a learner friendly bike, and leave it in the garage with a pink ribbon around it? Kidnap her and leave her somewhere with only a bike to get home on?

Or is it a lost cause?

P.S. Ohhh, and we have a (as of 3 June 2009) 9-day old baby girl... Yayyy!!

Its not gonna happen mate - If she was keen to ride, and you no doubt have suggested it many times, then she would've jumped at it. Being on the back 10 times in 5 years is a pretty good indication that its not what she wants, and now you have a child (congrats!) even more so won't happen, her goal post has moved and she won't risk anything more than she has to for a while. But, hey, in about 5 years, try again.

**AllanB** · 4th June 2009, 17:02

Originally Posted by Bend-it

Sigh... all you people making too much sense... I need madness!!

Madness, I tell you!

OK go get yourself a super attractive 20 year old girlfriend and take her riding - your missus will soon be interested...........

Please note that the author takes no responsibility whatsoever for the results of any of his advice...