Accepting responsibility for your actions

**Mully** · 7th June 2009, 19:53

I think Frosty (I'm 28 BTW) that it depends on how you were raised.

Also, I left home at 16 (loooong story) and I've had to support myself and earn what I've got the hard way. I tend to look after my stuff for that reason.

Too many people (my age and younger) think the world/parents owe them a living.

**Hitcher** · 7th June 2009, 19:54

Originally Posted by T.G.W

Didn't your parents ever say "Oh what is the youth of today coming to!!?"

My parents would have said "What ARE the youth of today coming to?"

**Mom** · 7th June 2009, 19:56

Originally Posted by Hitcher

My parents would have said "What ARE the youth of today coming to?"

My mother (the only parent I have left) says that to me all the time

**Genestho** · 7th June 2009, 19:56

Originally Posted by Hitcher

My parents would have said "What ARE the youth of today coming to?"

5, 4, 3, 2, 1

I accept that, Mr H

**cowboyz** · 7th June 2009, 20:00

Originally Posted by T.G.W

our job as parents - is to give them the rest!

fuck that. let someone else do it.

**wbks** · 7th June 2009, 20:26

Originally Posted by Naki Rat

One problem would seem to be what any given individual regards as 'serious'.

Edit: One moment you are at Canterbury Uni (lat/long), the next you are in Middle Earth what gives?

Well I guess that would be what makes you either an Asshole, or one of those "Just boy's being boys" people. Not sure wtf your canturbury thing is about (never said I lived in canturbury), but I set my location as middle earth to go with the name the name someone gave me "because you're shorter than my sister!" - Frodo

**Ixion** · 7th June 2009, 21:06

Originally Posted by FROSTY

Hey could i have feedback from the younger generation on this question please?

What has happened to taking personal responsibility ?
Id like to hear from the under 30's here

I ain't no younger generation. About as far from it as can be. But I do know some. And I'd be happy to front up and say that personal responsibility is as alive and well in the "younger generation" (whatever that means) as it ever was in my own youff.

There's some in every generation that are a waste of space. But I'd say there's fewer in the current under 25s than in any previous time.

The more I see of those young people , the more impressed I am. They give me some optimism that there is a future for the human race. Indeed so much so that sometimes I even consider rejoining it.

Go along to the SMC Friday chiller. Meet the younger generation. I reckon you'll be impressed. If the dudes (and dudesses) there are the face of the future, I'd say it's in good hands.

Old people, now - I hate old people. Always complaining.

**scumdog** · 7th June 2009, 21:25

Originally Posted by MattRSK

I can't see where this thread is heading.

It's pretty easy to focus on the bad but seriously are you saying the generation of today is worse than any previous generation?

I dunno - but I for one constantly see/hear younger ones passing the buck in ways I never saw when I was young.

"Aw, it's THEIR bloody fault I'm getting this ticket for carrying passengers - they know I've only got a restricted licence so they shouldn't have got into my car" (true example)

**peasea** · 7th June 2009, 21:27

My two teenage daughters accept responsibility for their actions, it's been part of their life since day one. They can't understand a lot of their mates' behaviour at times, do not get into the boy/girl racer thing even though they grew up around cars/bikes/ performance and partying.

That's not to say they don't cut loose from time to time but they pick their moments and their company well.

Lord only knows where they get it from; consistent, loving parenting perhaps? It's not easy to keep youngsters on the right track these days but it IS possible. My two aren't perfect (mainly coz their dad isn't I suppose) however, I come from a large family and criticism of those two girls from open and frank family members is a rare thing indeed. I'm proud of that.

If you find any particular youngsters are dorks, have a look at their parents, you might find some similarities.

**idb** · 7th June 2009, 21:31

Young people frighten me.

**MattRSK** · 7th June 2009, 21:33

Originally Posted by scumdog

I dunno - but I for one constantly see/hear younger ones passing the buck in ways I never saw when I was young.

"Aw, it's THEIR bloody fault I'm getting this ticket for carrying passengers - they know I've only got a restricted licence so they shouldn't have got into my car" (true example)

Yeah well I guess in your work you see all the bad side of things!

**ManDownUnder** · 7th June 2009, 21:37

I wonder if the increase in Political Correctness has anything to do with the drop in personal responsibility?

Poor wee Timmy has expressing himself so he gets a nngry and threw stones at the cars. In days of old the local cop would have kicked Timmy in the arse there and then on the spot.

Today... step one, gather evidence... step 25 family group conference... step 39 have Timmy confirm how he feels about the victim impact statement.... etc

FFS... punishment needs to be associated with the crime. Weasel words are too effective these days. There's too much omeny to be saved (or earned) but pushing to find the slimmest of excuses to get off something when it's pretty obvious they're responsible for 99.5% of what happened.

The day I turned 16 Mum sat me down and made me the promise that if I ever ended up in prison - she would come and visit... my kids all know I'll be right there by there side at the cop shop if they do something illegal... simply because I'll be the one that drove them there.

Part of parenting is teaching right from wrong... and enforcing the consequences.

**Ixion** · 7th June 2009, 21:37

Originally Posted by idb

Young people frighten me.

Fair enough. Old people frighten me. I keep thinking "Shit, d'y' suppose that one day, in the far distant future, I might end up like that"

(in this context, "old people" = people over about 40.)