This scares the shit out of me

[Mom]

What am I to do? Your thoughts would be appreciated.

I have not read this thread past your first post. A couple of things that immediately spring to my mind are...

Just because your wifes driving gives you the shits does not mean she is a bad driver, she drives differently to you is all. She approaches some situations faster and avoids accidents, perhaps she has more confidence that you do, sees things quicker and judges distances better? Has she actually crashed the car?

Is your wife a lunatic, balls out, no limits kind of driver? Or is she a competent driver who wants to learn to ride a bike? Get her on a bike!

You should support her, encourage her to start riding. Make sure she learns the skills, ride slowly with her while she develops them. Make sure she has a really good, safe learners bike. Best thing you could ever do for your relationship, is to support her to start riding so she can join you on the road.

Only thing to be afraid of is she will show you up and be a better rider really

[Spuds1234]

Answer this Q. Which NZ currency note features Kate Shepherd?

And when you get past that basic q then ask why she's there.

You fake , so called men, piss me off. You presume the 'little' woman is just that.

Did any woman intercede when you were learning to ride, and asserting, 'Oh No! He might hurt himself!'?

Of course not, cos learning to ride a bike is guy stuff, Right?

But what will happen to you if 'she' goes out there and trashes herself and leaves you looking after the baby, and there's no other fuck in the frame?

But what happens when you go out there and do the same and leave her with the baby?

'Oh well, That's different. That was me doing man stuff.'

Get a grip, you lot. This is 2009. We have gotten past the concept of women being pregnant and bare-foot behind the stove.

Ergo. Women are now allowed to make as many mistakes as we boys do.....without the boys asserting they shouldn't on account of they're just girls.

Its the $10 note. Sir Ed is on the 5. Dont know the the 20, 50 is some maori guy, and the 100 eludes me to.

You really havnt read this thread properly have you? I dont want to stop her from riding, Im doing everything I can to get her into riding safely. All I posted is that I was concerned for her safety, a reason why, and that I would feel guilty as hell if someone took her out.

Never did I say I didnt want her to ride.

I have not read this thread past your first post. A couple of things that immediately spring to my mind are...

Just because your wifes driving gives you the shits does not mean she is a bad driver, she drives differently to you is all. She approaches some situations faster and avoids accidents, perhaps she has more confidence that you do, sees things quicker and judges distances better? Has she actually crashed the car?

Is your wife a lunatic, balls out, no limits kind of driver? Or is she a competent driver who wants to learn to ride a bike? Get her on a bike!

You should support her, encourage her to start riding. Make sure she learns the skills, ride slowly with her while she develops them. Make sure she has a really good, safe learners bike. Best thing you could ever do for your relationship, is to support her to start riding so she can join you on the road.

Only thing to be afraid of is she will show you up and be a better rider really

Yea she has had a few scrapes in her car this year already. She doesnt drive balls out, she just seems to miss things. I know this because of the look of shock on her face when she pulls out infront of things.

Im not afraid of her being a better rider than me, that would be wonderful if she was (means I wouldnt have to worry). I long ago learnt not to care what other people thought of how fast I go, how big my chicken strips are and how flashy my bike is etc. Motorcycling is all about yourself when you boil things down.

[kit]

Yep, let her loose in a paddock, great way to learn.....then find some other female riders, for her to go for a few rides with, as a few women riders I know always used to feel a bit intimadated with there partners riding behind them....especially when they were learning, you know when you have made a mistake, and had a bit of a scare, you don't need your partner reinforcing it.
Definately get her out for a trackday, thay are fantastic for confidence, gaining more skills and she will come off one of those with a fantastic smile you won't wipe off for days

[Sammy12]

If you tell her she cant have a bike, it'll make her want it even more.

Hint***: reverse psychology--
Let her have a bike.. see how she goes. After a while she may decide riding isnt for her!
Riding will make her more aware of the hazards, either way she'll be a better car driver by the end of it!

[scumdog]

"We're all dead in the long run, it's just how many laughs we get along the way that counts"

So is riding going to be one of HER laughs?

[Goblin]

Sorry guys I didnt want to make it seem like I didnt want her to get into riding. I know it came out a bit like that.

The point I was trying to make is that Im worried for her safety. While I had considered that she will have to get better, it is the "before she gets better" that scares me.

I wanted this thread to be more about me, not her. Im scared, not her. She couldnt be more happier and Im definitely not stopping her. Im helping her the best I can. Ive given her gear that fits (near enough that the padding wont twist around in an accident although she still needs to get a helmet), Im teaching the basics of riding off road first of easy bikes to ride. Im trying to remove all road blocks in her way.

This is MY hang up not hers. IM scared for HER. I dont want to pass that on to her incase it stops her doing what she wants to do.

I feel your pain. My daughter has recently got her first bike and had her first bin today. Luckily no other vehicle was involved. Nothing I can do to stop her learning the hard way but Im hoping that having a bike as her first means of transport will teach her to be more aware of everything around her.
It's bloody hard but I have to put my fears for her aside and leave her to it. I am lucky to have a Pete who's been riding for about 35 years so she is more inclined to listen to him, rather than mum who only nags. She even went straight to him rather than me after her wee bin today.

I think the trackdays are a great idea too.

[ajturbo]

harden the fuck up... if it is her choice... be a man and tell her

"GREAT my love!!!"

give her ALL YOUR SUPPORT...

or fuck off and find another one (girlfriend)... why the fuck should YOU stop ANYONE from doing something that THEY want to do???

why are YOU so speical?? that only you can ride a bike but not her?????????

[ajturbo]

sorry about that last post....

but i cannot stand it when one person is doing one thing and then thinks it not ok for someone else to do it....

[Spuds1234]

Just to make it clear. I dont want to stop her. Im helping her in everyway I can. We are going to look at a bike tomorrow morning hopefully.

I just dont want to see her hurt. That is my problem.

Im not going to stop her doing anything. This thread is all about my stupid feelings. She just happens to be the reason for them. I know that and Im not going to stop her from doing anything.

I would feel guilty if she got herself killed is all. Really what I wanted was advice on how to deal with this.

[Goblin]

Just to make it clear. I dont want to stop her. Im helping her in everyway I can. We are going to look at a bike tomorrow morning hopefully.

I just dont want to see her hurt. That is my problem.

Im not going to stop her doing anything. This thread is all about my stupid feelings. She just happens to be the reason for them. I know that and Im not going to stop her from doing anything.

I would feel guilty if she got herself killed is all. Really what I wanted was advice on how to deal with this.

Good onya. All you can do is face the fear and handle the jandal.

All the best with the bike shopping!

Personally, I'd be more worried about her becoming a member on here.

[Spuds1234]

Personally, I'd be more worried about her becoming a member on here.

To late. Shes really into this place.

[Goblin]

To late. Shes really into this place.

Oh man are you in deep shit!

[Dave-]

my 2c

she's a clever chick dude.

the motorcycling will sharpen her skills.

[Gareth123]

LOL now you know how Amy feels about me riding! The only difference is you aren't telling her how you feel about her riding. All I hear is "Why do you have to ride that thing? Don't you know they're death traps? I'm not going to cry at your funeral if you kill yourself! If you crash I'm gonna kill you! Be careful on that damn thing, it's the devil with a motorbike face! I hate that you ride that thing! I hate you when you ride that thing! I'm never going to get on one of those! HELL NO, I'm not going for a ride with you on THAT!"

Just keep your mouth shut, do the courses and have fun together!

Ps next time you see Amy, tell her to sell her psycho horse Briar Rose. It's the devil with a horse face! (Beware though, Amy will turn into the devil with a womans face when you do)

[DEATH_INC.]

A little something extra to think about, My other half rides too, but is really not keen on pillioning, why? She has a daughter, and is shit scared that if we have a major off it'll take us BOTH out, leaving the little one with nobody. A bike doesn't maneuver or stop as well with 2 people on it.
Think about it