Pros and Cons, and DOs and DON'Ts of marriage

**TOTO** · 2nd October 2009, 22:55

Hey all, I was in a thinking mood today and was curious to find out the pros and cons of a marriage in simple terms as well as DOs and DON'Ts, what makes it work and what doesn't etc...

I realize this is a deep can of worms, snakes, and probably dragons, so can you keep it simple if possible.

Nowhere near that stage myself and most of my friends are unmarried too so thats why I'm turning to you wise folk to educate us youngsters on "what to expect" so to speak.

Thread mood is set to "Hmmmmmm' mode so lets hear ya voice.

chur chur

**XRVrider** · 2nd October 2009, 23:13

Ha ha... you remind me of a good pal.

First up, learn "yes dear", you aint got to agree, just learn the fucking words.

Secondly, dont do everything for em, dont get all cunt struck, and fawn all over em. They say they love it at the time, but you aint getting any respect in the long run. On the other hand, you better do more for em than you do for yourself or you are fucked.

Thirdly, it can really be nice, a good partnership, and special friend for (hopefully) life is amazing, there's nothing like true love. I seen it in movies.

Hope that helps for when you either get a girl up the duff, or get "all cunt struck" or really meet the right chick.

Chur

**NewRob** · 2nd October 2009, 23:27

Hey mate, it's just a simple give and take...you give and they take, hahaha...Enjoy life as you go thru the process together learning each others ways and how/just to deal with it.

**The Stranger:Me** · 2nd October 2009, 23:31

Originally Posted by TOTO

as well as DOs and DON'Ts

I can help you with that.

Don't fucken do it.

**TOTO** · 2nd October 2009, 23:33

Ok , some real constructive feedback here, I think we are on the right track

**XRVrider** · 3rd October 2009, 00:03

Alright, perhaps the image of marriage is a wee bit lacking so far. Whats your situation, you got a girlfriend? if so how long have you been together? and why you asking about marriage?

DOs : The dishes
DONTs: The dish who live 2 houses over

Shit my parents are up to nearly 50 years. Must be good if its been that long. Or you get too old to pull new birds. Anyway, either way, who is up the duff?

**muzz** · 3rd October 2009, 00:07

The way you start is the way they expect you to continue, so tell them:
I can cook, do dishes, vacuum, do laundry, mow the lawns, wash and service the bikes, pay a hooker or have a wank.
what do I need you for, so just remember that you are here because I want you to be.
Then the trick is to get them to do all those things so you can go for a ride

**sosman** · 3rd October 2009, 01:29

Have one & find out!

**CookMySock** · 3rd October 2009, 04:55

Imagine ten years into the future and visualise where you will be at with your personal relationship with her. Write it down carefully on a piece of paper and look at it for a while, and then close your fist around the ballpoint pen and write firmly and boldly below it all "It's not going to fucking happen."

Basically, what you think you are going to get from it is complete bullshit. It's a fucking fantasy. Your fantasy. So forget it.

Once you get this one idea out of your head, you will be fine.

It helps to debunk a few other ideas you make have in your head too - like no person ever has to do anything your way, you can never make any person understand anything, to understand someone you have to throw away your preconcieved ideas. Just general crap like that.

Lol good luck.

Steve

**SixPackBack** · 3rd October 2009, 07:40

Married 21 years!.............Make sure she can cook and root, earn enough money to keep her plied with clothes and shoes.
I'm serious.

**Fatt Max** · 3rd October 2009, 07:46

Twice the fun and half the money

Mind you, they do say that marriage is the quickest way to stop your girlfriend from giving you a blowjob

Seriously though, I look at life with Mrs and Mini Max and cant imagine it without them. As long as you look past life's bullshit, dont sweat the small stuff and always have a laugh every day, it's all good. We can all take the piss about 'er indoors but that is part of the fun I suppose. Would'nt change it for the world.

Tis funny though, we have so many friends around us that have either split up or are on the verge of doing so. When you drill down into the reasons, it is usually something small that was left to fester and grow. If they had pulled their heads in, gave bollocks to any sort of pseudo pride and just got it sorted , they would still be ok. It saddens me to see people who were so good together now ripping lumps out of each other (and none of these relationships involved 'another' person), I just wish they could have sat down at the first signs of trouble and straightened it out. Appreciated that we really dont know what goes on in people's lives but sometimes I canny understand the reasons.

My $0.02 in what I am sure will be a fascinating and enlightening thread

Oh, and the worst thing about bigamy is 2 mother-in-laws....beware yous fellas

**TOTO** · 3rd October 2009, 07:51

Originally Posted by SixPackBack

Married 21 years!.............Make sure she can cook and root, earn enough money to keep her plied with clothes and shoes.
I'm serious.

that does make perfect sense.

**The Stranger:Me** · 3rd October 2009, 07:55

Originally Posted by TOTO

Ok , some real constructive feedback here, I think we are on the right track

Tell you what, answer me this, why would/should you get married?

Originally Posted by DangerousBastard

Imagine ten years into the future and visualise where you will be at with your personal relationship with her. Write it down carefully on a piece of paper and look at it for a while, and then close your fist around the ballpoint pen and write firmly and boldly below it all "It's not going to fucking happen."

Basically, what you think you are going to get from it is complete bullshit. It's a fucking fantasy. Your fantasy. So forget it.

Once you get this one idea out of your head, you will be fine.

It helps to debunk a few other ideas you make have in your head too - like no person ever has to do anything your way, you can never make any person understand anything, to understand someone you have to throw away your preconcieved ideas. Just general crap like that.

Lol good luck.

Steve

Well Steve, you do have rare moments of crystal lucidity, and that's one of them.

**geoffm** · 3rd October 2009, 08:47

"If it flies, floats or fucks, it is cheaper to rent than buy"

**klingon** · 3rd October 2009, 09:04

My single piece of advice:

Make sure you can stand up on your own before you decide to lean on someone else.

Never marry someone (or enter a relationship) because you think you need them or they need you. You will end up finding your own independence and not needing them any more.

Only get married when you are perfectly capable of standing on your own two feet (and so is she) but you want to be together. Then stand side by side, as strong, independent adults, and continue to be together because you want to be together, and because you love each other.