Advice please?

**White trash** · 7th September 2005, 09:16

Originally Posted by Keystone19

I don't think either option is good. I like boys too much and as for the second one, umm, perhaps you could just take me?

Don't know how Mr K will feel about that, if he reckons riding by yourself is dangerous, he'll shit bricks when he sees my track record.

Riff Raff seemed to enjoy her skid around Taupo on the SV though.

**Lou Girardin** · 7th September 2005, 11:49

If my wif said she wanted a bike I wouldn't like it, but I wouldn't stop her. (as if I could)
It'd have to be a Superduke though.

**crazy_lady** · 8th September 2005, 15:10

I am very lucky as the love of my life is as crazy about motorbikes as I am!! We both ride our own bikes and are happy as can be. Last year my heart sunk when I got the call he had been in a motorbike accident and as soon as I could I was by his side checking he was ok. Even after the shock of the thought of how easy it could have been to loose him that day I would never stop or even try to stop him riding again. I love him unconditionally with all of his likes and dislikes, that’s what makes him the person he is! He loves riding, how could I possibly think I have the right to take that away from him. We will always worry about our partners on the road, with the crazy's out there. But we can't spend the rest of our lives wondering what if, or we would all be very boring, non riding, sad people. Hope all goes well for you.

**bugjuice** · 8th September 2005, 15:32

Originally Posted by ManDownUnder

hoo boy... wait till BJ get's hold of THAT one

i kinda switched off this one.. besides, I can't perv everything I touch.. I'm trying to have a good side

**crashe** · 8th September 2005, 15:36

Originally Posted by bugjuice

I'm trying to have a good side

What your front or backside???????????

**bugjuice** · 8th September 2005, 15:38

Originally Posted by crashe

What your front or backside???????????

don't tempt me woman..

**Postie** · 8th September 2005, 15:40

Originally Posted by crashe

What your front or backside???????????

you tell us Crashe, or did you not get enough time riding BJ the other night to tell???

**crashe** · 8th September 2005, 15:42

Originally Posted by Postie

you tell us Crashe, or did you not get enough time riding BJ the other night to tell???

Nah he only lasted one second....

**Postie** · 8th September 2005, 16:11

Originally Posted by crashe

Nah he only lasted one second....

whoa, from what i hear, thats a new record......

WELLL DONE BUGGY :hbd: :hbd: :hbd: :hbd: :hbd: :hbd: :hbd: :hbd:

**bugjuice** · 8th September 2005, 16:13

see, I only mention two posts, neither perv related, and look what happens..
I'm a walking perv-zone

**thehollowmen** · 8th September 2005, 16:30

Originally Posted by bugjuice

see, I only mention two posts, neither perv related, and look what happens..
I'm a walking perv-zone

damn right.. and that's why I'm stalking you

**ManDownUnder** · 8th September 2005, 16:31

Originally Posted by bugjuice

see, I only mention two posts, neither perv related, and look what happens..
I'm a walking perv-zone

Ha - least they don't call me that...

...to my face...

...very often...

**Wolf** · 8th September 2005, 16:37

Originally Posted by Keystone19

Dear Mr K informed me last night that he doesn't want me riding a bike. It's too dangerous, I will get killed and I should be more responsible.

Any of you people out there have trouble with partners with ideas like these?

Is there a good way to approach this?

I don't want to give up riding...

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

If you love riding, all I can suggest is that you, with respect and politeness, inform Mr K that it is part of who you are and that you are "being responsible". Emphasise that you understand his concerns and that each day you take the responsibility of being as careful as is humanly possible and that you are taking every step you can to ensure you learn the safest way to ride.

I have two children and one more on the way. I would never want to deprive them of a father figure whilst they were growing, so each day I ensure I do everything I can to ensure I negotiate the traffic safely and return home to them alive - and that's not just when I'm riding a motorbike, that's while driving a car or walking to work. We live in a dangerous world of our own making, and all we can do is take responsibility for our own actions and our own lives. We most of us have families and loved ones who rely on us - but that does not mean we must wrap ourselves in cotton wool - it merely means we must take care to return to them.

I would argue from my own experience that motorcycles are a lot safer than cars (having avoided a lot of accidents by being narrower than a car or having superior acceleration) and you learn to be a more observant road user on a bike (further avoiding accidents). Talk to him from your own experiences and feelings and let him see that what he asks would be the same as you telling him he's not allowed to drive/walk/take the bus because he might be killed.

Contrary to popular belief, cars are not safer than motorcycles. Whilst you have more protection around you in a car, that protection can become a trap and a motorcycle may avoid an accident that a car could not avoid. They both have inherent risks, they both have strong and wek points and they can both kill you if anything turns to custard. The only option is for you to make sure it doesn't turn to custard - and from this thread, it would seem you're doing everything you can to improve your chances.