Paul in NZ catch up

[BMWST?]

I cant imagine what you are going through but I reiterate what the fellow above said

[Laava]

Kia kaha Paul, I watched your videos and I have to say Vickis a lucky girl to have you.

[SPman]

What a hell of a time you've both been through. I thought 2 yrs as a carer was bad enough .... you do what you do because it's what you do, regardless, even when it's not how you'd imagine you'd spend your later years.
A friend of ours' ( I still include Marion, even though she's been gone 18 months) husband developed something similar 6 yrs ago. She set up a dementia social group for people in similar situations all around Perth - they have meetings in cafes all around Perth and mutually support each other. Called Forget- Me-Not. Angie's husband died last year but the group has grown into quite a large organisation - there was definitely a need for it and it's helped a lot of people.
It's a hard and disheartening road, but, as I was told - " life's just not fair, and that's how it is." You're doing great, Paul.

[Paul in NZ]

Just an update for any of you who met Vicki.

This morning I placed my amazing wife in care and walking away was about the hardest thing ever. The house seems awfully quiet and empty tonight.

I am 100% sure Ive done the right thing by her but it doesnt lessen the pain.

More later once she is settled

Thank you all for your kind words and support on this journey.

[Laava]

My thoughts are with you mate, that is tough as you say. I have no notion of how hard that must be for you. All the best…

[BMWST?]

You can recuperate a little yourself now Paul. I hope the care home is close by. When my mum when into care it was a blessing that it was close by. Look after yourself and visit often.

[jellywrestler]

I am 100% sure Ive done the right thing by her but it doesnt lessen the pain.

More later once she is settled

Thank you all for your kind words and support on this journey.

You can stand tall on this, your dedication and love for Vicki is unbreakable, Time will see you adapt to the quiet somewhat. Take care

[F5 Dave]

Hang in there Paul. It is life's final cruel joke on us perhaps.

[Stylo]

Take it easy Paul. It's never easy mate.

My wife, my sweety, Helen of !9 years and 9 months was fit and healthy. She was a runner, a swimmer, a mother, a Mathematician and a School Principal.

Also my best mate. We were joined at the hip. She fell ill late August last year. No idea what was wrong.

Into Hospital for some checks. She died 12 days later. She was given 5 days to live on day 9. She managed 3.

I still don't know quite what to do now and you may not either.

One day at a time mate , look after yourself. Life is shit sometimes.